Can you hide being pregnant?

sizesmith

Only if your parents are nearly criminally negligent could you hide a pregnancy. I'd also be so worried about you getting prenatal care for yourself and the baby's sake. If you go to the hospital, they'd be responsible to notify your parents.

Yes, many parents fly off the handle, get mad, and overreact when they find out their daughters are pregnant. The sad fact is, they're usually scared to death for their child's sake. Having a baby takes away the young times, and it's a no-win situation for all involved. If you did place the baby for adoption successfully, then you'd still have emotional and physical/medical needs after the baby's birth that will need to be taken care of.

I would advise getting the help of someone you trust. You say your religion. Are you active in the church? Perhaps someone there could help you tell your parents. School counselors are trained in how to tell parents of this situation. If you don't feel safe at home, perhaps have them called to the school.

Placing a child for adoption is relatively easy. Even placing it at a manned fire station, police station, or leaving it at the hospital. It's only easy in the physical term though. You'll come to love this baby you're carrying, and there are a lot of emotional needs that need to be met in this hard time. Plus, pregnancy at your age (and any age) can go perfectly normal, or there can be life threatening problems, such as high blood pressure and diabetes that can endanger both yours and the baby's lives. Hopefully, this isn't the case, but there is the possibility. My prayers are for you! This is a rough time, but hopefully, your parents will come around and be there to support you emotionally, mentally, physically, and financially. Good luck!

Dixie

Just start eating ALOT!! You're parents will think you're getting FAT! Start wearing baggy clothes. BUt sooner or later, you're parents will find out.

anon

It is unlikely you can hide it. You are young so it's not like you can go and "work" abroad.

I am not anti-abortion but I think it is great you are choosing to keep the baby for adoption. Eventually, there will be a very grateful couple out there who will give your baby all the love it needs. Although, perhaps you need to consider whether you would be able to give up your baby or whether (despite the views of your parents) you want to raise you child. Don't forget - you will have to live with the decision you make (and do not let anyone make the decision for you) - you will only resent them if it is not the right choice for you.

I'm not sure where you live, but in the UK adoption is handled by the area you live in. I'd start by googling your area and go from there.

Good luck, I hope it all works out ok for you.

Susan

please tell them u cant go through this on ur own. the truth will come out eventually, ur child may come looking for u eventually and its a terrible thing to keep a secret. tell them they might surprise u. and if they support u then keep ur baby. adoption hurts everyone involved but in my opinion its better than abortion.

roxy krol

It would be realllllly hard to hide te fact that your pregnant and you better hope you don't get big!!

Katie

I am not sure how you could hide your pregnancy from your parents and I am so sorry that you are in a spot where you have to. I feel your pain however. When I was 18 I got pregnant by my long term boyfriend. I didn't want to tell my Mom. However I finally did and it was horrible for a little bit but she did come around. By the time she did I lost the baby. I have a blood clotting disorder.

I 100% commend you for not having an abortion. I have a feeling your Mom and Dad see what a beautiful decision that is for you too. God see that and His Grace is enough. Even when it feels you are walking alone.

Also if you are looking for adoptive parents let me know. My Husband and I are looking to adopt. Since I have blood clots it is very hard for me to carry a pregnancy to term. I have done it twice but I don't want to risk it again. lindsayandtom@gmail.com

Jennifer L

There's no way to safely hide being pregnant. You need prenatal care. You need the love and support of your family. You also need to tell the father of the child.

I'm not going to advise on the abortion/adoption topic except to say: If you don't want to have an abortion, then don't have one. The statement, "I don't want to have an abortion", should be the end of the subject, instead of lengthy mantras on why some stranger thinks that abortion is the best thing for you to do. It's just as bad as trying to convince someone who wants to parent a child that adoption is the best thing.

Tell your parents. Get the support and medical care that you need. Then worry about the rest of it.

juicy desire

nope,, for the first couples months probably depending on your size, you can get huugggeeee! they are going to find out one way or another, and you and your parents can talk about adoption and go from there.. but someone has to pay the hospital bill, and your gonna need your paernts no matter what

Carol c

Don't try to go through this alone and hiding. No matter how upset your parents might be - they'll get over it... you've got to take care of yourself for your own health and that of the baby.

Do you have an older person you trust that you can confide in to get advice about local resources for you? Right now you're panicked, but you'll get through this..
Good luck!

Shannon

It is not easy to hide a pregnancy. Some people can, but most people can not. You need to tell your parents for the baby's sake so that you can get prenatal care. Everyone else has some good advice, but I just want to offer one more piece: When you tell your parents, you might want to consider telling them, with the baby's father, in a public place, like a restaurant or a park. Usually the pressure of behaving in a socially accepted way in public prevents parents from flying off the handle. That is if your parents are those types of people.

Right now, you need to focus on telling your parents, the baby's father, and getting prenatal care. After those things are taken care of, you will have had time to research adoption more and rethink your position on it. You do not have to make plans for adoption before having your baby. In fact, it is best to wait until after your baby is born before you make that kind of plan. (Since you are from AU, you may not be able to do anything of that sort until the baby is born anyway- the laws are much different there than in the US or UK)

emily

im sorry,tell your parents they might be angry but just tell them they will be able to help you! while your giving birth you will need your mother their!!
good luck hope everything goes well hope you have a healthy baby

Leilani

I have had friends that didn't show until about to give birth but they were all very skinny. So it is possible, I would tell my parents you never know they may be very supportive.

JohnAdriaan

I'm sorry, but you might be able to hide it for the first three to six months, but there is no way you can hide it in the last trimester. Also, you need to go to the doctor for checkups throughout the pregnancy, if only for the baby's sake.
You need to bite the bullet and tell your parents, preferably earlier rather than later - again, for the baby's sake.

Rosie

You have to tell your parents. You will need support, prenatal care and lots of TLC during this very important life changing process.

You should tell the baby daddy too.

jayne

You HAVE to talk to your parents!! Even if you do succeed in hiding your pregnancy what will you do with the baby? I had a friend in college (a private, very conservative Christian college) who hid her pregnancy, drove herself to the hospital, went through a c-section alone and placed the baby for adoption without telling anyone. She was miserable. She tried to get the baby back and it was too late. She was never the same. Years later she is still grieving for that baby! Please don't do that to yourself or your child.

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