I am preggo again and im gonna give up my baby?

Zuleika born Sep2

I admire you in a way --- admiting you are not ready to be a parent and deciding to give your baby to a good home...
There are a lot of families who would love to have your baby. ou don't have to go through an agency... you can do it directly with the parents you'd like. If the agency picked a family you were not satisfied with, then you can try to do it another way.

I will have your baby and love it like it deserves to be loved

7rin

Ignore the do-gooders, drinking and smoking during pregnancy while not advisable, isn't guaranteed to ruin your child's body.

And now on to the advice. GET A BLOODY ABORTION, and then either get your tubes tied, burnt and cut, or stop shaggin' around, or go on some long term contraception until you ARE ready to have a kid.

Fuaite le fuil, gaolta go deo

Generally I would say that your baby is best with you but you're smoking and drinking. You're risking fetal alcohol syndrome, premature birth, immature lung development and stillborn.....that doesn't just make you a bad mother, that makes you a bad person!

You should give that baby to your first born's APs, it doesn't matter if you don't like them; if they've loved and nurtured your first baby then you should trust them with your second. Your children deserve to know eachother, if not with a responsible biological relative. Bottom line--clean up your act, get your tubes tied and give this baby to the APs raising your first child.

Lisa N

i think that if you are not ready for a child then yes adoption is the right thing to do, i think that you need to have a word with social service to see what you option is and what is the best way of going about this.
good luck and hope you find a loving home for you baby if you need any help or advice please email me
lisa

We'd love to provide your future baby a loving home. Just having the baby have a safe, loving home should be good enough. Give us some more details about your and the baby's health. Reach out to us if you're serious.

Jessica

Your pregnant again? i would have thought that you would learn from your mistake the first time. No i wont try and persuade you to keep your baby cause it seems like you wouldnt do a very good job parenting. Your child deserves a better mother than one who wont give up drinking and smoking for them
goodluck

Rebellovin

The thing about giving up you're child is that one day the child will want to see their mother, and wonder why she gave them up, and if the only reason you can come up with is "I couldn't be you're mother because I wouldn't give up drinking and smoking for you" Isn't going to cut it, and seeing as the child is usually a teenage or a adult by this time I don't see you're emotions ending on a good note when this child is done with you. You say you don't qualify to be a surrogate mother because of these problems, but yet you basically are seeing as you've already adopted out of you're children.
No you cannot keep you're kids together if the person who took you're first one doesn't want you're second.
Once they find out or see if the baby has alcohol in its system you'll be labeled I'm sure within the adoption community.
I don't think my Husband and I can have children, and within the next few years when hopefully the economy fixes itself we will be able to adopt. Thanks though for you're post it makes me realize what the mother goes through to get rid of her child so she can have her next beer.
I want you to know pregnate alcoholic or not, you sicken me, which means you probably sicken half the other women out there that cannot have their own child from their body, and here you are throwing you'res out because you want to have you're next brewsky, ciggarette, joint, and you're next lay which will knock you up again.
Wear Condoms, Get On Depo, Get on Something other than a man!
-------On the other HAND-----------
If there wasn't people like you who had so little concern for the innocent child you're carrying inside of yourself then people who cannot have kids would'nt have any kids to adopt.
So I don't know if you're post pisses me off, or put me into a panic attack because I know that there will always be a child out there wishing fora Mother and Father whom cares about them.

Lish

yes u sound too selfish to be a parent. ever thought of wearing a FU*King CONDOM? or going on the pill? or having ur tubes tied? or learning from ur mistakes? seriously, once, i can understand , but twice?
DJ - Not all mothers are like this, many find it very hard go give up their babies. This girl is obviously very stupid.

Lauren Elia <3

Even though you don't like them, the children do deserve to be together so I suggest asking the parents of your other child if they would like to adopt this one as well.

