Abortion vs Adoption?

CiCi

ADOPTION

just for the fact that i dont believe in killing a child....but at the same time it is your life and your body...so its your choice.

jm1970

Adoption, Id' never consider abortion.

I'm blessed with family and friends where I'd never be in that situation, I'd always have support, and that is a blessing.

lil

personally i would keep the child and i would have to say adoption there is nothing wrong with giving the child a chance to live or to give an opportunity to does who can not have a child of their own. I also believe that no matter what decision you take and i mean adoption or abortion you will regret it sooner or later so i would say keep your child god knows why he is sending you a child and he does things for a reason

tish_part deux

*yawn*

slcrisp38

I would find a way.
Simply that. I don't believe in Abortion and i never will, if a girl goes off and gets herself pregnant, she should keep the baby. Not destroy it. It's her misjudgment and i admit people make mistakes but taking an others life in place of your mistake is wrong.
But anyway, I would find a way to raise my child. And if it did come to adoption I would make sure she/he goes to someone I know.

Siobhan

id go with adoption

cronik

if you abort it ul go hell so just keep it and raise it the goerment will help
or give it up 4 adoption when you have it if u cant cope

Baxter

I'm sick of the "apples to oranges" argument, that is a cop out. People don't get abortions because they are worried about nine months of pregnancy, they get them because they're worried about a lifetime of having a kid, and do not have the selflessness to carry a baby to term that they themselves won't get to raise.

Many people, esp. on this forum would rather abort their child than give him a shot at life with another family that actually wants him. How kind of them to make that decision on behalf of their baby, right? They assume that their child would rather not exist than be raised by another family, which is OBVIOUSLY not true. A baby wants a shot at life, regardless of where or with whom.

When it comes down to it, abortion is a selfish decision, unless it is really medically justified. I'm fine with ppl choosing abortion, just admit that you did it for your own personal concerns, as petty or important as they may be.

Reasoning: Anything other than giving an unborn child (fetus depending on your POV) life is obviously not in the best interest of that child. An unborn baby (again, fetus depending on POV) will not say "Spare me adoption abandonment issues, abort me," or "Since you will not be raising me, I'd rather be aborted." An unborn baby would say "Give me a fighting shot at life, adopt me out."

ETA: No, it is not your responsibility to provide infertile couples with children. HOWEVER, it is your responsibility to give the baby (fetus depending on POV) a shot at life, unless you put your needs above the baby's. If you do that, fine. Just PLZ don't use the apples to oranges argument or the not responsible to provide babies argument. They're BS.
ETA: Texas mommy that example must have gone over your head. It's ok. It's kinda like a metaphor, get it? Like would you rather your kid be dead or alive but with other parents. Get it?

Tonia

Keep the child while in the position of not being able to raise - I'd find a way. Somehow.

Pip

Neither as in the UK there is financial help if I was on a low income, I would automatically get Child Benefit once the baby once born as all mothers get that regardless of their finances. I would also get support from friends and family. Most importantly I know what it is like not to raise a child because of adoption which is a life time sentence and I would never consider abortion.

Anha S

Neither. I would parent my baby. Where theres a will theres a way.

maybe

Neither....get it together and keep the baby, as nature intended.

kidmindi

I once found myself in a similar situation and ya know what I did? I went to my mother and asked to stay with her for the pregnancy (I have pregnancies that require bedrest for most of the 9 months)

After my baby was born, I got help from social services and I got a job (social services paid for daycare). I worked my @$$ off, came home exhausted and took care of my 3 kids (2 from my 1st marriage and the surprise baby)

I kept this up until a year later I got married. Then my husband and I worked to raise our family

For me adoption and abortion was never options

parenting is an option II

I'd live in my dad's 100 year old house with no running water and keep and raise my kids. Or I would put up my 12 person tent on my grandfather's land and live their and use 1/4 of the acre to grow my food. Or I'd go ask my brother in law if I could stay in 6 bedroom 6 bath house (He's a doctor) and ask him for a job.

