Adoption!! FOR or AGAINST???!!!?

R2024

I am so for adoption. my aunt adopted a baby and she is a natural part of our family. we have so many babies in our family and she is just one of us. cant imagine our family without her.

P.S. if you wanna see an awsome story about adoption watch MTV's 16 And Pregnant. Caitlyn gave her baby up for adoption b/c her family was not in the best situation. AWSOME girl!

Hannah M

I agree with you. I am for adoption assuming the child is being put in a good home with loving parents.

cricketlady

Adoption---very much so. So many abused and neglected children are still waiting for that loing home.

christianforChrist

For adoption!! I have family members that are adopted and as much loved as the "bio" family members. We are currently taking classes to adopt and I know we will be giving children a nurturing, loving family. We do it for them, not for ourselves!! Giving your child up for adoption is a blessing to a family that may not be able to have kids!! It's the most selfless thing a woman could do!! People that say it's selfish are ignorant!!

Secret desires

Im for it I think it takes brave noble birth parents to do their child that favor if they know someone could give them a better home.

mamaof3

I am for adoption. I believe that in some cases it is the most loving, unselfish thing a woman can do for her child and it makes her a real mother not just some selfish person who is keeping a baby because it is her property even though she is not the best person to raise it. My grandmother was adopted by a loving couple who gave her a good life. I don't know what kind of life she would have had or where she would have ended up if her unmarried mom had kept her in the 20's. I have 2 cousins who were adopted. One after her mother shook her until she went blind and the other was voluntarily given up at birth. In both cases they went to really good and loving homes and they brought such joy to their adoptive parents. I think the reason some people can not have children even though they want them is because God means for them to adopt a special child who needs them. Maybe the person who has them and gives them up is meant to do so for some reason as well. I don't know God's plan but I trust there is one. Maybe that person goes through it to make them a better person or to prepare them for something else that is coming in their future or change the path they are currently on. I dont' know but I do know that it is God's plan sometimes that the birth mother not be the one who raises the child and that it takes more than matching DNA to make someone a parent.

Randy B

My answer remains as previously stated in the 100's of times this question has been asked previously during the past year. My feelings remain unchanged.

$purps420$

yes i gave my son up for adoption when i was sixteen i did the most selfless thing at the time

AdoreHim

First of all, so sad to continually read how against people are to adoption as a whole here. I am adopted and very grateful I was, so much so, my hubby and I adopted 2 children. For the people that wished they had been aborted instead of adopted, I feel extremely sorry for them. I am not saying that some people have had a hard time with adoption, but over all I would think it would be positive. What I am thinking that most people that actually have had a good experience, like you and I don't come here to vent. I am 100% for adoption!

Spotty-Dotty

For. Adoption's the best!

Roxyrules

FOR IT ALL THE WAY!!!!!!! it is the ultimate gift of love a mother could give to her child if she can not take care of him/her. &even if she is capable of taking care of the child but is considering adoption just bc she doesn't want to have a child, i'm still all for it, i mean obviously she isn't capable of giving him/her the love they deserve.. always remember- it is NEVER the baby's/child's fault.

