I'm going to adopt out my baby, can the father's family stop this?

Spotty-Dotty

It's great that you've chosen adoption over abortion...

If you are Absolutely definite on adoption, then go for it but you probably will regret it every day after for the rest of your life... There's not a chance that the monster's family will be getting your baby..just think about it...
Are you really sure you can't be a good mother? You're a good christian like you said so you can bring the baby up with good morals, help and support and you will become a good mother in time.

mz. supa badd.

No they have no right to tell you what you can and cannot do with your baby...... But i don't think you should give your child up for adoption... Every thing happens for a reason and god wouldn't give you a problem that you couldn't handle. And the child should not have to so through wondering why you didn't want him/her. Trust me, i know im adopt

B.B

Have you found you baby a home? We would so despartly love to have a baby and we are praying so gods will will happen. I had cancer and couldnt have anymore children.....I got a 12 yr old that is here with us and Ive got a 19 yr old who lives in VA. I had her when I was 17 so I know and support your decision.
We are both in the health care field and christains and we could give your baby the best life ever.... We can pay for whatever you need us to also.

iruleuRulez

do whatever you want, its you're life

genetic anderson.

omg are you ok?
i'm glad you didn't abort or do anything like that...
I'm pretty sure there is nothing they can do to stop you. I agree, who knows what they will raise this child to be. His family better not try to stop this.
i wish for the best.
God Bless.

AnnaBelle

You don't owe anyone an explanation. You do whatever it is that you need to do right now.

As long as there were charges laid, I'm fairly certain he has no rights.

Take good care of yourself. Please.

WorksALot

Your a very bright and brave young lady. No this man's family has no rights to the baby your carrying. The choice you make to place the baby for adoption is the most unselfish thing you can do. You have so much to look forward to in your life and having a baby to raise would make that impossible for you to do. You have no job, no car, still in school. How would you support the baby and yourself. Get your education, go to college, then get a job and find a man that is worthy of you.

There are many family, couples (my husband and I included) that can't have children and pray everyday that someone like you with the sense not to abort the child will give it up to a loving family who can provide for the child and love that child and make them feel secure all the time.

It takes a lot to be a parent and you have to be mentally as well as physically ready for that challenge. I give you kudos on your decision. Please don't listen to the people that are laying a guilt trip on you and saying that you should keep the baby. As you mentioned in your question, it would always be a reminder.

May God watch over you and your child and give you the strength as you go forward with your decision. May you find the perfect family for your little one. I wish you love, luck and laughter in your life and May God Bless and keep you always.

Lexi-Mama2 Payton & Emma 2/14/10

Awe Im sorry hun, I think you need to let your parents worry about this stuff right now and you worry about giving birth to a healthy baby. Stress is not good for you when your pregnant and can cause allots of problems. Try not to think about that right now, I dont really have any info on how that works.

If you where able to prove he raped you then I would say no way! but an any other case I really dont have a clue.

I wish you best of luck though!

peggiegg

Don't worry about what other people want you to do or not do. You have to do what is best for you and for your baby. That being said, unfortunately, your baby's biological father and his parents do have rights and one of those rights is to consent or refuse to allow the child to be adopted. You and your parents should consult with an attorney to find out what the laws are concerning paternity and rape in your state. Every state has their own laws.

Good luck to you and your baby. Whatever you decide will be the right thing for you. Don't let others sway you - do what YOU feel is best for the two of you.

God will bless you and give you the strength to move forward.

Lady Rowan

not in this case they can't.

LadyCatherine

of course the can NOT stop you from giving your baby up.. but they can petition the court the adopt the baby them self.. or the can ask for visitation rights with the new parents..

good luck and be safe..

Maggie

sorry ti hear you was raped and Lucky you have proof that the family is a monster
they have no chance of getting the baby as they have a criminal record,
i hope you find a good family for you little one
good luck and dont worrier about the other family as they won't get the baby.
if you need to talk to me please email me you can talk to me about anything madmaggie09@yahoo.co.uk
maggie

Swanny

The day after pill does not kill, that is stupid.

Fuaite le fuil, gaolta go deo

the morning after pill simply stops ovulation and prevents pregnancy, it doesn't abort the baby because when you take it, the egg is not fertilized. Anyway, yes the father and his family have a right to the baby. You can't lie about who the father is without risking fraud and imprisonment. The father has to sign away his parental rights, without his signature, you either share custody or allow him to raise it.

pineseedling

Because you have proof of the rape, I don't think there's any way he can lay legal claim to the baby. In many states the birthfather has to live with you and prove he was providing support during your pregnancy in order to contest, and he obviously doesn't fit that description. It is free for any birthmother to contact an adoption attorney. I'm happy to recommend mine, he is Brinton Wright of Greensboro, NC. His number is (336) 373-1500 and he's friendly and experienced. If you are looking for adoptive parents, we are longing for a baby and would be so happy if you would consider us. Our website is http://2momsadopt.blogspot.com/. I'm so sorry such a horrible thing happened to you and I wish you the best with everything you are going through.

Selma

I don't think you're selfish at all for wanting your childhood back. Anyone in your position would! But I do think you're misinformed. After you have a baby, whether you parent that baby or not, you will always be a mother. You will think about that child every single day of your life, and trying to be a kid again with no responsibility will be impossible. No matter what you WANT to happen, this man took away your childhood FOREVER. And that's not your child's fault. Your baby didn't do this to you, and your baby deserves to be with you. Your baby shouldn't be punished for what this horrible man did to you.