Or I would go to Louisiana California, North Caroline, New Jersey New Mexico Texas and stay with extended family that I never meant. Believe me the type of family I come from will open their doors to you if you were a stranger or family. So I guess No Matter what I would always be in a position to parent because of my family. All I have to do is make one phone call, just like my children will have it the same way as me. Pick up the phone and They'll always have a place to come home too.

Jack Putter

I'd decide first if I wanted to be pregnant or not. If I decided to stay pregnant, then I'd get myself ready to parent.

You can't give a fetus up for adoption, so the adoption vs. abortion debate doesn't exist. If you don't want to be pregnant, you have an abortion. If you're at the point of deciding whether to give your child up for adoption, you're way past being able to decide to have an abortion - you can't legally give a child up until AFTER birth. At that point in time, the debate is adoption or PARENTING.

Alyssas Mommy

Abort.

why have the baby. give it away and let it live a miserable life FOREVER.. living for the rest of his or her life knowing that his mother wanted nothing to do with him or her. so she gave it away.

JennaBear

um, I'd realize that abortion and adoption are not related.

First I'd decide whether I was going to terminate my pregnancy or carry to term. If I decide not to carry it to term then I would obviously go with an abortion.

If I decided to carry to term THEN I could decide about adoption or parenting. I would obviously choose parenting.

None of the above. I'd struggle on regardless. Even if I was poor I'd still have all the love in the world to give, that's all anyone really needs.

aloha.girl59

I *did* find myself in this position 19 years ago. I had an abortion. It wasn't fun and I wouldn't recommend it as a form of birth control (ie: regular abortions instead of the Pill, etc.), but I'm glad we live in a country where abortion is legal and women have the right to choose.

Lori A

I put a child up for adoption. I guarantee you I would NEVER do that again.

LinnyG

This happened to me when I was 17. I had an abortion. My adoptive mother supported my decision. No way would I condemn a child for life wondering who and where their family was.

Abortion is terminating a pregnancy. Adoption terminates parental rights. You cannot adopt a fetus, and it is not the responsibility of fertile women to supply babies for infertile women.

Sunny

I wouldn't get pregnant--it's not that hard to do. And I'm VERY fertile.

ABORTION--so quick your head would spin.

Princess Cherbs

I would NEVER put a child up for adoption.
So because you are comparing these 2, and only these 2 options, I would have an abortion.

But this is a very diluted view you have

Kev ~ Now with added moobs

First of all I'd wonder how I managed to get pregnant.

H******

Apples and Oranges

Abortion is a decision not to carry a child to term

Adoption is a decision not to parent a baby

They are two entirely different decisions.

Fuaite le fuil, gaolta go deo

Abortion. I'm sick of seeing this question and trying to defend my view. I love my son, I carried him for nine months and went through twelve hours of natural labor. That being said, unless you've been pregnant, you have no right to judge a woman who isn't willing to do nine months of pregnancy just to give away her baby. I could not and I would not let someone else call my child their own. If I carry my baby, than I'm the only one with the right to be called mommy. With abortion you get some sense of closure, adoption you do not. I don't owe my baby to anyone else, I'd abort during the first few weeks while it's still two layers of cells (no brain, no fingers, no thoughts).

kateiskate is getting married

Abortion. Why carry a pregnancy to term only to abandon my baby? Couldn't do it. It's cruel.

SJM

Get in a position to raise it.

Laurel J

It has nothing to do with not being in a position to raise a child. It's a case of my body being my own and my having no obligation to "let someone else use it" for 9 months if I don't want to. Not only do I not want any kids, I do not want to be pregnant. Add me to the list of horrible murderous woman who faced this choice and did abort. I have zero regrets.

The choices aren't equivalent. Twenty minutes on a table in a clinic does not equal nine months of pregnancy plus the anguish of giving away a child and very possibly wondering if that kid is OK for my entire life.

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