My boyfriend wants adoption, but I want to keep the baby..?

*Hannah*

Ok, well you deff. did teh right thing by not aborting your child! i think adoption is a great choice! you can even choose an open adoption: weher you can visit, call, get and send letter to your adoptive family! if you are not ready to be a parent, you can place this child for adoption, and later when your life seems more stable, you can have another child! if he is threting to leave you, that means you would be w/o half teh help! So my vote is ADOPTION! ohhh and ASHLEY NICHOLE _____ is my favorite name :) i will be praying you make the right choice! XOXO

The Chair

This question is a text book example of why the youth of today has gone to sh*t and why i'm so delighted to be 35 not 15.

Nancy

I am not sure how old you are but are you being honest with your self when you say that you can take care of your baby on your own? Because that is where you are going to be when this baby arrives, your boyfriend made that very clear. Please don't get me wrong I admire you for not wanting to abort your baby but when you become a parent it is time to put your babies needs above your wants. If you can honestly support this baby emotionally and financially on your own than you go girl but if you can't I would suggest looking into an open adoption. You can still be part of your babies life and make sure that your child has the stable life every child deserves.

Doodlestuff

You should keep the baby. Sue him for child support. It's too bad that you two weren't mature enough to use 2 forms of birth control. Your bf didn't love you in the first place. You were an easy lay.

Georgina

Im 15 weeks pregnant and my ex doesn't want the baby.. but its your body and its going to be you that looks after it! i think you need to be strong and do what you want! its your body! good luck.
i like the names
mia
macey
gracie-may
brooke
&
lexi
good luck sweet

Outsider

Keep the baby, he's just an immature and a coward

As for names I suggest:

Adrianne
Alexandria
Allison
Amber
Amelia
Amethyst
Amy
Aria
Arianna
Ashley
Audrey
Autumn
Brianna
Bridgette
Brittany
Brooklyn
Camille
Caren
Carrie
Cassandra
Charlotte
Chloe
Claire
Coralie
Dahlia
Danielle
Deanna
Elena
Elizabeth
Ellen
Eloise
Emelia
Erica
Evangeline
Freya
Grace
Gwendolyn
Hailey
Heather
Irene
Isabella
Janet
Jaylynn
Jenna
Jessica
Jolene
Katheryn
Kathleen
Katya
Kayla
Kaylynn
Kendra
Kiara
Kimberly
Kira
Kori
Leah
Leela
Linnea (pronounced li-NAY-uh)
Madison
Mara
May
Maya
Melanie
Meredith
Mia
Miley
Miranda
Nicole
Nina
Paige
Paula
Rayne
ReneÃ©
Rhianna
Rhiannon
Roxana
Sabella
Samantha
Santana
Sara
Savannah
Scarlett
Selena
Sienna
Sierra
Skyler
Sonya
Stella
Stephanie
Summer
Sidney
Sylvia
Tabatha/Tabitha
Tanya
Taylor
Trisha
Trudy
Vanessa
Zara
Zera
Zora

Good luck!!!! :)

â™¥ ~Sigy the Arctic Kitty~â™¥

You want to keep the baby so that's all there is to it. You are the one Having a baby so You get to choose!

As for your boyfriend, lose him. If he says he is going to leave you if you don't give up your baby then you had best know for damn sure he will leave you anyway some day.

And don't forget, he can threaten to leave you and do it if he wants but he is still legally responsible. So don't let him off on paying child support. It's to help make for a better life for your baby growing up and even if it's money you don't need it is still for her benefit. Hey, it can always go toward college for her. You can't make him want to be a father but he can and should be responsible for his actions.

For cute first names, I can suggest several but may I suggest instead something else? Why not give your daughter a name you love and would like to give to yourself? Then it will Truly be a beautiful name! :)

Oh and you didn't ask but just so you know, you also can give your daughter any last name you want to. You can give her your own if you like.

Personally, I think that's better than giving her the name of someone who isn't going to Want to be a part of her life by being a real father to her. It would be different if he was supportive of you during your pregnancy but if he isn't there for you now he won't be there for you or her when she's born. I'm just saying.

