Don't you think poor people should mandatorily put their children up for adoption?

tish

to measure good parenthood through annual income is faulty. having money doesn't necessarily make someone a good parent, neither does having limited resources makes someone a bad parent.

also, i am a big supporter of providing assistance to parents who are experiencing financial hardships. especially since most are temporary. i just don't think it's fair to take away children from their parents because they lack the financial means that "we" believe make parents better.

furthermore, i find it an reach that a family living in poverty is abusive to a child. many parents raised children on modest incomes and did fine.

one more note: the missing varable in this argument is that parents generally love their children. and i don't think that those with more resources love their children more.

so i do not believe parents should have their children taken simply due to lack of financial resources. hell, if we can spend billions of dollars on a war, i find it difficult to understand why we can't offer the support to ensure that natal bonds are not severed due to finances...

LORI

I grew up in a house with no heat or electricity, and barely any food. Yet somehow I grew up to be a smarter and better human being than you. Its funny how life works isn't it?
The answer is no.

concerned

Oh yes, fabulous idea, fabulous. You are right, Mary should have given Jesus up for adoption, look how poor she was, she obviously ruined his chances at making anything of his life.

Let's see, who else... H.G. Wells. Sojourner Truth. Dwight Eisenhower. Vincent Van Gogh. Harriet Beecher Stowe. Marco Polo. Louis Armstrong. Michael Faraday. Abraham Lincoln. Lousia May Alcott. Ben Carson.

Yup, they all should have been given up for adoption to escape their poverty, maybe then they could have made something of themselves.

chielu c

Poverty, abuse, and neglect worked out fine for Oprah Winfrey. Jim Carry talks about his family and living out of their car. Imagine, successful people from poor families that weren't stolen from their parents by the adoption industry!

~::JAEL::~

nope

LaraSue

You are assuming that the only reason parents place their children for adoption is because of poverty and that just isn't true.

Laurel J

No. What the heck is wrong with you?

I'm just curious--are there any other aspects of human existence you think we should deny the poor, or should they simply have to function as breeders for the rich infertile? And why not imprison the poverty-stricken woman-cows while they're pregnant so they won't smoke or drink while they're carrying someone else's baby? We could force feed them a perfectly nutritious diet and milk them so the adoptive parents won't have to buy formula.

And when they're no longer fertile, shall we bring back the workhouses and let them go die there, Mr. Scrooge?

dawnO

youre very judgeMENTAL!

Gershom

so by your standards, I should be losing my children right now. Adoption is permanent, poverty is NOT. I may be poor right now, but I won't be for much longer, and I shouldn't lose my children because i currently don't make alot of money.
Neither should people in poor countries, extreme poverty... you don't take their child as a punishment, you help the entire family. Separating them because they're poor only does more damage!!!

what a nut.

Diane S

My dear god. Poor people are poor not without feelings. Love means allot most people now days are to materilist. A roof, love, food, clean clothes, and sending you kids to school EQUALS families be them poor, middle class are rich. And PLUS look at all the SO CALL STARS out there. RICH DO NOT EQUAL GOOD PARENTS. Spending time with your kids makes good kids. Listening, sharing loving is this only for the Middle Class and the Rich. I DON'T THINK SOOOO.

Lillie

Hmmm yeah. And let's see, who's a nice, "fit" rich person who could take these poor kids... Britney?

LOLOLOLOLLLOOLLOLLOLLLL!!!

Thanks for the morning laugh, I think I had my ab workout for the day Sash! Think I'll go make a Noodle-salad now.

andrews.baby2310

There's is always government help if they choose to ask for that assistance but no i think it should be the parents option if they feel their child would have a better chance with someone else then that is their choice and their business!

Possum

OMG - I can't believe that you're asking this question.
Obviously you have NO idea how it feels to be taken from your family - and shoved with complete strangers.
Please read up on ALL sides of adoption.

grapesgum

Oh my goodness, why not? It would make all of the rich infertile couples sssooo happy that their decision to indulge their every earthly desire did not prevent the fulfillment of their last priority to be parents.

Also, my poor parents would have been forced to relinquish their seven children to adoption under your "requirements" to raise children. And our world would be deprived of a world class scientist, an educator of environmental science, a restorer of classic cars, a CEO of a software company, a world class caterer, a manager of a lumber company, and a computer system architect.

:-)

Absolutely not. I sure hope you don't find yourself in a financial crisis, with a baby on the way. Eating your own words is a vile meal, indeed.

inept_user

I agree with Vey Hawt. Amen brother!

Holy Macaroni!

Sure... we'll send them all to your house.