By the way, maybe you should consider not drinking or cutting down on drinking alcohol during the pregnancy as it can hurt the baby.

daisy65

For gods sakes you do know that birth control exists, dont you?
If you dont like children take care of yourself so this will not happen.
Also smoking and drinking stuns a babys growth and can affect
them with all sorts of problem when theyre born. And let me tell you
a sick baby takes longer to adopt than a healthy one. At least while
youre pregnant please dont smoke/drink. That baby didnt ask to be
here. now about the private adoption im sure that you will find
endless parents who cant have children but its not legal for them to
give you money for expenses that is (selling a baby), go to a qualified
agency and they will match you up to parents and they will pay some
expenses.

cottonlily84

This question is so outrageous it can't be serious. It's crap like this that gives adoption such a bad stigma.

Halze6620

Im sorry. But people like you make me FURIOUS. I don't care how old you are, if you are old enough to lay down with someone and do the nasty, then you need to understand the repercussions to that. I myself am a smoker and I drink on OCCASION. let me tell you, when i became pregnant, like many other people, I QUIT. it is not fair to that poor child. If you do not have the will power to give up something as simple as SMOKING AND DRINKING how in Gods name will you give up a child... Take the advice others have given you and CLOSE YOUR LEGS or get your tubes tied. I do hope that child you are pregnant with lives a very happy life with a very loving family, Which it RIGHTFULLY deserves.. Until the blessed day you give birth and continue on with your sad excuse or a life, you should think about a lot of things. starting with getting some help with addiction..
grow the F*CK up.

jax

don't worry I'm not going to talk you out of adoption just listening to you all but say you want to sell your baby but your older child as well makes me soooo sad for you kids i hope you find a wonderful family but just so you know that you won't get any money for them they may pay your bills while your pregnant it all stops once the baby is born!!

maybe after you have this one you may look into surrogacy they get paid to have babies for people if it doesn't bother you to give your children away then this could be a career for you!

gypsywinter

Monies regulated??? Are you wanting to sell this kid to someone?

You are either a troll, or a Breeder...in every sense of the word!

BIRTH CONTROL!!!!

anthony

You wanna make some money after you give this baby away? I'll pay you $1,000 to get your tubes tied!

Try ebay or Craigslist.

Hott Mama

Give them to someone that wants them. They shouldn't have to pay for it. Some people can't have kids and they really want them. The fact that you don't want them and you keep having them makes me sick to my stomach. Just find it a good home and quit getting pregnant.

AdoreHim

I know that people that think you are wise deciding to place your baby, will get thumbs down, but that does not deter me in the least from being one of those people. You can go to another agency and select a different set of parents for your child. One thing that bothers me though is that you drink and smoke and refuse to stop. Do you realize what that can do to your unborn child? Even though you are not ready to parent, you should still care enough for the life you are carrying to not smoke or drink during your pregnancy. The birth mom of our son smoked and drank, but the moment she found out that she was pregnant she stopped both, because she cared about the health of the baby she was carrying. Our daughter's birth mom and birth father were drug addicts. Her birth mom did stop taking drugs while pregnant with her, however just a week before her birth took some. Praise God , our daughter was ok, but that was because we were very fortunate. You seem to want what is best for your child, and the best is for him/her to reside in a healthy body free from smoke and drugs.

smarmy

I was just reading through your past questions. I couldn't help but be drawn to the one that said you hadn't gotten your period yet. And EVERYONE told you not to worry. Getting pregnant right after delivering is highly possible as your insides are not completely closed yet. (This is for future reference)

As to what to do about this child, abort it. You have already stated you do not want to be found, which means any medical history your children might need later to save their lives or their children's lives, you have no intention of giving, so why make them suffer the costly medical guessing games of finding out what is wrong with them, especially at a time when our health care is in such a shambles and on the verge of being grossly "deformed".

The irony is that by the time your kids grow up and realize that you took no health precautions on their behalf, gave away the first dozen you produced, and lied and hid like a coward from them, they probably won't want anything to do with you anyway, but YOU will have had a change of heart and want to know about them.

I'm curious why you don't like the adoptive parents YOU picked out?