~â™¥~ Karen~â™¥~

They have absolutely no rights over this baby. They cannot stop you from putting your baby up for adoption.

Wow! I have gone through the same thing. My ex's parents wanted custody of my daughter Sophia. it was ruled that they had absolutely no rights over her.

When i was 12 I was raped. A pregnancy resulted from that. I got pregnant. Baby was put up for adoption. Again the rapist's family wanted custody over the child. They had and still have no rights over the child.

Why I received 8 thumbs down I don't know. But what I do know is that my knowledge comes from experience. They say what they THINK they know. I know. i've been through it.

cmc

His family cannot take the baby. In general the father has to consent, his family does not. I don't know exactly how it works with rape, but I'm very sure you can terminate his rights to the child without his consent. Also I wanted to say that there are a lot of people here that are against adoption in all cases - which doesn't make sense to me. I think if you don't want to parent a child, adoption is a great choice. I'm an adoptive parent, and my heart goes out to anyone who is in the position of having to give up their child. Still I realize it is sometimes the best solution to an unwanted pregnancy, and it is a blessing for the family who will adopt your baby.

I would encourage you to think about what kind of family you want for your child, and if you want any ongoing contact. My daughter's mom doesn't want contact, so we haven't heard from her since the birth. However she can get in touch with us if she changes her mind. Her situation was far less traumatic than yours, but it is really hard to give up a baby, even if it is for the best. You have to decide what is the best way for you and your baby to go forward.

Susan

I know that a father can stop an adoption, but being that this was rape, I'm sure there are different rules for that. I do not believe that his family can do anything legally. They have no rights and his rights were stripped when he was found guilty. Please don't stress anymore over this. And I hope you are seeking counciling for dealing with the rape. Call the adoption agency in the morning, just to put your fears at ease.

dontknow86

NO, they can not stop you. In this case. Good Luck with your life.

sizesmith

Dear Katie:
It sounds like you're a very strong person, and my prayers are with you. Nothing in this situation is fair to you, and I'm so glad you are with a rape counselor.

I urge you to respond to anyone in the rapist's family that if they ever talk with you again, that you will get a restraining order against them so they cannot have any contact.

I urge you to enter into an adoption situation with adoptive parents who might allow future contact. Even though you think at this point that you don't want any contact with the baby, you might later realize that you do, and I'd encourage you to demand that you get a copy of the adopting parent's driver's licenses, with full information, so in the future you can find the baby. If they don't want to give it, then they aren't the right parents. If any agency says it's not your right, then leave that agency.

My mother-in-law placed a child for adoption 48 years ago (they're reunited now), with a man who raped her, then later raped and killed a woman. This information can be hard on the baby in the future, but you might keep a little information in case you're asked about it in the future. The fact is, he is in denial that she was raped, and thinks she's not telling who the father is.

You have rights to talk to any attorney, to pick the adoptive parents yourself, and even to talk to the prosecuting attorney in your county to make sure the father's family doesn't have any rights. I wish you peace in your journey, and I hope life will get better for you quickly!

Don't ever think of yourself as selfish or horrible. What he did was selfish and horrible, but it's neither your fault, nor this baby's. Both of you are victims in this horrible man's rant, and although you have the maturity of a woman many times your age, let's face it, you still are a teen, who deserves to have a young life of her own. No one knows your situation like you do, no one should ever try to pass judgement, and no one else has to live it, or have the trauma and injury you've been through. No one should be anything but supportive to you right now. You need friends, not online judges!

HighC

Rapists and their families have NO rights to any child conceived through said rape. You have nothing to worry about. Good luck with everything.

Candy

I am so sorry for what has happen to you and I will keep you in my prayers. From what I have read about is that no because he is a danger and he is not in the best interest of the child.

Stop the Hate Love instead

I am so sorry you were raped and ignore those who try and judge you. Your parents are right rest with easy the fathers family can not stop the adoption. Adoption is the decision of the babyâ€™s parents. Grandma and Grandpa or whoever can not like it all they want but they have no legal standing to stop an adoption. Now the father could try and consent but he is in prison and will probably be there for a long time if convicted. I donâ€™t see how they wouldnâ€™t convict him you have proof (rape kit, the fact your pregnant with his child) What judge would give a baby to child rapist who is also clearly violent as well? Hopefully the courts will terminate his rights.

Have you consulted God about his will for your child? Ask him through prayer.

You are not horrible or selfish you are a victim. Yes there are some women who are raped who get pregnant and keep their baby and parent it. There are others who despite knowing itâ€™s not the babys fault just can not parent the child with out some sort of resentment or continue having bad feelings. Its not wrong for you to want to enjoy whatâ€™s left of your teenhood you did not choice to get pregnant you were horrible raped. I hope your rapist rots in prison and I will pray that if you do decide to place your baby that he or she ends up in a wonderful home.

TotalRecipeHound

Depends on your state. In many states, if convicted of criminal rape, a judge can automatically remove any parental rights of the father. In my state, a father retains the right to approve an adoption depending on the actual criminal conviction even if he is denied visitation by the court.

If he is only charged with statutory rape, this is not a high enough level to remove his rights in most states. He can refuse to approve the adoption. If he is only charged and not convicted, the judge can't remove his parental rights without his signature for an adoption.

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