Why don't military marriages last, and/or are riddled with infidelity?

jim

Well, most of my friends in the Fighter or SpecOps worlds are either on their second/third marriage, or just stayed single.
I think part of the problem, at least for enlisted troops is the totally unfair additional moneys paid to married troops. Some very young/naive folks see this as a way to get out of the dorms, and get more cash.
Also, the youth (hey the AVERAGE age of military personnel is 27), combined with the stresses of military life lead to dissolved marriages.
Before folks start getting excited, my parents were married 50 years, and my father was an enlisted aircrew member. Yes, it can be done, but it's not the statistical likelihood.

kl55000

My dad has been in the navy for 17 years and often at sea and my parents marriages is still lasting even though my mom had to raise 2 children with her husband away more than 6 months a year. And I don't think there has ever been infidelity.

It is not because it is a military marriage that there will be infidelity or that it won't last. It can and happens to every kind of marriage.

Miss D

The majority of ALL marriages in the United States don't last, so the military marriage failures are just a reflection of the rest of society. As for the infidelity, I would say that probably has a lot to do with military families being separated for long periods of time, which can obviously be difficult to deal with at times. However, I know military marriages that have worked out, it just depends on how much work you're willing to put into it, I guess.

Dulce

not all fail. My mom and dad were and maintain their fidelity. It is the high level of temptation and the lack of will power and consideration for the thoughts and feelings of ones spouse that does you in.

p_l_gray

Wrong....

I'm a military officer and have been married to the same woman for 20 years. Neither of us have been unfaithful.

Try asking a question that doesn't generalize people into asinine stereotypical models.

I don't think the problem is restricted to the military.... Statistically, 51% of marriages fail.....

So much for THAT institution, huh?

fredonia

She was just a dirtbag and your friend had poor judgement.

That's not restricted to the military community.

FOA

many last 21 years in April.
there are sickos all over the world in every walk of life.The only military infidelity I knew of was a girl whose husband beat her up. He got home to find divorce papers waiting instead of a wife and children.
I don't blame her.

Matt

Traditionally, young marriages don't last, especially with long separations. Military life is hard. This shouldn't be something you revel in, but as a neocon chickenhawk hater I expect this from you. Disgusting question.

sofmatty

well, time away, untrustworthy spouses, untrustworthy friends, lack of morals, all contribute to infidelity, as far as the military goes, id say its a little harder on them, i lost two wives while serving, not my fault, i was never home. And jody boy is out there, ready to feed on your girl when they know that you are gone.

River Girl

Poor people are separated for months at a time. Must be difficult.

support our troops

Divorce is not just common in the military,its every where.Close to 50% of marriages end in divorce.About infidelity please there are unfaithful men and women everywhere not just in the military.I know plenty of faithful military wives!!!

shopaholicnessa

Cheating can occur everywhere, besides I've heard about many successful military marriages.

Wolfpacker

Infidelity is about the same as a marriage where one of the partners travel for extended periods of time. Absence does not always make the heart grow fonder - it often makes for unfaithfulness. Sad but true - loneliness can make people do horrible things like cheat.

USMC WIFE

I know this is a common perception, and part of it is true. What I've found, though... is that it's the couple that got married before one joined the military that has the most problem (or a POG that decided to be a GRUNT and the wife is use to her man being home every night). Not everyone is cut out to be a military wife, it just happes that some dont find that out until much later, after they've already said "I do".

james w

I doubt very much thoughtful served a day IN the military, I also doubt you had an offer and if you had one you would jump so quick it would amaze people, no you are one screwed up ;rick, in fact you are probable a damned Muslim
who is like another Hanoi Jane or tokyo rose,

Maksim378

koz dude is always away

cuz the guy is away in the war and the wife is alone with children

Michael E

Military wives tend to be attracted to the uniform. The one they married may be away, but there are still plenty of uniforms on base...

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