Mel

I am for adoption. It is intresting have several people but only when necessary. If a parent can not provide for a child emotional, and finacially then it is necessary. And I there is not alot of money exchanging hands for infant adoptions as some people may think. When done through an agency whether it be private or the state any "money" is carefully accounted for. I worked for the Department of Children's Services and we had infants that were place in state's custody at birth for adoption. I was actually the "specialist" on the team that worked with the women before they gave birth. We made sure they had a place to live, food to eat, and clothes. We also had an after care plan for them once they had the baby so that she would be able to be able to care for herself. People who put postings online and just want to go through lawyers in order to adopt an infant or the people that pay large amounts of money and the lines of legality become muddy. As well as these prospetive parents losing all their money because the lady changed her mind. Which she has every legal right to do. However, this is not something that would happen NEVER with a state agency, and if it happened with a private agency their doors should be shut immediatly. I am also speaking from a personal point because I was adopted by my parents when I was 6 months old and my older brother was adopted when he was 8 weeks old. And I am grateful for my biological parents making the choice to place me for adoption instead of aborting me. I LOVE MY LIFE!!! I am personally anti-abortion but I am not going to tell someone what to do so I am pro choice. But I would prefer a person to place their child for adoption then abort them. I feel sad for the people who are against any type of adoption. Now I do feel like there are alot of children in the foster care system that are ready for adoption and I wish that more people would adopt these children. My parents adopted my younger sister at the age of 2 and she was consider a hard to adopt child because 1. she was black and 2. she had major attachment issues to her foster parents. She acted like those children that scream and cry every time they are seperated from their parents due to be held and coddled all day in other words she was very spoilded. But my parents knew it would pass and now at 20 she is in college and has major attachment issues to everyone in the family because we get calls daily. LOL :) As for the story of 16 and pregnant the adoptive parents had every right to change the child's name, my name was changed, my brother's name was changed, and my parents didn't change my younger sister's name only because they were planning to adopt a school age child and did not have one picked out. And staying in contact technically means yearly updates of photos with most agencies. And it has not been a year yet.

kennebunklmt

I don't know how anyone could actually be against adoption. Should all of those children grow up in orphanages?! The fact is that many people get pregnant and know that they can't care for the child the way they would want. OR the parents are screw ups and get the child taken away by the state.
If not adoption, what would the option be for those children??
My husband and I have adopted 2 foster children. Their mother is a crack addict and they were born addicted to cocaine.
So.... if no one adopted them, they would either:
1) stay with the druggie mother
2) live in foster homes until they were 18
3) be sent to an institution
SO many children are in those situations because there aren't enough people to adopt them. If a family will open their home and go through DAYS of questioning and background checks, home inspections, etc etc etc... why would adoption be bad?

I love my girls as if they were biologically mine. They are my princesses. A parent isnt just someone who carried you for 9 months or someone who you share dna with.
My biological mother and her husband abused me as a child. Finally my dad and step mom got custody of me. My closest family member is STILL my step mom (who I have always thought of as my REAL mom).
Dna means nothing in the world of a family. Love is what matters. I worry about how my girls will react when they truly understand what it means to be adopted. I know the pain of being "rejected" by a parent. I pray everyday that I can find a way to lessen their pain and make them feel secure and loved right where they are- because this is where they belong... something I think their biological mother quite obviously NEVER thought about.

Nora

If a child is in foster care or an institution, I am for adoption. I am against it for newborns. I think, have it, raise it. cant do that, abort it.

Tamara

FOR, most definitely! Domestic adoption but also international! We have seen all the extreme poverty in our daughter's native Ethiopia and were convinced that she was way better off with us. It is easy to oppose to international adoption from a theoretical perspective by saying it strips a child from his identity and culture, but I cannot accept these criticisms in light of what I see about our adoption... We took an orphaned girl at an age where she was on the brink of being identified as "un-adoptable" and we brought her halfway around the world to make her one of us. Our daughter will grow in a loving family, receive an education (and hopefully go to College) and gain opportunities which she would not have had had she stayed in Ethiopia. I don't see how someone rational can denounce this.

Victors momma

Im for adoption when needed. If the child is in abusive home etc. I'm against adoption from EU to America etc. Im originally from EU and lived there for 10 years and going to USA is a big change and if I was getting adopted to whole new country, with new culture, and everything different that would be kinda sad. I don't believe in adoption when teens get pregnant since its just a way out. I'm 16 and I'm financially stable to support a baby [due to acting and modeling] and also have time and place to raise my son since I'm paying for my home school [3grand a year]. The baby's father [my man] is also involved and helps me out so much. I can provide a way better home than a lot of adults.

