If I am to adopt a child that is a baby should I keep the name its mother gave them???????

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I think you should name it what you want to since the baby is a baby and probably doesn't know it's name by now.

Jeanne D

if it's an open adoption then i think you and the mother should have a conversation about what both of you want after all your going to raise the baby and be up late at night with it so why can't you name it?

Mary

How old is the child?? Caitlyn has to many different spellings and is too common. Talk with the mother and tell her your thoughts but leave it open ended so you are not forcing her to make another decision. She is going through a tough enough time already! Or don't tell her at all. Are you planning on calling the child Katherine,Kate,KC, I think that the name Katerine Lynn would sound agreeable to all involved. Everyone has nicknames and the birth mother may call her Caitlyn which would be short for Katherine Lynn. My daughters name is Olivia and at home I call her both Olivia and Missy. I do not know why I do it just fits her. Although I would not want her name to be Missy.

Ps. I just did spell checker while editing this and the were 7 spellings for Kaitlin. Please make it easy on the kids. Don't try to be unique with spelling!!!!!

lAdREA

You the one adopting it! Name it what you want, not what the mother want or anybody else, besides you the one thats going to be feeding and clothing the child!

avi

You can name her whatever you want. You're the one who has to use the name everyday. I think this woman might be seriously considering keeping her baby. Just giving you the heads up.

lilloric

it's odd for a parent to give up a child and want to name it too.in this case i wouldn't count your chickens before they hatch, because it sounds like she is forming an attachment to the child.personally i don't care for either name but for my own reasons i know people who have both names and the 1 is a spoiled obese brat and the other a filthy skank.if your the one who's going to be raising the child i would say the name you picked .

Dallas is pregnant w/ # 3!

It will be YOUR baby. If she wants to name her, then she can keep her.

It's your right as her legal mother to name her whatever you want.

If this makes the biological mother sad, say "I'm sorry, I just really love the name Katherine, can we name her Katherine Kate? I want something that I love for her name, because she will by my child" Or something like that...

I like Katherine spelled Catherine. =)

chicki

You should totaly name the girl katherine and use Caitlyn as the middle name...best of luck

cricketlady

I like Katherine.

Mommy of 5

If the child isn't here yet or an infant name her what you would like. But to me if the child is over 2 and knows their name you should keep the first name what was given unless of course it's something like "our savior".

I knew a couple who adopted a 4 year old boy named Our Savior.

KatiPackk.

You can rename her if you like, but Caitlyn and Katherine both mean the same thing, Caitlyn is the Irish version. :]

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u can but u dont have to

dontknow86

The choice is yours.

J'adoreGlamour

Put it as her middle name

tkquestion

You can make a good argument for both ways.

The way I would think about it, you are giving this baby a new life - perhaps the one that wouldn't exist if both you didn't exist. If you want to give baby a new name to signify her new beginning, that would be a good reason to do it.

Or - if you want to respect the birth mother and baby's heritage, then keep it the same.

You are the parent... you decide.

lauren_taylor_22

I think it truly depends on the situation. Only you can know if you should grant the birth mother's wishes. Is she giving the child up because she doesn't want him/her or because she knows he/she will be better off with you?

Holly W

It is hard enough to give up a baby but remember the names we have are gifts from our mothers. Please allow her this one gift to her baby after all she is giving you a life she created and that takes a whole lot of love to do. Caitlin is a pretty name you can always name her Caitlin Katherine.

aloha.girl59

It's considerate of you to think about how the baby's mother will feel if you change the child's name. Could you maybe compromise and name the baby Kaitlin? Then it's the name she likes with the K you like. If you do adopt, please keep the adoption open as you are stating. Unless the baby's mother is dangerous in some way, there isn't really a reason for keeping her out of the baby's life.

Kyle F.

maybe you could just give her a nick name until she is old enough to choose. then everyone would win.

of course then there's the problem of the nick name.

ashlea

my daughter was adopted her is Carlie Reenee her parents kept her name for me. But maybe you and the birth-mother can work out a name that you and her will like together. A open adoption is the best for birth mother and adoption parents too. I have open adoption too.

smarmy

I like Caitlyn Katherine better than Katherine Caitlyn.

How old is the child? If she has already started to respond to the name the birth mother gave her I wouldn't change it. And either of those two names could reasonably be given the nickname Kate Or Caitie.

Melodious

i would make her real name her middel

LinnyG

My daughter's name is Caitlin. Its derived from the name Katherine. Naming her Katherine Caitlyn would be like naming her Susanna Susan.

I think you should name her Katherine, but call her Cait or Caitlyn for short. That way everyone is happy. I am adopted, and I wish I had my original name.

x0x0x_lauren_luvs_u

try meshing names and giving her a unique, one of a kind name with a story behind it.

Serenity71

Keep her name as it is. Caitlyn is the Irish for of Katherine anyway...or close to it. (You could always give her a middle name, and that can be from you.) Both my daughters have kept the first name from their first mother. We gave them a middle name from us.

whip_cream_rockstar

Its hard enough to give up a child....
You should keep Caitlyn as the first name.
Later, you will regret it if you don't.
Hope i helped=]
&what does it matter, your getting a kid, the problem shouldn't be its name!

Arielle H

maybe name her katherine and have caitlyn be her middle name. then u honor your wishes and the wishes of the birth mom. congratulations on having a baby girl! best of luck <3

Wellspring

"she wants to name it Caitlyn"

and the baby is still her baby

H******

She already has a name. Honor it.

racheypoo

...???

First, this is SERIOUSLY the biggest issue??

Secondly, you are THINKING of adopting and you're discussing names? Have you been legally approved to adopt? Or is this just a story you're telling?

For what it's worth, I think it's INCREDIBLY disrespectful to their first mother to change a child's name, unless there is a damn good reason for it (unpronouncable, profane --this happens...I fostered a baby out of the hospital once for a few weeks, and the poor little gaffer had a name that made me blush...from what I hear, it did get changed later, though I don't know by whom--or some other really good reason that I can't think of right now).

It's also unkind to the child...Any name is chosen with love, and it belongs to them. The most you should do is add a middle name.

That said, I am faced with naming a baby boy that I will be fostering (and possibly adopting) out of the hospital...We never expected a task like this, but his first mom never named him, and is currently unreachable. I plan to give him a name, and if they happen to be reunited (which, sadly, seems unlikely at this point), I would have no hard feelings about her re-naming him. Sometimes, names are personal. They may run in the family, or what have you. If she is able to parent her son, she may choose to give him a name that is meaningful in her family.

But seriously, though, you better figure out if you are "thinking" of adopting or are "actually" adopting. Your story doesn't add up.

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