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I almost keeled over from shock~ How should I respond to this email?

Dear Looney Tunes,

You write that you were in foster care and never got adopted. Maybe there is a reason why you did not get adopted? You are white? You were young? Maybe GOD meant for you suffer and you did not deserve to get adopted. Adoption is for those who deserve a better life and obviously you did not. Instead of writing about the foster care system, maybe you should spend time trying to get yourself cleansed so that you can be adopted as one of GOD's children before you die.

Jesus Saves even you.
RB




    




Dorian
I'm a CPS social worker so I can say absolutely - you did not not get adopted because of anything to do with you!! You may have had some issues (depending on why you were removed) or maybe you were an older child when removed (which are harder to place) or maybe the social worker didn't work hard enough at finding you a permanent home. But the bottom line is that sadly there aren't always enough adoptive homes for the children that need them.

The writer of the e-mail is obviously a wack job. Don't pay any attention to it. Chances are, he/she is trying to provoke a response so don't give him/her the satisfaction. As for claiming God didn't want you to be adopted - that the most moronic thing I've ever heard.


å°é»ƒ
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"Maybe there is a reason why you did not get adopted? You are white?"

WUT.

Holy sh*t. Hit the Delete key RIGHT NOW.


monkeykitty83
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You shouldn't bother responding. This person knows nothing about you and is speaking in ignorance. You know better than that nonsense. This doesn't deserve your attention; don't waste your time trying to respond.


Freckle Face
WTF???

I am so sorry this idiot emailed you. Hypocrites, i tell you. Who the hell is he/she to judge you? God? I hate lame people who hide behind God to pass judgments on others.

Do not respond. Better yet, email me his/her name.........

Lower than pond scum to abuse an abuse survivor. What comes around goes around, i totally believe that. Take the high road and realize what a f#$*@ing piece of sh*& they are.

You are an amazing person who so deserves love. You deserve happiness. You have my friendship, always:) (((((((((((((((LT)))))))))))))))
Love
Freckles


Stop the Hate Love instead
OMG I am speechless as other have said I wouldn’t even reply to this. I would probably say a prayer for this poster because she/he is clearly in need of it.


Paul Newman is asleep 4eva
What a Religious hypocrite - that is not Christian!

Lots of kids don't get adopted because either the Adopters want young babies or theres a load of legal complications with older kids.,..

Just laugh at the mad cow..


myst1998
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There are lunatics everywhere, please don't take this sort of rubbish to heart as this person is obviously very bitter and has chosen to take his/her wrath and poison out on you.

God doesn't play stupid games like this. He gives human beings free will to do as we please and so it has nothing to do with being good enough or deserving enough. Bad things happen to good people every day... sadly, thats life. People like this just add to the bad things happening as whoever they are, they are lashing out and hurting others and that is bad!

Anyway, delete the stupid email and try to focus on something else. I know its hard not to keep seeing the words in your head but keep in mind the person who wrote it is pathetic, angry and maybe also hurting and you were the person they chose to lash out at.

Peace...

Myst


Sophos
There is not enough credible information here for me to form a valid observation.It seems the person who wrote this has some self-righteous idea of particualrs in your life which they have no first-hand knowledge of other than a question you once asked.
Besides that, the person sounds like someone who continually blames God for human problems. God NEVER causes human suffering, we do that enough ourselves. God provides us opportunities in the situations in our lives which we bring about or which others bring about for us.I would pray for this poor, deluded soul.


Jennifer L
Yikes.

I think the best response is to report it to Y! Answers. This is obviously a messed up person.


Chris J.
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I would not bother responding. It will make no impact on that crazy person.



Zeena
LOL.

You know it's a "true Christian" when they are hateful and use GOD as a weapon.And when they use initials..what's up with that?
Poor pathetic human being.

(ps, when I say 'true Christian" I mean those Christians that think their **** don't stink and they are better than everyone else.They also believe that God "hates" which is a ridicules concept)


Bee ~Brit Mum~
Ugh!

