Is infertility an opportunity to make the world a better place?

sophia

That would be a blessing wouldn't it.

Tamsyn B

If a woman is told she can't have her own child, she dies inside. I can see where you're coming from but having your own child, if you are a responsible adult, means everything.

.I.L.M.B.-&-.M.G.

well yes... that is a very good way to look at it... im not but im still gonna adopt when im older cuz yeah... i wanna have a little girl.. hehe

Steve

good idea

Serenity71

No... its just how it is. I stopped justifying it years ago with explanations. We became a family when my husband I git married. It began there, we extended our family through adoption. Just how it is...

Independ"ant"

I find it interesting that you equate Infertility with becoming an Opportunist.

I'll agree with you on that point.

monkeykitty83

No, not specifically infertility. There are children out there who genuinely need homes, and they should be taken in by families who will love them, whether as adoptive parents or guardians depending on the situation... but it doesn't have anything to do with the parents' fertility status. Whether or not the parents can conceive, adoption should be about the CHILDREN who need homes, not filling an emptiness the parents feel.

Fertile people are no less able to provide a loving adoptive home. Wanting to parent a child who needs a family should be the underlying factor, not fertility or some view of changing the world.

B. White

Infertility can be an incredibly horrible and sad affliction. Everyone has an opportunity to make the world a better place, regardless of fertility status. Also, most of the children who need homes are older or have health problems. There aren't nearly as many infants who need homes as families who want to adopt an infant.

avi

Nah.

Michael

You can interpret infertility in a number of ways. Let's face it, we're an overpopulated planet with millions of poverty-stricken people, one less person reproducing is a good thing for our environment.

parenting is an option II

I hope when you say unwanted children that you are referring to kids in foster care, but that's still not nice to call them that.

But from what I hear most babies are wanted. I wanted my children so people looking to adopt and parent other people's children need not ask if I would like to adopt out my kids. Those crazy people are the reason I don't take my infant out in public to often.

And not everybody that adopts is infertile in case you didn't know. People adopt their family members, people adopt from foster care to help children that actually need homes, and most often adoption occurs by a step parent. WOW.

Thank god for all the wonderful infertile people looking to adopt all the unwanted children in the world. (Rolls Eyes)

Flaming June

No.

I think education and manners will.

...

That's assuming infertile people make better parents. I know for sure there are an abundance of people who can't and should have children.

I think most of the time infertility is natures way weeding out dangerous genes like cystic fibrosis, 98% are infertile, but if they were not, we would have a much higher rate of CF.

Infertility is typically associated with other conditions that may cause harm to the baby or mother, like Thyroid problems, Acquired diseases, Blood clotting issues, Genetic diseases, lifestyles incompatible with parenting I think in most cases, the the issue is resolved, the fertility returns.

Lady Rowan

i agree with Jackie B. i think you should seriously consider finding your bio mom. You'll be suprised what might have been kept from you.

And no, it doesnt make the world a better place. How dare you trivilaze what is such a heart breaking subject for many women.

Carol c

No. Sorry you were unwanted by your mother Ollie but if it didn't bother you as you say - you wouldn't be spending so much time trying to bait people or start trouble. You've morphed into a pesky little fly.

JennaBear

sounds like someone has a savior complex...

â™¥â™¥Mum To Superkids is engagedâ™¥â™¥

Wow, now I've seen it all.

Yes, all the ills of the world can be solved by infertility. Feed the homeless to the hungry eh?

Andraya - Snark's Sister

That doesn't even make sense... at all.

Nature doesn't care about unwanted anything. Nature is the food chain, global warming, natural disasters etc... Nature isn't able to care, it doesn't have emotions, hell it doesn't even have a brain to emote with.

Jack Putter

I'm sorry you think you were unwanted.

Jennifer, that deserves a standing ovation.

Fertility and parenting are two completely different topics that shouldn't be smooshed into one.

Bookwarm

Infertility simply means one is unable to conceive and carry to term. There is absolutely no correlation between fertility and parenting abilities.

kateiskate is getting married

Wow. You managed to bash everyone all at once. Good job.

I'm unwanted, my birthmother is an abandoner, and my adoptive parents are infertile. That's how it is huh?

What a small minded view of the world.

Jennifer L

Wow. This is pretty offensive on a lot of levels.

We've heard it said over and over again that it isn't the responsibility of the fertile people to provide the infertile with babies.

I'd take that one step further and say that it isn't the responsibility of the infertile people to take care of all the "unwanted" children in the world. Being infertile is not a requirement for adoption or fostering, yet somehow when someone says they are infertile, suddenly the burden is place entirely on their shoulders.

There are children in the world that need homes and it's everyone's responsibility as a human being to do something to make the world a better place.

Candy

No I do not agree that infertility is an opportunity to make the world a better place. You should adopt children because you want to not because you have to.

Isabel A

Speak for yourself...YOU may have been unwanted but most adoptees are very much wanted.

Infertility as a way to save the world? From what?

Give me a break.

This question is offensive on all levels.

You should be ashamed of yourself.

aloha.girl59

Well, at least you're finally being honest about your name.

Really, Ollie? "Unwanted" children? Other than the very, very few that end up in dumpsters, do you REALLY think there are tons and tons of unwanted kids just roaming the streets ANYWHERE in this world? You're so deluded it's frightening.

life is like the ocean

Infertility is not going to make the world a better place. Simple human compassion will.

Jackie B

Are you freaking serious?

My infertility (nor does anyone else's) does not make the world a better place. Nor is it nature's way of caring for the unwanted.

I think you've been on this board long enough to know that most children aren't unwanted. Is that how you see yourself? As unwanted? You should really find your mother so she can set you straight about why she relinquished. My guess is you'll be very surprised.

And BTW, it seems like there are plenty of fertile APs around too. What is in their 'nature' to make them want to adopt?

Actually I think treating women with dignity and respect regardless of their 'mistakes' or 'shortcomings' in ALL cultures in combination with treating the children of these same women might make the world a better place. An effort to give these children a 'better life' with their mothers should be a priority instead of giving them a (maybe) better life with strangers.

gypsywinter

Bless You Ollie....for all the effortless YA points you afford us!

ETA: Ollie I decided to put a little more 'effort' in my answer to you. "Nature's Way" is Fertility...in all life forms on the planet earth. If 'infertility' was truly Nature's Way...you wouldn't be here asking these not very well thought out questions. Nor I answering your not very well thought out questions.

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