Do adopted children love their adoptive parents?

DropsOfJupiter

They are just as likely-if not MORE (on the basis that they were more likely to be wanted and properly cared for) likely to love their parents than they would be if they were biological

dontknow86

They kinda have too. I asked my birth daughter that and she said, Ummm well yes. I think.

Bob

I dont see why not?

Andrew

of corse they do
just becuase they r adopted doesnt mean they wont love u
but every child is different and depending on how u treat them is how there going to react so be careful about wat u do or say

BOTZ

You need to be more specific.

What adopted children are you referring to?

Linny does. I don't.

Walter does. 7rin does. Adoptionissickandsad doesn't (from previous posts). Almost Human doesn't (from previous posts).

Chloe does. Opedial thinks her kids love her.

Abandoned A. is a bitter, stupid snot who doesn't love anyone she didn't formerly live in. (/snark... I love YOU, AbanA...)

There are other APs here who are CERTAIN their children do.

Pip isn't sure if her son loves his APs.

We could all speculate on whether David loves Madonna or Pax and Maddox love Brangelina...

Etc.

There is no such thing as an answer to such a broad question.

Take care~

Cajunboy

Yes Morgan. And if you tell them the facts later in their lives when their able to understand and appreciate what you've done for them, by telling them who their real parents were, in many cases you're relationship will be enhanced.

The Name Is Kenn

depends on what their situation is they might not even get along with you because there situation is so bad but it really depends they probably will because they are happy that someone actually wants them in their family

Pip

My son has never told me whether he loves his adoptive parents, loyal to them - yes he has admitted that but love them I don't know.

cricketlady

Mine do ---I have no doubts. And I in turn.

Chloe

Why wouldn't they. I am an adoptee and I loved my parents will all my heart. They are both gone now and I miss them like crazy.
I know i'm new here but I don't understand people giving others thumbs down because they say they loved their parents. Don't make sense to me.

Miss Squeaks.

If you are a gentle, kind, loving mother to the child then yes, I don't see why they wouldn't love you. If it weren't for you they'd have no where else to go. But if the child is depressed, has anger issues, etc. they might have a harder time accepting you. : Just ask the child a lot if they love you and ALWAYS tell them that you love them with all your heart. <3

AdoreHim

I am adopted and I love my mom, and still love my dad, even though he passed away over 20 years ago. I have 2 adopted children, and I don't think they love me any less than if I had biologically had them. I know that there can be problems in an adopted family, however, there are problems in bio families as well. Sometimes questions like this make me upset, because it is almost like you want to hear that adopted children aren't loved or can't love like bio children. It is NOT THE CASE.

Serenity71

I guess like all parents it depends on if you answer your child's love language or not during their childhood. Some parents do and some don't. Its not always their fault they failed to realize their child's needs of expressing love were different from theirs. (And it can vary from person to person.If you don't know what I mean than ask me.) Lots of dynamics that go into parenting. I hope my kids love me throughout their life. Doesn't any parent raising a child want that.

Basically we have whole generation of adoptive parents that didn't have Oprah or Dr. Phil, or super nanny to tell them where they're going wrong in all of this stuff if they didn't click to it during their child's upbringing.

And in some cases an parent can do all that...but its that one thing they get wrong that trips everything up...like keeping information a secret or not supporting an adult during searches....things like that....

But then no one does it all perfectly anyway I suppose that where forgiveness comes into it. Can't have real love without forgiveness.

(You can still love someone and be cranky with them, I guess thats what comes with living life with people.)

As the saying goes..."You don't always get to chose you're cup of tea and how its made, some like it weak some like it strong and not everyone asks how you like it. But at the end of day as long its made with love you can learn to like it and even love it."

kidmindi

Even with all of their mistakes, I loved my adoptive parents (they are both deceased now). My adopted daughter loves me and I hope she always will (she' only 3, so we willsee if we survive the teenage years lol)

AnnaBelle

Well, I'm pretty sure you can find this question asked about 750 000 times in Resolved Questions...But, anywho...

As MonkeyKitty said, similar to biological children, some love their parents, some don't. Depends on family dynamics and experiences.

sizesmith

My adopted son says so all the time, gives me hugs, kisses, and signs "I Love You" in sign language.

My almost 21 year old says he loves me, and he and I have gone rounds during his late teens, and sometimes, he thinks I'm the most ignorant person on earth, just like I thought my parents were when I was that age.

My adopted son is 2, and I know that one day, he'll go through the same stages, but I believe love is not only born into children, but that love corresponds with respect in some ways, and I hope he both loves and respects me in the future. I also hope he loves and respects the first woman who ever loved him-his first mom.

listurhopes

Much like biological parents and children I would guess. Raise them in a caring, nurturing, and loving home and they should return in kind.

Andraya - Snark's Sister

No. We are all bitter, ungrateful (and apparently stupid) snots who only love the crotch we crawled out of and nobody else.

God this gets annoying, answering the same drivel over and over and over and over and over... you get the idea.

7rin

This one does, I can't speak for the rest of 'em though.

H******

I was adopted when I was a child and I'm very fond of mine :)

These 'kids' aren't to fond of theirs though:
http://www.adopted-abused.com/

ETA: Haha, according to VofR my parents love me more then hers love her LOL

hpfreak080

I love my parents and will always love them.
Even when they make me want to pull my hair out, I love them.
Even when they mess up, I love them.

There is no reason for me NOT to love them...

Lady Rowan

i certainly do. That's like asking if a woman loves her husband. the blood bond might not be there, but the love was, and still is.

Sadly, some adoptive parents don't deserve love, as several people on here have been abused by their adoptive families. i find anyone who abuses children despicable.

love my life

I love mine. Couldn't love them more if they were my bio's. They are my parents plain and simple. It's no different than with bio families. Some (most) love their parents but there are the exceptions in both cases that don't love their parents

kathy

I'm not adopted but i'm in foster care and I kinda love my foster parents. Motstly because they were there for me at a realy bad time and because they shown me that they will love me and care for me no matter what.But sometimes I wonder if they love me the same cos their like the first real parents i had but i know they had lots of foster kids so I don't know if they love me as strongly as I love them.

LinnyG

I do, despite their mistakes. Some do, some dont.

Opedial

I am pretty sure mine do, although my middle child told me the opposite today when he was in a time in/out after getting kicked out of Choir. Pretty sure he didn't mean it, but I won't begrduge him his feelings.

Overall I think as long as we, as adoptive parents understand that the love our children have for us does not take away their longing to understand and be loved by their First mom, it is all great.

Walter Ford II

Of course....but do they have to, No.

Insecure much.

monkeykitty83

Do biological kids love their parents? Most do, some don't. Depends on how the parents treat the kids, and the mix of personalities involved.

So, logically...

Do adopted kids love their parents? Most do, some don't. Depends on how the parents treat the kids, and the mix of personalities involved.

Another One?

depends on what type of parent they are to the kid. if they are a good one then yes, if not then not so much. just like any other parent child relationship.

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