As much as I respect people every religion, people like this certainly give their religion a bad name!

To be honest I wouldn't reply. The person is almost certainly only trying to get a rise out of you, and whatever you say to them, however cool and collected, will mean they've achieved this. It's like going back to school days - if you said nothing to the schoolyard bully they always got wound up and frustrated when they couldn't pick a fight.

You know you're better than this person, and anybody with a head on their shoulders knows the same. Nothing you can say to them will change their views. They are the ones that will lose out at the end of the day. Try not to let it get to you.

The only thing I would possibly do is go through the motions of reporting it to Yahoo, but to be honest I've had emails even worse than this in the past which I've reported and never heard anything about, so it might be a pointless task sadly.


Nathan
Maybe you should reply with several amusing (and insulting) guesses as to what RB might stand for? :)

PS. You probably get this a lot, but I think I'd have to say your avatar is my favorite of anyone on here with the Yahoo avatars.


...
arent religous people like that supposed to be nice. There stupid. I don't think JESUS would want a letter that mean to be sent that was representing him.


Heather
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You don't respond to that email. That person does not deserve your time.


relswete
By not responding you are sending a louder and clearer message that these types of people are not true Christians, and further there are so many reasons kids do not get adopted, one is money..My husband and I would have liked to adopt and older child 11-18 but money is an important issue when it comes to adopting. The system is not great or even good. Do not give this person any credence they are the ones who need cleansing they sound miserable as a person and just worse as a Christian!

Your greatest success in life is that you are! Stand tall and proud and know people do care about the injustice!


Laura O is a Mummy!
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Sorry, but LOL! What a ********. What's their e-mail? Let's get em!


tish
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he can eat a d*ck!

what a loser...

ps.. God text'd me and said that all the loons who envoke his name to hurt others will be made permanently infertle.


Randy B
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Regardless of someones views on the subject of adoption, there is no need for any message as inconsiderate and wrong as that. I wouldn't even have bothered with the cut and paste. I would have gone straight to the delete key.

Sorry that someone was that much of an idiot.


Gershom
They need to go back to church and start praying, thats no God loving Christian. Thats scary. The nerve. You shouldn't respond, its a waste of time.


grapesgum
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Jesus, Joseph,and Mary pray for these the lost souls of these idiots. Intervention from God almighty is their only hope for redemption. We mere humans cannot presume to understand such stupidity,


LaurieDB
What a nasty person. I hope no one gets the idea that this is what Christians believe, as it is not. This person is clearly confused and unkind, to say the least.

I would just ignore the email. I don't think this person has the insight to understand anything beyond his or her delusional thinking.

I am, however, sorry that you were the target of such a hateful piece of correspondence.


TX Mom
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Where did this person gain his judgeship. I thought that only God could judge who was worthy and who was not. All of God's children deserve a loving home, a permanent, loving home.

TX Mom


Sunny
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REPORT IT TO Y!A.

Disgusting!

I'm so sorry, LT.

xx


Gaia Raain
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Oh yeah. That's...um...******* bull ****! God dammit, I can't ******* cuss on here.

So, what this person is saying is that it's your FAULT you weren't adopted??? You were "meant" to be abused, shuffled from house to house? That GOD purposely TOLD the adults around you to **** up so that you could suffer throughout your childhood???

**** THAT ****!!! That pisses me off to no end. Don't even waste your time. Or better yet, ask her if she's taken her meds today. She ******* needs them.


julie j
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Dear L T,

I am very sorry someone sent you that hateful email.

Every child deserves a good childhood. Adoption is no guarantee of that. The fact that you did not have a good childhood is in an indication that society failed you. It was not your fault. Society fails many children in foster care by overlooking them in their rush to find newborn babies.

In a better world, children would be able to stay with their families and not have to deal with foster care or adoption. I know you work very hard to improve the lives of other children, L T, so they will not suffer as much as you did. You are making a difference, and I commend you for that.

I concur with the other posters who advised you to ignore such email.

hugs,

julie j
reunited adoptee
(and former foster child)





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