Is it wrong to give my 3 month old baby up for adoption?

stargirl796

No its is not wrong. You love your baby and want her to have a better life than you can give her. By giving her up you can make sure that she is given to parents who will love her and raise her the way that she needs to be raised.

Mychildren'smom

Well I don't know what is the best answer is. Only you know the right answer. If you truely believe that you can't give her the neccessities she needs then adoption might be the best thing. Keep in mind you don't have to be rich to be a mom though. Only you know what the situation is and if she will be better off. If you think she will be better off and you really can't give her a good life right now I think you sound like a wonderful person that you are putting her needs first. The thought of little ones being in foster care breaks my heart. My dad was raised in foster care. :0( If you need a friend you can write me. I will pray for you and your daughter.

It would be the most selfless and loving action you will ever do in your life. I cannot imagine what you might go through and I would seek help. Call Focus on the Family for support. They have so many resources and wonderful people to talk to you. I wish you all the best.

AdoreHim

This is a decision that only you can make. It is wonderful that you are looking out for what you feel is in the best interest for your daughter. If you place her at 3 months it will easier to place her, then if she was in foster care when she older. If you honestly feel, even with all the resources that are out there to help a single mom, would not be best for your child, adoption is a great option. Even though I am adopted and have 2 adopted kids this is not saying that adoption is right for everyone.

charmed

Don't do it girl i was only 12 when i feel pregnant with my first and had her at 13 i thought should i give her up ? or not? but i decided that love is everything if you have love that's enough i was living with my dead beat mum to and when my baby was about 1 we moved then we had no were to go so i went toa chap hotel from their things worked out you have to no that their is allot of help out their for young mums trust me you can do it .....

hell yeah if you do give it up for adoption you will feel sad when the baby is gone word.

Fuaite le fuil, gaolta go deo

With a strong and profound voice YES!!!!!! Think of all the people telling you it isn't wrong, they're APs or PAPs; now look at those of us who are telling you it is wrong...we've been adopted. She's three months old, you're all she knows. Do you really want to put her through the trauma of losing everything all at once? Imagine her in the arms of screaming until her throat hurts because she doesn't know where you are or why you won't come back. If you love her, truly love her; you'll keep it together and raise her like you should. You can apply for WIC, Medicaid, section 8 (housing) and there's even a government program to pay daycare expenses; not to mention the child support you should be receiving from her father. I don't understand why you would think of giving her away. Be a good mom and keep your baby. You should give her a big hug and kiss for even thinking of it.

Julie

the question isn't whether its wrong or right ...the question is whats best for the child that what you need to think about and sometimes you aren't the best choice for your child and as hard as that may seem you have to sit down and truly think about it and like someone said you could always have an open adoption and still be a complete part of the child's life but have someone who is a little more ready for a child and people aren't wrong when they say its gunna hurt because it does ALOT! but the longer you wait to make your decision it could hurt the child because its the first year of the child's life they start identifying with their mothers...just think about what is best for your child either way

lady bug

I know you love your baby and I know its hard for you to make a decision like that. Do what's best for the baby not what's best for you... Do you really want to give her away? Are you sure you'll be able to handle such a thing? Please think about it a lot more. Doesn't having her give you the strength to give her a better life? She should be your motivation to succeed! Its something you will never forget any something you might regret later on, when you decide your ready to make your family and remember the child you didn't give that opportunity to...I'm not telling you whether or not its the right thing I'm just telling you that its not something you can make a serve about its something you need to think and meditate about. If you decide to go through with adoption don't beat yourself over it a lot of couples would love to adopt. Just think about it please. What ever you decide to do will be the right decision

dontknow86

You do whats best for you and your baby. What YOU feel is best.

dazed and confused

keep the baby. you will always regret you gave him/her away, and will never forgive yourself.

H******

It's hard but parenting can be done and done well.

She will miss her Mommy

Sadoption

Miss Ann Thrope

If adoption will be better for your baby's well-being and future, as well as for yours, then don't feel bad about considering adoption, and don't let anyone make you feel bad about it either.

HippieChick

this is a very big decision and I am sorry you feel that you are at the end of your rope...don't lose hope and do that...you might regret it for the rest of your life

That is good that you want a better life for your child but think deep down...could you really let your child go like that? You can do it...you just need the proper channels for help and assistance!

where is the father of the baby? he should be paying child support! regardless if he wants to be in the child's life or not...he is legally bound to pay. There are websites that offer free legal advice here is michigan's main website

http://www.michiganlegalaid.org/

I found this yahoo question with websites that listed for aid for single mothers

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080717121914AAXD8DL

are you poor enough to qualify for welfare? you could get some additional money if you meet their requirements

this website should help you find the help you need

http://www.michigan.gov/dhs

try going to your local churches...go to salvation army for other assistance...some times if you are involved in certain organizatiosn they can dontate clothes food etc for you

here is another site i found that gives grants for single mothers
http://www.maxxfamilylife.com/Single-Moms/Assistance/

keep googling for legal aid for single mothers for your state and town...

trust me i know you think you might not be able to provide for your child but if that child grows up with a loving mother that baby will grow up to a great adult! just think about how selfless you are to give your own daughter up adoption in hopes for a better life...if that is not love i don't know what is...keep your daughter...you are the only one who will love that child more than anyone else ever could!!

good luck and god bless!

