Im pregnant and would like to put the baby up for adoption but it seems as if people have an issue with my age?

luvstolaugh227

Go through Catholic Charities in the main city where you live- they are a wonderful resource for you just as much as the adopters!

Good luck to you!

Ranchmom1

Talk to Bethany Christian Services, they are great. 1-800-BETHANY.

amyhpete

I think being 36 you may fit the term, "advanced maternal age" strange as it may seem. You still feel 18 on the inside, right? I think perhaps people are worried about Downs Syndrome, Cystic Fibrosis, Autism and other issues that seem to increase with advanced maternal and paternal (was the father your age or older?) age while the baby of a 17-21 year old just seems like it would be healthier.

You may have to go through ads in the paper or another private route rather than an agency, but be careful for predators. If you find a potential adoptive family, perhaps they will pay for an amniocentesis so at least you'll all have an idea of whether the baby has birth defects or not. Even if the news there is bad, there are still adoptive parents out there more than willing to adopt a special needs baby - you might just need to look around more.

Bob Giannascoli

its better to adopt then abortion, at least consider the choice of finding a home for the baby. dont listen to the guy, he is a scumbag.

Dylan, Ethan & Lillian's Mom

I want to adopt so bad..I wish I could adopt your baby...lol you should do a private adoption if you know of someone who wants the baby..it is cheaper for the adopted parent and easier..good luck!

caz

Don't worry- you've made the right decision...there are a lot of people willing to agree to adoption before the baby is even born- like people in your situation and im sure they'd be happier adopting from a healthy, middle aged woman rather than a teenager who could be smoking or on drugs so you have a large change of finding someone or a couple wanting to adopt. I don't know much about actually agencies seeing as i dont know where you live, but the 1st answer seems like a good idea- there are probably many christian charity organisations willing to help. Good Luck!

dontknow86

Age shouldn't matter. Get an Lawyer and he can help you it will cost you $0 and the A-Parents will pay your medical bills.

Megan

Any adoption agency would be happy to work with you, I think you're asking for someone who is used to working with women and not just girls. Adoption.com is always a good place to start, they have a lot of information. Rainbowkids.com works with plenty of agencies, but is more for adoptive families. SpenceChapin.org is a good site to check out, they have a special needs program, and I know they work with all ages.
Your chance of having a baby born with downs is higher but still only 1 in 300. There are actually waiting lists for parents willing to adopt children with downs, so that should not be an issue.
As far as all the responses about adoption being a bad choice, I'm sorry that there are horror stories related to adoption. It gives adoptive families a bad stigma sometimes. There are so many loving families out there. Choosing your child's family is a huge decision. If you are listening you will know them when you find them. I can tell you from experience the love a family feels for an adopted child is no different than for a bio child. I will be praying for you.

LaraSue

Any agency or adoption attorney should be able to help you. Your age should not matter.

wants 2b a mommy

I am a 32 yr old woman who can not have a baby. Very happily married and wish to have another child. I have no issue with your age and commend you for your decision!!!! If interested in speaking further please email me at my yahoo email. As I am serious. We are registered foster parents with our state. This means our home study, background screening and drug tests are complete. I am a nanny by profession and my husband is in the USMC.

Michymamma

Contact me I don't mind helping. I will find some places that would be more then happy to help you. What state do you live in so I can start doing some research for you.

Dianna

Keri Bear

Hello! I am your same age and my husband and I are not able to have children. We currently are with an adoption agency. I commend you for being honest with how you feel and wanting to do what is right for yourself and your baby. I also want to apologize for some of the answers you have gotten. Please don't let them make you feel bad.

If you do indeed want to give your baby up for adoption and are looking for a family, please contact me. We are a very strong couple and our dream is to have a baby. Good luck to you! God Bless!

Keri

kerbearjo@yahoo.com

Candy Corn

birth control pills are 99% effective! geez. why not have an abortion and save everyone a lot of pain

Heather

I don't think age should be an issue. I think it should be if you feel you can handle having a child.
My husband and I have been trying to have a child for 2 years and we are looking into adoption. I wish you luck and if you would like to talk to me my email is tom_heather_fox@yahoo.com

Thank You

MyLifeâ™¥MyStory<3

Are you sure this is what you want to do?
anyways look up good efficient agencies in your city and you can start from there.

sundragonjess

You are doing the right thing. If you can't raise another child, it's best to put the baby up for adoption. Would your grown daughter want to adopt the baby? All of these people are telling you to get an abortion, but if you would ask anyone that was adopted, they would rather have a life without their biological parents than no life at all. If you need someone to talk to, email me.

LinnyG

If you "can't have" another child, get an abortion. You are contradicting yourself.

glhc

As someone who is considering adopting a baby at some point, I don't see why anyone should have an issue with your age. I would think that some people would actually feel better about your age, since at 36 you are probably more responsible regarding drinking, drugs, etc.

Good for you for considering adoption! It's a wonderful to give your baby life, and to give a couple a chance at a child that they probably would not have otherwise.

hrcarr

I don't know of any sites, but I have a good friend who is trying to adopt a baby. She has a lawyer and everything is ready to go. Email me and tell me about yourself and I'll pass it on to my friend. I'm sorry for your situation, but there are a lot of wonderful people out there dying to be parents. My friend would be a wonderful mother (she is married).

sizesmith

There are many sights. Cafemom.com has a group where you can search for birthmother profiles, Be very careful online, because although there are some wonderful people who want to adopt (I know I'm one), there are also some loony ones out there.

