IS ABORTION BETTER THAN ADOPTION .?

chrissy b

i personally think not making a baby in the first place if you dont want one is better,but i do believe that abortion should only be necessary if the baby was a result of rape,incest(would you really want your child to live his/her life suffering from genetic defects?),or the mother for whatever reason cannot carry the child in her body. in all honesty im against abortion but then again you cant get the whole world to agree with you and i know people have thier reasons so i dont judge. but to me it seems that people keep treating children like a mess that somebody else has to clean up and thats just not fair to the children. and there are so many people who cant have children who will make such great parents if given the chance so i dont shun adoption

Old Fashioned Mother

Abortion is a sin. It is murder, whichever way it is looked at. If you are irresponsible enough to find yourself in an unplanned pregnancy then you either raise the child yourself or you place if for adoption.
I sincerely wish abortion was made illegal with the exception of medical cases.

Mrs Taylor

In my opinion no abortion is not better than adoption. Adoption means a family who cant have children will get thier children they always wanted. Abortion is just ending a life before it has a chance to start

Mango

Abortion is not better than adoption because abortion is murder. With adoption you can at least give the child to someone that will love and take care of him/her.

AdoreHim

Oh yes, taking the life of a baby is much better than allowing a child to live and be adopted into a family. I hope and pray that you realize that I was being sarcastic here. I cannot understand how anyone would think that death is better than life.

SORRY if I came across angry. I normally try and be a bit more gentle then this. But sometimes righteous anger is ok, because we have to stand up for what we believe. EVERYONE else does. Abortion is taking a life. No matter how much a woman may not want a child, that woman put themselves in a position to get pregnant. Where is the responsibility?

Abortion is never a choice that should be made in my opinion. It is the same thing as murder, all the more heinous because it is the murder of a completely helpless and innocent soul. If someone doesn't want to keep their child then they should utilize adoption because at least that way they will get to exist and can be placed with someone who does want them and will love them. Hope this helps!

Devanie

You could also explore the issue of embryonic adoption vs. disposal of unwanted/unneeded embryos.

People can wax on, wax off about how adoption and abortion are not either/or decisions, but aren't they? I get the argument, but if I you look at it through a very pro-choice perspective. Me, personally, would never consider abortion. If I knew I would be unable to parent, my only option would be adoption. If someone waffles on their decision regarding abortion and wants to avoid an illegal late-term birth, then their option is to parent or to place the child. However, abortion was always a choice for them.

I think the point re: cortisol levels and the coercive nature of pre-birth agreements is a very good one, but if not for that, then we'd have more kids dropped off at police stations or shelters or in garbage cans. More trafficking. You'd be forcing the mother to make an impetuous decision instead of a very hard one. Most states have laws in place to allow the mother to change her mind after birth. It's a very difficult decision to turn your back on an adoptive family, but it's one that can be made and as much as I would feel incredible guilt, I would make the decision that seemed right for me after I met my child. I think most people are the same.

Marion

sometimes

Snotalie

dead babies aren't good for anyone
my priest says that abortion ruins two lives,
one dead
one wounded

Ellen

My cousin was found in a dumpster as an infant only a few hours old, which is only slightly older than some states allow abortions to be conducted. My aunt and uncle adopted him and he is now an indespensible part of our family, and a lead in his school plays.

He enjoys his life. Who are we to try and see the future?

Ferbs

In my view, abortion is not an option FOR ME. I don't deny the right to others. So based on my PERSONAL beliefs only, abortion is not better.

Despite the repeated attempt to separate the two issues...they are not mutually exclusive.

TRUE: One is choosing to carry a pregnancy to term one isn't. In that regard...two separate issues.

BUT: In the original decision making for many...parenting vs. abortion vs. adoption are part of the process. I am only speaking to the initial options one might consider.

I find it interesting that the two are claimed as unrelated...except when claiming that abortion is/would be/would have been preferrable to placing a child for adoption.