And before you assume I have no idea what its like to be in your shoes, I most certainly do. Surrendered the first child, had two more back to back, that I kept. They call them Irish twins (also for future reference)

I've been in reunion for over a decade and had a grand child who needed medical history. So I think I can safely say you are making a huge mistake by trying to keep the fact that you had "how ever many" kids and surrendered them all, from your future husband (as stated in one of your other questions)

By the time you "are" ready to marry you might want to think about catching a young naive one, because "a man" will know the difference between a body that has and has not delivered a few kids.

Personally I think you're a troll. But the information you allowed me to get out there to young women who actually think like this, was well worth the time to post it.

Ferbs

First of all...if you can't stop smoking...please stop drinking. Can you agree to giving that up temporarily so you can resume your life after.

You increase your chances of placing a HEALTHY child into a good home.

Secondly, go to websites like CanadaAdopts.com (ok just thumbs down right away-the woman needs access to families ASAP) so you can start viewing potential parents. There are a bunch of websites that do this.

Be prepared: You will be screened and you should be honest about your degree of drinking because any adoptive family needs to be prepared for the possibility of Fetal Alcohol Syndrome.

It shouldn't cost you a thing either way and in Ontario...the cost of counselling as well as some basic pre-natal necessities are covered but EXPENSES CANNOT BE PAID. It is different in the US that way...but here...it isn't meant to be profitable.

At least you recognize you can't be a parent but PLEASE give this child a healthy start in life. Give up the partying or drinking. PLEASE.

In Ontario I can put you in touch with the few licensees we deal with. Then you can choose whatever you want from that point. Legally. I know them through our past/future adoption(s) and they are great. They will have a list of parents approved and able to provide. You get to pick like last time. To keep unbiased...I will keep our names out of the communications.

If you really mean you feel guilty about your kids' situations...you will do right by the life inside you and keep it as healthy as possible until birth.

drkangel210e

For the sake of your child you need to freaking give up drinking and smoking right now. If/when you give this child up, get an IUD immediately. With a copper IUD you won't have to worry about birth control form 10 years. There's no excuse for 'accidentally' getting pregnant over and over again without really owning up to the gravity of the situation. Abortion shouldn't be used as birth control and neither should adoption.

@@@@@

I hope someone calls social services on you. You are ENDANGERING the welfare of the baby by drinking.

How easy do you think it will be for a child with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome or other birth defects to be adopted?

You will rot in hell.

mrssalyers08

I agree... You should keeps your legs closed... What are you like 16? Or are you just that immature? This isn't something you should be proud of putting on the internet! Your parents need to give you a good old fashioned a** beating! If your older then you missed out on alot of a** whippings that you needed! It is amazing.. girls like you who open their legs like a revolving door can get knocked up whenever they lay down and their are women dying to be mothers out there who deserve the blessing and love of a baby far more than you ever will that have to pay thousands of dollars to have a baby or have to adopt.... It is ridiculous.... BIRTH CONTROL!!!! SHUT YOUR LEGS!!!!! CONDOM!!!!!! Ever heard of any of that? It actually seems like you want money out of lying on your back.... You really should be ashamed of yourself..... BTW: I do trust you you shouldn't be a parent! I don't need my tax dollars going to some Jezebel lying on her back collecting food stamps! Your kids should know nothing about you! They would be ashamed! Why do you continue to get knocked up if all your doing is giving them up and popping another one out!

U Hate ME! U Really HATE ME!

If you are giving up your baby, why do you care who the parents are?

Contact your first babies adoptive family and see if they want another, to keep your children together. Just because you didn't like them, does not mean they are not good parents.

LIMITED ToO!

would it not be cheaper to operate to close your tubes! you will have all the fun,drink and abuse your poor body and what little brain you have left without messing up a childÂ´s life!

â™¥Noah is almost 2!â™¥

maybe you should keep your legs closed then, ever thought of that?

John

You should do whatever you feel is best.

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