Can you do some kind of a like, "rent to own" with adoption?

eyeque46203

You cannot be serious...These are children, not TVs you get from Rent-A-Center.

allchildrenareangels

Are you kidding. If you aren't positive you want to adopt you shouldn't do it.

Leah Ann

WOW

babysitting, foster care, or maybe work at a day care.

But- maybe you should consider a dog instead.

greenbean

I don't think you and your wife really really want to adopt. If you did then you wouldn't be thinking whether there was some sort of trial scheme available to you.
Please don't get involved in adoption unless you are both 100% behind the idea. The disruption that an adopted child faces is immense, without it being made worse by someone's lack of commitment to it. It would show, your adopted child would be able to tell. I think it's fair to say that a lot of adopted children expect the rug to be pulled from under their feet at any given moment and are therefore hyperalert to anything at all that might signal that this is going to happen, which they can't help- how could they? It's already happened at least once.
You can't really view fostering as a solution to this either- you wouldn't know how long a child would be with you, what might start out as days or weeks could turn into weeks or months depending on the needs of that child. Would you be able to say that you would no longer be able to care for that child because for you, for whatever reason, the length of time they were with you had become too long?
I think you should put aside any plans for adoption you have until you want to take a child on a permanent and forever basis.

Cat S

what?

Vanessa P

That is funny!

Dreamer

Foster care. You can have the child for a short amount of time or years and eventually adopt him/her. Only do this if you are very, very serious about fostering and adoption though. It wouldn't be fair to the child to only have him/her for a few days and then decide that you don't want to foster after all.

Try watching a family member or friend's child for a few days. You'll have to deal with everything - waking up, dressing, meals, snacks, tantrums, injuries, playing 24/7, traveling with a child, shopping with one, the whining, the constant noise, talking, laughter, bedtime, waking up at night, etc. And there will be no long term commitment!

Only then, when you know for sure, you should start foster care. If you want to be a foster parent and have any reservations they will notice immediately during the home interviews. You can google foster care in your area (county, zip code, etc).

Heather ~ Not a Perfect Mom ~

Sorry, but you don't have the mentality to be a parent, never mind being a Foster parent.

I would say adopt a dog, but even dogs deserve better.

tish_part deux

honestly, i'm not mad at your question...it's just another example of how we've normalized buying and selling human beings.

but seriously, rent to own???

dude....

icehockeymom7

Very funny. Thanks for the points.

FlutterMeBy

Generally you can adopt from foster care and I have personal experience with that. You don't really get a "trial run". You get to meet the children a few times on outings/meetings and if everyone hits off, they come home to you.

Now if you foster children and decide you want to adopt one of the children that you foster, you can't just say I want to adopt So and So. Not all foster children in foster care end up being adopted. Some are returned to their families( who may end back up in the system again) but others are adopted. I was in foster care twice in my life( I'm 18 almost 19). First time I was in foster care close to 4 years. I lived with one family the majority of the time( close to 3 1/2). They wanted to adopt my sister and I and one point we were up for adoption but some reason we ended up going back home.

You can try your state's foster care webpage and find out more info. Generally you have to be 21 at least, married/single/divorced for at least a year, sometimes up to two years, depending on the state. You have to be finacially stable to foster/adopt. Not only fiancially you will have to be emotionally able to do it.

Some fosters can get attached to the children and children can become attached to their foster family( in my case I did). I still talk to them, years later :).
I've been in four foster homes( 2 each time) and only 1 seriously treated my sister and me like family and not just children they were paid to being taken care of.

That family still considers me as a daughter and I still consider them as my parents- my mom is great but I have two great women to look up to-.

They are disappointed in the way my younger sister turned out- going from foster home to foster home, being bounced from foster care to our mother seriously did my little sister more harm then good. My mom didn't abuse us or did drugs or anything. She fell on hard times and thats the reason we ended up in foster care and were later "returned" to her care, even though it happened again.

I would ask other foster parents/foster children their experiences with fostering. It can be great if you really want to make a difference in a child's life but keep in mind that some foster children can be resentful at first and it can take a while for the child to adjust. Then on the other hand some are so greatful that they are not being abused or starved.

My foster care experiences is one of the reasons I'm considering being a foster parent. Although not right now, I'm too young :).

myst1998

WTF???? Get a dog or someTHING else... you are talking about a human being, not a stuffed animal or an apartment.

Methinks you are not right for adoption.

hi-c

you mean to see if you'll like the kid or see if you can handle raising a kid? either way, i would just get a goldfish.

Temperance

Do you know how sick that sounds?

monkeykitty83

Well, there is such a thing as foster-to-adopt, where you foster the child first and then adopt if the child becomes legally free for adoption.

However, by "there is such a thing," I'm not saying you should go straight out and do it. I think you have a lot of research ahead of you. You need to learn about the foster care system, what being a foster parent entails, and the challenges and parenting strategies needed to help a hurt child heal. Foster parenting requires knowledge and commitment.

Until you stop thinking about this child-- a fellow human being-- in terms like "rent" and "own," you aren't prepared for fostering or adopting. Or, for that matter, for parenting. Until you can respect the child's needs, and not see him or her as a possession, you can't be an effective parent. You need to be thinking in terms of what you can provide to a child... not shopping around to get what you yourself want.

If you want to foster or adopt, you need to start preparing to be a parent who loves unconditionally-- not a consumer or shopper. We're talking about PEOPLE here, not objects.

AdoreHim

So let me get this straight- you want to rent a child, like you would a piece of furniture? You truly have got to be kidding me. If you are thinking along these lines, PLEASE don't adopt. There is no trial runs with children. They are gifts from God. And the most important thing if you think that you are ever truly going to "own" your child, you are crazy. Leave parenting to someone else, if you think this way.

Unknown

Try foster care

anonymous

LMAO..this is so wrong, but i laughed anyway.

Mom to Foster Children

OMG - go back under your bridge troll and stay far away from children

Indian-vision

Pleassseeeeeeeeeeeeee stay far away from all kids and get your wife to tie her tubes. What if you don't like your bio kid too. *Gosh* you are scary !!

I agree with "Myself"'s response- don't even get a dog or a pet home.
*creapy*

MamaKate is an Aunt!

This is a popular method for "trying out" parenting used by many educational institutions:
http://www.col-ed.org/cur/misc/misc58.txt

Good luck!

FlyingMonkeySwatter

you are not entering into this with a responsible or even humane perspective

1234

F*ckinf idiot

Serenity71

Rent-a kid-websites...none come to mind.

(Like a kid is a doll or something you play with for a while and give it back if it doesn't do as its told... sheesh...what are ya)

DevonChaos

Yeah, I'd suggest just borrowing one for a while before even renting. Maybe your area has a lending library of children. Try a few different kinds to know what you'd be interested in. You know, in the name of research...

clreimann

This is obviously not a serious question. Anyone who uses "like" while typing a question is likely not old enough to be even considering a child.
Like, oh my god, no, you like, totally can't mess with a child like that.
Like, they have totally been through enough trauma without being passed around for trial runs.
Brat.

Randy B

I'm really inclined to believe that this is not worthy of any sort of response. The question is so outlandish.

love my life

why don't you try babysitting that's just part time.

kristysearching

I know this question cannot be real....

Rent to own?????

LinnyG

Yes. It's down the street from your trailer, between the check cashing place & the liquor store.

http://www.rentakid.com

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