Lisa N

good luck with being a single mother if you boyfriend was anything of a man he would listen to you and respect it what about the name tegan or lily
good luck if you need to talk you can email me anytime

Rauhneay Soloman

If you're emotionally and financially stable,keep her.. (Peyton) Cute name..

Jaileene Brown

Once you hold the beautiful baby after 9 months of bonding... You'll never wanna let go..
You dont need 2 to raise a family.. my mom was a single mom and i seriously would never change that.. im sure youll be an AMAZING mom <3 and he'll probably change his mind!

God Bless

GatorMommy

Keep the baby. Blood is thicker than water, honey.

I was in a similar boat when I was 22. I placed the baby into what was supposed to be an open adoption, but (SURPRISE!) that wasn't the case and in my state open adoptions aren't legally enforceable. It's hard, something that you'll never get over. My birthdaughter turned 11 this summer and her adoption picks at my heart every day.

I have started a blog to post messages for her. My story is on there. http://messagesformartin.blogspot.com/. There's also a booklet marked on there that is a MUST READ for you -- http://hslowe.tripod.com/wishihadknown.html

Feel free to contact me directly if you want to talk.

PJ

Annaliese CE

I went through something similar. Let me tell you, he's not worth it. You do what you feel is right for you, and don't let anyone stand in your way and tell you what's wrong or right for yourself and YOUR baby. He may love you and just be really stressed right now, but he does sound controlling and you won't want that being pregnant anyways. It is also not an excuse for anything. Just because someone can biologically help create a baby, doesn't mean they'd make the best father, remember that. Do whats best for you and your baby. I say keep the baby, do whats right for you. Go on babycenter and meet some people with the same due dates as you, they have baby name finders there you can look at different names and ask people advice there as well. I love the name Keira, that what I plan on naming my little girl. This is a hard decision to be making, Good luck.

Laredo

God bless you for choosing life for your little angel. Believe me, you will ALWAYS HAVE HER LOVE but, even now, you don't have the love of her father. He has already proven that you are nothing more than just a piece of meat to him.

If his family hasn't looked down on him already for getting you pregnant, a baby won't make any difference. His ONLY goal is to get rid of the baby, any way he can, so he won't have to pay child support. Nothing else matters to him.

Tell him that you are the mother, you are carrying the baby, and you get to make all the decisions concerning her life and that means you are keeping her. I would tell him to pack his crap and hit the road now and don't let the door hit him in the butt on his way out. He does not love you at all or he would never have said for you to kill your sweet baby.

You sound like a strong and determined young lady and you will be able to provide for her. I hope you have a tightly knit family who will surround you with love and support. There is just something about a precious baby that melts the hearts of family members and they will set aside all differences and come together to help you out. Congratulations, Mommy!

AdoreHim

It is pretty obvious to me that this person will not stay with you if you keep the child, then he is not someone that I would want to have around either. I am for adoption because I am adopted and have 2 adopted children, however that does not mean that adoption is always the best for the child or the birth mom. If you feel that you can raise your baby and your BF said that he would leave you, you must look at this as a warning sign, that he wants nothing to do with this child that he helped create. Congratulations- it sounds like you are leaning toward keeping your baby and your BF may change his mind. Good luck

i wanna rock

If you are financially stable (including the fact that your bf might leave you), then I say keep it. It's what you want, right?

And for that cute name, I really like the name Josephine (:

drasticbarbie

my single mom kept me. life has not been easy. but it's equally hard for many people who have two parents as well. in spite of everything, i'm happy to have been kept. please keep your baby. she needs and wants to be with you.