So which is it?

cricketlady

Abortion stops a beating heart--literally. If you've ever had a scan and the tiny baby you can see the heart beating. Adoption gives that baby a chance to have a normal loving family---the same as any other baby--wanted or unwanted.

Dread Head has a pet Zorro

100% depends on the situation.

i had to abort my last. Had i not we both would have died at about 20wks gestation.
soooo.... in my case abortion was a much better option
(adoption would not be an option for us... but my case works as a good example as to why abortions are good in some cases)

7rin

Absolutely.

Abandoned to adoption at 7mths old. I didn't have a bad adoption - my afamily are the best I could ever have chosen... but if I'd been able to choose, and I'd known then what I know now, I'd've chosen to be aborted before birth instead, 'cause at least that way the lifetime of agony I've gone through would've been over in minutes, instead of the decades that I've been suffering for now.

Been in reunion a few months, and even that's agonising.

gypsywinter

YES! Based on my own personal experience with both.

smarmy

Tired of doing other peoples home work. I'll go with yes and leave it at that.

Each person's situation is different and no one person can decide if abortion is better than adoption. Only the woman facing this decision can determine which option is better for her.

â™¥â™¥Mum To Superkids is engagedâ™¥â™¥

You're comparing apples and oranges. Abortion is the termination of a foetus which ends it's growth and prevents it from becoming a viable baby. You can't adopt a foetus, you can only adopt a living, breathing child who already exists. I think people need a simple human biology lesson.
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mapleleaf2

You are basing your research project on a fallacy, a common fallacy, but still one that you should be aware has been challenged.

To state what has been said before: Abortion and adoption are NOT alternatives to each other. The decisions regarding the two should be made many months apart.

When a woman gets pregnant, her choice is motherhood or abortion. IF she has decided on motherhood, then the choice regarding being a mother raising her child or a mother without her child can only really be made once she has recovered from birth and thus pregnancy hormones are not affecting her judgement. You cannot 'decide' on adoption while still pregnant -- you have NO idea what motherhood will be like and how drastically it will change your body and even your brain structure (scientific fact - pregnancy and birth causes permanent neurological change).

So, how about doing your research project on how society has this misconception that the two, abortion and adoption, are in any way related, and how they are not. Look at the changes that happen to a woman during the nine months of pregnancy and how it affects her decision making and judgement (example: cortisol levels in later pregnancy are as high as in someone with major depression, the brain shrinks an average of 5%, oxytocin levels skyrocket causing her to "bond with" her baby and even those around her, affecting her possible judgement regarding "trusting" prospective adopters (and then wondering after the birth why on earth she gave away her child -- the big reason why 'pre-birth matches" are inherently coercive).

LinnyG

Better for whom?

You cannot adopt a fetus. Abortion is the choice to terminate a pregnancy. Adoption is the choice to terminate parental rights. It is not the responsibility for fertile women to supply babies for infertile women.

Many first Mothers (women who have surrendered children to adoption) state that an abortion would have been less painful, that adoption gives you no closure.

Some adoptees wish they had been aborted versus carried to term and relinquished, because living with strangers and missing your mother are very traumatic.

I was adopted, and had an abortion BECAUSE I was adopted. There was NO WAY I would put a child through a lifetime of confusion and doubts. My adoptive mother supported my decision and fully understood. I have never regretted my decision. I have met very few first mothers who have not regretted their decision to surrender.

Abortion is a separate issue. One happens before birth, one happens after birth. Abortion is safe, legal, and effective. Adoption does NOT guarantee a child a better life, only a different life.

THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10

Absolutely not! abortion is murder plain and simple; a fetus has a heart rate within in days of conception and is a human being not just a oops: I was adopted by a loving family and i have 5 other brothers and sisters who were also placed for adoption...

I thank god every day for being on this earth; and for my biological mom giving me two things beside my life a stuffed dog i have and my first name is my fathers last name...

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