Our son's first mom was 29 when she had him. 30 when she had her next child that she chose to parent.

No one should have an issue with your age. There are a few risks, but they're small, and there are tests that can be done before the baby is born. Make sure that you get contact information for the father, even though he obviously doesn't want the baby, it can make the adoption process much easier if he'll sign the consent forms.

Make sure you know your rights. A mother who's placing has every right to meet the parents, see their home, meet their extended family members, and more. Any agency that tells you that is impossible is wrong, and you should RUN away from there. Our son's first mom, by her asking and her choice, wanted to move in with us right before the baby was born, so he'd come home to noises that were familiar, and so she could get to know us very good, and to know her decision was right. It's a little weird, but for his sake, has really, really worked.

There are those of us also, who know that agencies will run over a woman who's placing. They get paid lots of money to do so, so don't trust them either, just because they have a billboard out front.

You also should demand a copy of anything you sign, and keep it in a safe place. In the event you change your mind, and decide to parent, there are a limited number of hours/days you can, depending on where you live. The instructions should be laid out in the consent forms. Don't be afraid to say NO to anyone if you don't feel the decision is right. I also urge you to do open adoption, so this way, the baby can know who you are in the future. Good luck in your processes, and I hope everything works for you, and most of all, for the baby.

Kristi56295

www.Bethany.org They should be able to place your baby in a loving home regardless of your age. Abortion is never the answer. Those who are adopted are most certainly NOT second class citizens as someone who commented earlier told you.

GEE-GEE

There are lots of sites that list the waiting families. Go to www.adoptionhelp.org. They have lots of them listed.

snowwillow20

I totally agree with LoriA. Read every word she wrote twice. You have no idea how life altering adoption can be for everyone. Save yourself a lot of heart ache.

Contact your local department of human services or social services agency, they are the best place to start and will make sure your baby goes to a carefully screened home.

fastpawsbengals

I do not understand why any one serious about adopting would have a problem with your age at all. My husband and I are currently waiting to be matched with an expecting mom and we would never turn our heads because of age. I would have to say if anything i would think people would feel more comfortable as you are a responsible adult. I wish you the best of luck and i am sure you have received many answers on here but if you are still looking for options feel free to contact me back and i can at least tell you the place we are going threw which i know works with any and everyone and does not make anyone feel belittled. Again best of luck and God Bless

Amanda

kateiskate is getting married

I'm an adoptee myself and I just wanted to give you a little something to think about.

I would be very disappointed, hurt, saddened, upset, etc, if I found out one day that you could have raised me but decided to surrender because you thought you were too old, or too poor, or because you were single.

http://thequeenofdenial.wordpress.com

Lori A

I think the reason you are getting back lash is because at 36 you are not young and impressionable. You have a mind of your own and are quite capable of making decisions based on YOUR life experiences. Not like the teenagers who have had no real life experiences yet and don't know how manipulative people can be.

I assume you do not WANT to raise another child at this age. if that is the case say so, don't say it's because you can't, unless you really can't. In that case abortion seems to be a viable option. I had my first at 16, surrendered her, and was so screwed up form it I waited another 20 years to have more, making me 36 and 37 when i had my sons. It's not impossible to do, in fact it has its advantages over being so young, wisdom and the ability to smell BS.

Adoption is not the wonderful scenario most people paint. You should read up on it before permanently screwing up another human being, making them a forever second class citizen, and being the cause of their civil rights being violated on a daily basis.

If you are only interested in the plans you had set for yourself and not interested in what happens to your baby, like trust and abandonment issues, attachment disorders, servitude, rape, being a personal punching bag for want to be parents, and so much more then call that number you were given. But in all honesty, I haven't heard anything that even remotely sounds like this is for the child, it sounds like its going to inconvenience you.

Do you really think by letting the child live he/she is going to feel less pain? Get off the adoption web sites who peddle flesh for a living and goggle some real peoples stories who have been there and had to live with the results. Like being kept in cages, broken bones, starved, teeth knocked out, not to mention the emotional scars. BTW while your in those sites, try signing in as an adoptive parent looking for a kid. That way you can see how much their going to make off your baby that you are giving away. That's a lot of paperwork shuffling to cost so much. And what do you get? That's right, your not allowed to make one red cent, that would be child trafficking.

I know my post is going to draw a lot of negative response because not all adoptive parents are as evil as what i have posted. The point is some are and once you sign your rights away to your child, you have no legal leg to stand on. Did you know they can be returned like pets, and live their life out in foster care? google foster care and see what happens to kids in the system.

danielle

Theres lots of places you can go but I would definately adopt your baby and pay you? Its something to think about cause me and my husband cant seem to get pregnant and really want a baby :(

Want To Adopt

My husband and I are looking for the right place to apply for adoption. If any one can give any help it would be great. We are a young couple that are unable to have children of our own. We have talked about IVF but there our so many parents out there that are unable to take care of their children we think adoption might be better. (Any ideas)

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