DR KIA Pissed at the Worldâ„¢

If you can't take care of her, the BEST thing you could do is give her up for adoption

dinkhy

you should consider your options.do what your heart says. Be practical. Google the choices - you will read the pros and cons of putting your child for adoption. We ourselves are waiting for a birthmother to pick us one day to be parents of her child and I hope you do the right thing.

Jack Putter

Here's some information that might be helpful in making your decision. You don't have to go it alone. It is stressful...but the BEST thing for your baby is to be with YOU.

Jasmine P

im sorry 2 hear that and i understand its hard but if i can do it at the same age u r now then i know u can do it!!! im bout to be 20yrs old and im pregnant with my 2nd baby i have my own place and i work for the government..my baby dad is in jail so im doing it on my own without no help not even my mothers help..i haven't spoken to her in years..but there public assistance that can help u with ur baby but do whats best 4 u and her!

good luck

Cindy581j

u will regret it

Ellie Murphy

Maybe you could ask a very close friend to take care of her for you until you have the nessesary tools to care for your baby. You clearly want to provide for your baby, and that's a good thing. By putting her with someone you know, you can be in her life, and still work without the financial stress of having a newborn.

High Priest of the shredi

think hard about this. Is this for your daughter or for you? If it is for your daughter, then by all means please do.

My parents had me and my twin brother when they were 17 and put us up for adoption and I grew up with on eof the best most caring families in the world. I don't hate my biological parents for it, and in fact i want to meet them some day. A child is a huge responsibility and if you want what is best for the child, then I would put her up for adoption. if you need any support, feel free to email me. everything will be okay :)

Candice ( $uper Bail Agent)

Sweetie, do what you think i best for you and your child.

Jane

It's not wrong at all. If you can't take care of your child, it would be wrong of you TO keep her. At 3 months old, a family will take her very quickly since she's still an infant. You can even work with the adoption agency to find a family you think is suitable. If you want to see her from time to time, you may want to consider an open adoption as well. That means that you would still get to write to her and see her now and again but she would be raised by another family.

Best of luck to you and I really hope you make the right decision for your daughter.

gypsywinter

GOOD GOD!! Is every PAP and agency worker here answering this young mom's question?? I have never seen so many 'answers' saying...'GIVE THE BABY UP'!

And please, O! please OP...do not respond to any emails you might receive from those seeking babies born of it's own mother.

You have received some good advice from a few people here..Please check out the resources available to you and your baby in the state you live. Please educate yourself on adoption..all facets of. Visit forums where adult adoptees talk...and you will get a glimmer of what your child may feel about you and your 'choice' to surrender your precious baby. And simply having another baby down the line...will never, never replace the baby you 'gave away'.

I send you only very positive thoughts and hope upon hope that you will be brave and fearless and be the mother you were meant to be, to your own child.

Adoption does not...never has...guarantee a child a 'better' life...only a different one...as one very knowledgable adult person who was adopted as an infant..said sometime ago. It certainly bears repeating..
"Adoption does not guarantee a child a 'better' life...only a different one".

Good Luck and Hang Tough...and steer clear of the Vultures that will be flying around you and your baby.

parenting is an option II

I was a teenage mom to.

Here are some tips I learned over the past year or two. There is a web site called freecycle.org that you can post wanted or needed items, there is another web site called craigslist.org that has a free section you can email or call people to get the things you need.

There are government programs to help you. They have childcare assistance, section 8 housing, food stamps, medicaid, WIC, TA-NF, and grants for education.

E-MAIL ME IF YOU WANT ME TO TRY TO FIND OTHER SOURCES OF HELP FOR YOU. I WILL NEED YOUR CITY AND STATE NOTHING ELSE.

There are food pantries and programs set in place to help poor people with clothing.

You could even call The Salvation Army and they could help you. They helped me after hurricane Katrina and they have a food pantry in there.

Allison

MartianBeerPig

if you can't look after her, then it's probably for the best. good luck.

Lori A

What exactly is the best life possible. Can you answer that question? does it have to do with money, or security? Money is nice but does not make for the best life possible. My kids have the best life "I" can possibly give them, it is enough for them. they would like more things but what kid doesn't. They wouldn't be willing to trade "me" for those things they want. My daughter had a great life with her adoptive parents. she was one of the lucky ones. Not all children get the best life possible, that is so affectionate talked about. some get much much less than they deserve. good life and all, my daughter still has issues from being adopted, and so do I.

The oldest of the Solo's

Would it be wrong? No.

Would it be best? Maybe. Only you will know what you are capable of. You may also be able to share your experience with some of the teenage mothers posting on here that thing they are going to have no trouble with this. You can inspire others to make wise choices.

Kini

Its a decision only you can make. Do what you feel in your heart is best.

twoxscorpio

Since you're asking this type of question on Yahoo! Answers, GIVE THE POOR BABY TO SOMEONE MORE RESPONSIBLE!

jashia

no but why baby its just begining to bond with you it takes time dont be to quick to throw in the towel just wait to the baby is 6 months to see changes in everything but just gets some parenting skills to see if thats a prblem with your skills and talk to your family about it or go to a church to talk to a pastor first for spiriyually guardians or call me 7047775601

Amanda

I can help you, or we could addopt your baby. Heres my email Amanda.Knicley@sbcglobal.net

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