Amie M

NO they shouldnt have to give them up. There are many ways to get the help you need if you need the money. That doesnt mean you abuse this help but get it if you need it. There is a difference of not having the money and needing some help and abusing the child. Parents love there kids and money doesnt buy everything. We are all human and every now and then we can end up on some hard times. Sometimes they need the help and that doesnt mean they love there child any less if they had a million dollars.

Sunny

Robin Hood in reverse, huh?

Take kids from the poor fertiles to give to the rich infertiles...you might be nominated for President with that agenda.

Let's make poor people give us their vital organs, too! I mean most poor people don't deserve them, right? Not as much as people with more money anyway.

Let's not let them vote either.

little-fingers

just bc you have money doesn't mean you will be a good parent!
I know ppl who struggle month to month, but they teach their children, the meaning to a happy life with out having or trying to be rich!
I am not rich, but I have enough to raise my child. I teach her to work, not think the world or her parents will buy any thing and everything she whats.
I find the children of rich ppl, don't what to work, expect a pay cheque for sitting on their as* doing nothing. they are a snobbish pain in the as*es!
no offence but each to their own, though ppl in extreme poverty should be given a hand to get back on their feet! Not having their children taken away!
those children will end up fighting, going to jail, and then end up just like their parents! Bc all they were doing is trying to get back to the parents that love them, not to some person they don't know!
Anyway that is what I think!
good luck!

*luvable*

No. Poor people have just as much right to keep their kids as anyone else.

The Spazz

absolutely fukcing no!!!!! no one should force someone to give up their child!!!! if they are trying to do something about their living situation and are not voluntarily living and a home unfit for living then no. they should have a chance to raise their own child. many people are able to get back on their feet (with some government help) and provide a good living for their children. i was not very well off when i first got pregnant, and my b/f didn't have a job. we did briefly consider adotion, but i couldn't bear to give up a child that i had carried for 9 months. things haven't been easy, but we're ok. we have a place to live and my kids aren't starving. we aren't rich, but i'm SO glad i didn't give up either of my babies.

hippiechick

You must not have any kids of your own, because as a parent, you would do anything for your kids, even give them a kidney or a lung if you had to.
You are emotionally attached to them, and it doesn't matter how much or how little money you have, if you give them up, it's like cutting off one of your arms or legs.

Samson the Guinea Pig

If the poor people's in ability to provide for their child's needs jeopardizes the child's health then usually the social workers will step in and take away the children. But just being poor is a bad reason to take children away from the parents. I mean who will determine how much money is enough?
It should be handled on a case by case basis.

Vey Hawt

People like you should be exiled from a peace loving democracy country. Your logic is as wrong as Adolf Hitler. Call me a wacko for asking this, but why don't you do something about the "extreme poverty" you speak of, rather than taking away childen from poor people?

DishclothDiaries

I feel sorry for narrow-minded people...

tent with foil

No.
Love don't cost a thing.

Andraya

Ok so when my ex threw me out on the streets during my pregnancy and I was unable to work due to complications I should have been forced to place my daughter? I was couch surfing and living hand to mouth for the duration of my pregnancy as well as the first month of my daughter's life, so she should have been denied her Mother? Now, 22 months later, I have a stable home and income. People do turn their lives around and no child should be made to suffer when a woman finds herself in financial duress. Period!

Geg

Being poor isn't a disease...It is a situation, and all situations can change. For you to sit here and think that because someone is poor they are better off giving there kids up for adoption. It is sad really. Alot of the Richest people in the world come from poverty. Do you have kids? I do, I have 2. If I were poor they would be with me no matter what. Do you know what happens when kids are put up for adoptions, or the state takes them from parents? They are put in the system. A lot of those kids never see adoption; the closest they Might get is a foster home, and believe me most of the time it isn't like you must think. But sometimes they get adopted to a Good home. The system isn't completely broken, but it could sure use a overhaul. To think that poor people can't raise children is just naive.

freedomnow1950

I thought being obese was the last USA bastion of bigotry, but I was wrong. Now, it's the poor.

A child belongs to the one who gave it birth regardless of economic status. The Bible says, "Better a bowl of soup where love is than a feast where there is discord." Children grew up in the depression--my mom and dad were among them--without a sense of deprivation and became productive members of society.

If the child is being abused or neglected, then certainly, social services should step in, but otherwise, MYOB (mind your own business).

blank stare

This raises a deeper question... Why are there people living in extreme poverty? Why are there people who have more money than GOD, but we have people living in such abject poverty? Perhaps, rather than stealing their children, we should be fixing society so that no one is living in extreme poverty.

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