ADOPTION OR ABORTION. PLEASE HELP!!!!?

`mybabyboysDEC25

I think it sounds like a fantastic option. Good luck to your cousin!

sh!has

Adoption is the good and logical option here.

Hats off to the girl for not going for the abortion.

Who Me

Absolutely. Abortion should not even be a choice. I don't understand why people even have to take the time to ask this type of question. Think about what you're saying for a minute. Putting it in simpler English it would sound like this....

"Should she give birth to the child that is living inside of her and allow that innocent little baby to grow up in a loving home or should she murder that innocent little baby and not let it ever see the light of day?"

TerraMere

If keeping the child is not an option than the best route is adoption. She should select a couple who is looking for an open adoption. Abortion is not a good choice especially at this late date. The baby in all likelihood would survive if born now. My son is adopted. He is sweet fun loving, compassionate, happy little boy. The world would not be better off without him nor would his first mom. We still keep in touch and she is glad he is safe and happy.

Misty suspend for da 16th time

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march2283

I think letting the child be raised by someone that she knows and possibly be involved in the child's life is a wonderful idea. giving the child up for adoption may not be best because she does not know what kind of situation the child will end up in as if she choses one..

having an abortion is horrible.. most women never get over it.

inlovewithRAM

she better give her baby to someone who can give the child a better life.. never opt for abortion! give your baby a chance to live.. he/she deserves to be loved.. i myself adopted a baby boy at aged 19. he's 4 yrs old now and he's such a bundle of joy.. he's my only source of happiness

7rin

Trust me, she does NOT want to abandon her child, not only will it scar her for life, but it'll also scar the kid for life too - trust me, I know, I've lived it.

7mths is beyond the point where I'd give my standard "abort if you don't want it" answer, and so instead I recommend that you and your cousin take a nose through some of the books and links listed at http://7rin-on-adoption.dreamwidth.org/tag/recommended+reading,supporting+the+birth+bond as not only will she be more informed about adoption and all that it entails, but she might also find somewhere she can get help on the supporting+the+birth+bond part.

Member Jane

At 7 months pregnant it is extremely unlikely she could even attain an abortion, either legally or just to find a doctor willing to do it. She would be best with adoption at this point. She's not prepared to be a parent, so she should give the child to someone who is.

Shanda

I would suggest going to some counseling before making a decision to put up a child for adoption, they can help her sort out some of her feelings and make a decision based on what's best for her and the child.

If she does decide adoption is what she wants to do there are couples who fully believe in open adoption, you just have to make sure you get to them well enough to trust them. My husband and I are waiting to adopt an infant and although many will tell you that all adoptive parents want is to lure you in with "open adoption" and than you will never hear from them again - but this is not always the case. I have family who have done "open adoptions" and it has worked out great for all involved. For people to believe that you can carry a child for 9 months and than just hand it over never again to know anything more about it is crazy to me.

Here is a few stories from birth mothers.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KGCxBmoAIAE
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wQ4pxzeLuTY
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4IdPtGZ-3oM&feature=related

BabyWishes

She is too far along to have an abortion. An adoption is an EXCELLENT decision! As someone who is infertile, and would give anything to be a mother, I know that I would be indebted forever to someone like your cousin who would be willing to give their child up so they could have a good life in a loving home with two parents. Adoption is a beautiful thing. It has saved many children from difficult lives and has saved many birth mothers from losing out on other opportunities (like an education, a good job, the stress of not being financially or emotionally ready to care for a child, etc.).

It's up to your cousin, of course, but there are a lot of great adoption counselors out there...personally, I feel https://www.itsaboutlove.org/ial/ct/eng/site/pregnant/ is the best website for her to check out. There are so many birth parents waiting for a child to love!

Best of luck to her and God bless!

HomelessJudge

Sure. Make sure that you know that the people your child will live under is trustworthy though. Make sure they don't drink either since people tend to do stupid things when they drink. Personally, I think that a child who will live in a happy home anyway should be given the chance to live. People don't always need the biological parents to be happy as long as they have love. You guys better find good parents quick before you might have to abort the baby (you won't know who the baby will go to after it goes up for adoption).

l00k_up

There are thousands of good homes waiting for a baby. She can even have a say in which parents get the baby, and opt for an open adoption where she would get to keep in touch with the child. I know people who have done this, and it has been a great setup.

AdoreHim

Adoption is the best choice. Does she realize that at 7 months, her baby could survive outside the womb, is he/she was born now? And even if her baby was only 7 weeks, that child still would have been alive. His/her heart beats at 3 weeks after conception, before most women know that they are pregnant. It is not only the best choice, if she is not going to parent, it is the only decision that she should be considreing.

Mayer S

Sounds like you're just in time for an abortion.

If the wire hanger method doesn't suit your taste, you can always wait until the baby is born, turn your back to the crowd and give it a good toss. Whoever catches the baby is the one who's going to get married next!

Holiday Honey

7 months is too late. The baby is already formed. However, speaking from a women who is unable to have her own child (Lord knows we have tried everything but 4 miscarriages later here I am). I would highly suggest for her to give her baby up for adoption. That is the most wonderful and selfless thing she is able to do for that baby. She will be able to give her baby to a couple who truly deserves that little miracle inside of her. Besides it is not the fault of the innocent baby what has happened between the mom and dad. Best of luck to your cousin.

Kathleen

At 7 months pregnant, it's far too late for your cousin to have an abortion. It's not a matter of whether or not she's ready for one. She's like 4 months too late.

This isn't a subject that should be discussed here. It's a highly personal decision that only she can make with the help of perhaps an objective social worker.

That being said, there are so many childless couples who have been waiting years to adopt a baby.

smellyfoot â„¢

7 months pregnant? It's a little late for an abortion. If she isn't willing or able to raise the child on her own, then she needs to put it up for adoption. She also needs to get on birth control as soon as the baby is born.

Louise

It's illegal to get an abortion at 7 months, so it's too late for that option.

It's upto her if she wants to give her baby up for adoption, she'll have to think about her options, if she truly wants to keep the baby then there is help for her out there.

piggle

She can't have an abortion at 7 months anyway! Babies have survived much earlier than that when they have been born premature and aborting a baby at 7 months would be illegal and immoral (even if you could get someone to do it). Adoption seems the only option here, If she is so irresponsible she doesn't even know who's baby it is then she isn't mature enough to be a mother anyway in my opinion so let someone who will be able to look after the baby have it.

maybebree

Your cousin has two options as of right now:

a) Keep the baby
b) Give the baby up for adoption

Either way, she needs your support. If she chooses to parent the baby as a single mom she will be facing a great deal of issues. She will also face sadness and loss if she does adopt the baby out even if she feels that it's the best decision.
She should try to find a counselor or someone who can assist in guiding her through her decisions but not someone interested in making them for her.

DevonChaos

She should keep the baby. Find an assistance program and get a job and raise the baby herself. Get dna tests for the guys she's been with, and get support.

cherelle

if she is 7 months pregnant she will not be able to get an abortion it is far too late

cricketlady

Adoption is the best answer. She done more than "flirting around too much" though.

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