Ha Ru

Hi, keep your child! That's what you want and what you and your child deserve. Be brave and stand for her, cause she's your baby, and she deserves to be with her real mom. You're gonna be a real good mother, just your message let this show. If the father said what he said, then I agree with those that said that he's just an immature coward. Doesn't mean he doesn't love his child, he's just a scared coward and want to ignore the situation and pretend it never happened and pretend he doesn't have a child (=denial). I don't think he wanted to "kill it", he wanted just the situation to disappear I think (pretend it never happened =denial). I don't think he has even acknowledged the fact that he has a child yet. But try to keep in touch with him, if he wants to see his child someday if he changes his mind (maybe when he'll see her ?), and for the child to see him someday (cause she deserves to know the truth too). So be strong, you will manage everything, cause you really love your daughter so stand for her. Be brave and fight for her! Congratulations! And for the name, you're the only one that should chose something dear to you.

drkangel210e

You know what, I could never be with a man who said "kill it" when I found out that I was pregnant. Most pro-choice people don't believe that the fetus can be counted as a baby in the first few months of pregnancy. While I personally disagree with that opinion, at least they're not knowingly wanting to end a baby's life. He, on the other hand, seems to have no problem with the idea of killing his own flesh and blood child. That would be enough for me to never want to see him again.

That leads me to my next point: why would you let this man dictate your choices about adoption? He isn't looking out for anyone but himself. He'll leave you somewhere down the line even if you do adopt out your child. You'll lose him and your child. How would you feel then?

Don't let people make choices for you when they don't have your best interests at heart.

Linda

You do not have to give this child up to adoption. I applaud you for keeping this child and you need not feel bad about this sweetie because it is your baby. Tell him that you are keeping the child and if he wants nothing to do with him/her then he is missing out, especially if he is willing to leave you both. He doesn't sound like a decent boyfriend or father to be honest so you're well shot.

Female baby names I love are Rose, Grace, Emily and Evelyn :) Rose will be the name of my first daughter after the rose from 'The Little Prince.' In one chapter the prince meets a fox who tells him that he is responsible for his own rose because he tamed her and therefore she is more special that all the other roses out there. 'You are responsible for your rose' is the quote I am planning to have tattooed on me, because I believe that the deeper meaning is that you take responsibility for what you do and what you create, hence why I see it as so appropriate for my first daughter.

If I only have sons I guess I'll have to go for Ross!

Good luck! I wish you and your daughter all the best.

Sandy K

Hats off to you for being strong and not aborting the baby, before you drop this dumb *** boy friend make sure you take him to court to get child support. He is not good enough for you.
I love the name of: Casandra Sue. I know you will be a great mom and you will find a nice guy that will love you and the baby. Good luck to you. Tell your boyfriend to get his things and go you don't want to be with him. I would let his mother know that she is going to be a grandmother, he doesn't have the balls to stand up like a man and tell her so do it for him. If you don't want to call her send her a congratulations card announcing that you are having a babyand her son is the father..

Pip

You want this baby so you've answered your own question. Raise your child, be the best mother you can and if your boyfriend walks then that's his problem. It's his problem if he doesn't want to be a father in which case you can do better for yourself.

Baby Boy Born Nov 4!

Let him leave you then. Your little girl will give you more joy than someone that negative ever will. I am still pregnant with my first and it is already the best experience I have ever had. You don't need someone like that in your life. Why don't YOU leave HIM? I'm sure you will eventually find a wonderful guy who accepts you AND your daughter.

tish_part deux

boyfriends are replaceable. children are not.

if he's acting like this over a pregnancy. do you really think he'll improve when faced with other issues? i will give him the benefit of the doubt and say he's probably stressing over the responsibility. but even so, if YOU don't want to give up the baby. he has no ground. and if his only recourse is to leave, bid him "hasta la vista, baby!"

trust me, you'll love and get over many men in your life. but you can NEVER get over the love you have for the child you gave up.

Eric

If he said he'd leave you if you kept it, he's not worth it - it really is as simple as that - if he was man enough to impregnate you, he should be man enough to stand by your side if you choose to keep her.

And I always liked "Ilana"

good luck! :)

Raven

Keep your child, they're not replaceable, there are ALWAYS more men around...

7rin

You're right, he obviously doesn't. So say "bye loser" and screw him for all the maintenance you can get.

Good luck for the future, and have a fantastic life WITH your daughter and WITHOUT the loser. :D

Tit for Tat

Dump the SOB and keep the kid. There are far better "fish in the sea"

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