Can she force me to put her/him up for adoption?

Kellen

firstly congrats and secondly omg even if she let you keep it could you cope. you have to make sure your sure first and look maybe if you talk to her about it but she just wants whats best for you and dont think i'am just some grown up trying to tell you what to do cause i am the same age aand i wanna say if you need to talk to someone just email me ok?
luck xxxxxxxx

awaiting my sons arrival 5/2/10

u are under 16 so yes i believe she can

Bless our Nest

This is a serious and complicated issue, both for you and for your baby and grandparent who will be responsible..call lifetime adoption and talk to a counselor for free!

May

She cannot force you but i think you should put the baby up for adoption since you still a child and had no job or any kind or income. You CANNOT pay and support a baby!

Seriously, you need to find something better to do on your time and stop trying so hard to get pregnant. little girl.
You asked so many questions about pregnancy. You don't even know if you are pregnant or not.
Who do you actually live with? Your parents? grandparent or your grandma?

Grow up and start worry about school instead.

You might want to look into a home for unwed mothers and talk to them. They can give you the emotional support that you need to get through this even if you don't live their. Contact your church or school counselor

hnf116

I don't know if she can or if she can't make you give the baby up but I do want to tell you that It costs thousands of dollars a year to take care of a baby. Have you even looked at the price of Diapers. It is diffrent when it is your own child and not your sister. You are going to be the one that gets up many times in the night to fed the baby and chang the baby. You are going to have to pay the babies bills. You can't just go visit your friends anymore because you have the baby to take care of. There is so much responsibility. And what are you going to do with the baby while you are at school? I cannot tell you what to do but I think you should realize how much responsibilty it takes to take care of a baby.

CindyC

Uh...MY opinion is No she can't. Really, no one can make you do anything unless it's the president or government. But to her, she would think, yeah she totally can. It's your baby, and it's not like she'll be cruel enough to just take your baby away from you when you're sleeping, she would be committing a crime, stealing.

Just a heads-up: It's hard work! You still have to go to school everyday, and since your grandma doesn't want you to have a baby at your age, she'll definitely not take care of your baby for you, if you keep it. So...unless the father of the baby is willing to take care of the baby when you're not around, I would rethink this whole baby thing. It's completely your choice, hope I helped! Goooooood luck! =]

MeerKat

you are a child, why do you want to raise a child when you are still a child. This is not a doll or puppy we are talking about. You lack the capacity to make proper decisions for yourself, let alone an infant. What is with you people, "STay strong" She is 13!!!!! She got pregnant, does that not tell you something? Why not twelve or eleven? hey lets go for ten! She made a stupid mistake, and now she is going to have to let the adults in her life correct it. Grandma probably does not want to raise another grandchild, that is her right. Can 13 years olds drink? Be drafted? Vote? Drive a car? Sign a contract? Quit school? NO? Why not, BECAUSE THEY ARE 13!!!!!

dontknow86

No, she can't make you but she can, Put you in foster care.

Pip

Personally I would suggest you have an abortion.

Legally you can't be forced to surrender but reality is your grandmother can make life so difficult for you that you will surrender. If you're that serious about raising your child then get practical support before you tell your grandmother. That way it will be harder for your grandmother to force the issue.

~Ariana~

No she can't. But she might make things hard for you though-it depends on how serious she was and how strict she is. I would find a Plan B-in terms of relatives or resources in your community for pregnant teens.
I wish you good luck!

valerie

she can't make you do anything. if you want the baby and have the ability to take care of it then you should keep it. do what's best for your child. if you want it to grow up right, then maybe adoption is the best option, but if you can care for it properly go ahead and keep it. it's not her choice.

Tiffany O

I'm not sure where you are writing in from, but in the states you can not be forced to abort or adopt out your child although if they do not come around they can make things very difficult when your baby arrives. Although in the states most laws still favor keeping moms and babes together, if you are in the UK they may be different? But it sounds like you are very strong in your conviction and desire to parent which is all I believe you need, at least to begin the job. Do you have other families members that might be more supportive? Are you aware of local community resources if not in the event you were kicked out? Could also be a timing situation, at just 10 weeks it is early enough that she may feel she can still pressure your decision and she also may not have had the time to come to terms with you keeping the baby and her helping you parent which could still happen. I hope you get great support where you can! Best Wishes!

Wellspring

She can't make you, but she can pressure you. Stick to your grounds. There is help out there, BUT whatever you do, stay far away from anyone offering to "talk" with FREE adoption counseling, they're only looking for newborns to sell to their paying customers.

Susan

she cant force you unless you let her. so stay strong and GET AN ADULT WHO IS ON UR SIDE ASAP. NOT someone who wants to adopt ur baby though. This will be difficult and if your excuse for a grandmother is adament she will make this very hard. and you will need help and support after the baby is born.

to the people saying that she is too young to be a mother and she should give her baby away...she is 13 ,, very very young yes but by the time that child is 7 she will be 20, an adult and she will grow up fast with this. this child is HERS and this childs mother is HER. so they belong together. this baby will be her responsibility. if society was in anyway healthy she would be helped by her family not forced to give away her baby which will have long lasting effects for both.

Nora

no but she can put you out of her home . can you do it alone

Victors momma

Nobody can force you to give up your rights as a parent

Emie86

well according to this one site, although I think it's the state of Maryland's laws, it says:

Can my parents force me to give up my baby for adoption?
No. You are considered an adult for purposes of consenting to medical treatment
if you have a child. If you have questions about adoption, call 1-800-TO ADOPT or
1-800-238-4269.

That was copied and pasted to here from the site.

Here's another site with several people's answers...seems like the custodian/parent can't make the to be mother do something if it's against their free will. http://www.findlegaladvice.org/forum/Law-Ethics/Can-my-parents-legally-force-me-to-have-an-abortion-312363.htm

Call Planned Parenthood ASAP, or talk to your guidance counselor at school. They can probably help you the best.

I wish you all the best hun
and i'm so sorry that there's people answering that are adding to the stress instead of answering you.

DevonChaos

Nope. She can't make you do anything. Stay strong. Find resources in your area that will help you. There are many out there.

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