Pip

Neither and I prefer legal guardianship with adoption being a final resort. If it is in the child's best interest such as an abused child or a child who is truly an orphan then I am all for them having a legal guardian or being adopted. What I am completely against are coerced/unethical adoptions. However if a mother really doesn't want to parent then a family member being a legal guardian/adoptive parent is the best option but if that can't happen then a non family member needs to be in place.

Vandaree

I am adopted :) I'm white/black and my parents are pale white. My brother is also adopted he is white/black like me and then my other brother is indian :)

Mom to Foster Children

For - only when it is necessary - foster care adoptions!

Wundt

I am for adoption in general.

That is not to say I for ALL adoptions. I think that 'money' should be taken out of the system (either have a standard for all private agencies or make them only be non-profit). However, I think it is wrong to condemn all private/infant adoptions (as some on this forum do). I know several private/infant adoptions that have worked very well for all concerned. The biological mother and the child both were able to have better lives and the APs got to be parents.

That said, I believe foster-adoptions should be people's first choice. It is the right thing to do and people looking to adopt should ask first how they can do the most good with their choices. We adopted 2 through foster care and couldn't be happier.

Tad W

"Adoption," the process of creating a legal fiction that conceals the heritage of a child in order to allow adopters to pretend that they, and not the birth family, conceived and bore the child is a ludicrous concept . This sort of nonsense provides no benefit to a child at best, and at worst causes significant harm to the child. The concept developed from a culture that held slaves and considered children to be property of the "father." It has more connection to slavery than it does to charity.

A "better" home? What constitutes a "better" home? A family with lots of material wealth? Two parents that belong to the proper religion? A married couple? These are all subjective values, they are not in any sense universal or absolute. What is better, one genuine parent with the biological, genetic and spiritual ties to the child born with conception and built up through the gestation, or two complete strangers trying to fulfill their own desires by pretending to be parents? In our consumer driven economy and arrogant imposition of religiously based morality, I fear we've developed some questionable values. Values that create unhappiness and stress in the pursuit of mammon and in self-righteous pseudo-sacrifice.

With that said, there are situations where it is necessary for a child to be raised by someone other than his or he natural parents, and there are birth parents with values that result in relinquishment. In these cases, it can be an act of high charity for one to raise the child of another. But it is morally wrong to attempt to change or conceal the heritage and identity that the child was born with. Permanent fostering that doesn't erase the past or create false histories is better than the current form of legal adoption.

To your statement that you are better off as an adoptee, you do not, and cannot, know what might have been. I do not suggest that you stop counting your blessings, only that you recognize that thee might have been other blessings had the choices been diffeent.

aloha.girl59

I am pro-adoption from foster care. I am against most international adoptions (too much corruption) and newborn adoption (too much money changes hands, too much coercion of young mothers).

As for 16 and Pregnant:
Caitlyn named her baby Carly but the adoptive parents changed it to Carolyn. They also stopped staying in touch with Caitlyn and her boyfriend even though they promised an "open" adoption. So much for pre-birth matching, "open" adoptions, and newborn adoption, huh?

Opedial

Do you see the world in BLACK or WHITE.

GEt a clue.

Bookwarm

For it in situations where the child does not have a home with his or her mother/father/extended family. Or is truly unwanted or abused by the above and must be removed.

Against it when a mother wants to parent and gives the child up despite that due to lack of support/tough finical times/any illegal activity to force the adoption. I feel society has a duty to help women in tough situations parent if she wants to do so.

lilloric

for adoption if better measures are put in place to protect the children from any form of abuse by adoptive parents

against what is called adoption the way the system is now

stop giving money to people for adopting children-this is wrong and attracts the wrong type of people.if they can't afford to raise them without the help of government checks they shouldn't be raising them.this won't get rid of all the bad parents but it is a nice start.next would be longer contact between the social workers and the children.this way if there is abuse it may be found in a timely manner

keep in mind i'm not speaking of private adoption just state run.i'm all for private adoption but i still think that some sort of a social worker should be involved in the child's life for atleast the first 5 years to hopefully prevent abuse

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