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Adoptionissadnsick
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that's a toss up, maybe it will save the kid from idiot ap's.
What does morality have to do with adoption anyway? |
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Torrejon
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Human beings do not come with guarantees, exchange policies, nor warranties. If you commit to a child, it has to be forever. |
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ashleynicole.hilton
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sound like you didnt try hard enought, it not a toy you can play with and chuck away when it gets difficult. horrid person |
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Muthu S
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I felt crazy that I may be offender if I answer this question.
Separate your PSYCHOLOGICAL perceptions from you, youwill know how you are fighting with YOURSELF.Your conscience will help you to get along with your self & the cute, loved adopted baby and the whole world.
Getting along with others begins at HOME.. |
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Julia
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I personally think they should have given it more time. I believe most states have a waiting period before you can legally adopt. This is in place for these situations. They want to make sure it's going to work out for the child and parent.
I'm not sure it's a question of morality. Maybe this was best for the child in the long run. |
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Greentea4unme
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Sounds like it's a car or pet. These days you can't even return a vehicle without paying huge penalties. It sounds uncaring to the child to adopt him and return him to the center. Some people are so immature. I just don't understand something like that. |
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i don't think it is right to do that.alot of things could be worked out by therapy or just talking to the child.try and find out if something is bothering the child if the child is being difficult.maybe you all could come to a better place by trying something different. |
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senthil r
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IBefore adopting, ts better if the couple get used t the child staying in the orphanage or where the child live, check the compatibility of every one and then adopt. Prevention is always better than cure!!! |
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bugwales
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that is so wong as that child has already been rejected by bio parents,imagine what it would be like to be rejected twice,the poor child would be messed up by the first rejection,the second rejection would be awful for the child,you have to work at parenthood,a child is a human being you carnt just toss it out cos you dont get on with that child,you have to work at it. |
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SOS MV
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If the case is that the child could be harmed then I think that is a better than something happening however if its because its not what you expected than that is horrible. you should have thought but that before. |
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steve a
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Well if they commit them self to adopt a child , than they have to face the problem and try to solve try to solve the problem, if they send back the child to the center , which is means they are not a maturate people , as woman being there is lot of problem in our daily life and we have to face the problem in challenging way ; once we adopt any kids make sure we can give them the best if we can't better don't adopt |
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H******
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No. But people do it all the time.
Try to think what that does to a child. |
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Sunny
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No, it's not moral.
But it is yet another example where the adoptive parents have all the good cards in the game.
Have you EVER heard of a case of an adoptee getting out should they feel things are not working out? Of course not! Adoptees have to suffer with whatever the adoption 'professionals' decide is right for them.
Once again;
Adoptive parents 1
Adopted children 0 |
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a healing adoptee
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No, it's not!!!Most people who adopt would not even think of doing this. But unfortunately there are few like this couple that should not be allowed to adopt. Some how they aced the home study and all the questions poised to them from the adoption agency, to be able to adopt. What really gets me is that people like this dutch couple make adoption look bad and cast a bad light on all adoptive parents. Which is really sad because most adoptive parents adopt for the right reasons. |
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bestadvicechick
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Adoption is a big decision and not one that should be taken lightly. You're agreeing to raise a child....not purchasing the latest hand bag. |
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Joy M
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I agree with Spidermomma, she made a lot of good points.
I don't know if moral is the term I would use, but I would rather have people return adopted children than abuse them as sometimes happens, sometimes the reality just doesn't line up to the expectation, people should go through more screening before they adopt. |
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Laurel J
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Certainly not. |
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bob s
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im not old enough to even getting married yet and kids are nowhere in my near future,but i would say no.If you have a problem with the kid you should work it out |
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ā¯€Bugseyā¯€
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that would be horrible. when you adopt you are a PARENT and a PARENT should put their child before them. |
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tiff
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I would say that is completely immoral. I am not experienced in this field but as a mother would imaging the bond between adoptive parents and child may take a long time to establish, Some parents of "natural" children find it hard to establish this bond but where would we return our children to?
I would also hope that anyone who were to return children in this way would not be allowed to adopt again as they do not have the right temperament to be parents. |
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liz
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OK when you give birth to a child and take it home and after a few months of crying and changing diapers you figure it's too much. Is it moral to take it back to the hospital? That is almost the same thing. Children are not easy be it your blood or not. But what kind of parent would return their child for any reason. That is what parenting is not getting along? Wait till their teenagers. Than you want to strangle them. Jk but you get the picture. Of course it is in moral and may I add cruel adding insult to injury. A child that has already been rejected by its natural parent that is Sad. |
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Gershom
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if this is happening to you, then you already know the answer for even having to ask someone else.
no thats not moral, ethical or right in any way.
We're not merchandise that can be returned if it doesn't perform the way you want.
grrrrrrr..... |
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kidmindi
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Personally, I feel this would be wrong. Children are not like a shirt you get at wal-mart to be returned if it dosen't "feel right"
If a couple is considering adopting a child, especially one that owuld be old enough to "not get along with"; they need to be absolutley 100% SURE they can commit to this child. If BOTH paretns are not 100% sure then they do not need to adopt.
What happens if a couple gives birth to a child and then one parent "can't get along" with it? You don't consider calling up an adoption agency and putting that child up for adoption. The same should be true for a child you adopt.
JMHO |
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spydermomma
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That would be a horrible, awful situation. The child would likely be badly scarred by that, and children who have been adopted already have had one loss, that of their first family, so adding another loss of a family would make it that much more likely that the child (and later the adult), would have a very hard time forming healthy attachments to others. A good life for this child might take years of incredible therapy along with incredible adoptive parents willing to go through the tough stuff -- and even then I would expect scars.
But, well, as awful as it would be, imagine how much worse it would be for the child to be kept in that family where they were clearly not wanted. That is a recipe for certain disaster, and much more likely to result in long term suffering for the child. Imagine spending your whole time growing up knowing that your family had tried to "return" you.
The only moral way to resolve this is if it had not happened in the first place. Adoptive parents (at least in the USA) need much more intense scrutiny before they are allowed to adopt. There should be psychological testing, intensive training on issues faced by adopted children and adoptive families, counseling about infertility or desires to rescue a child, and on and on. In the majority of cases this does not occur now in the US, though through the foster care system it can be quite a bit better. |
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Andraya
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Kinda like test driving a car or enrolling in a trial at a gym before signing the membership forms... except here we are dealing with a child. Even some bio kids do not mesh well with their families, are they "given back"?
In my opinion there is nothing moral about this. |
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tinker5547
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yes i believe it to be very wrong .. children weather adopted or not do not come with gift receipt's |
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spmmy2003
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No that is not moral. That child is a human being. Your going to tell this child that you are going to thier parents, then reject this child because you don't get along? If that thought even crosses your mind, then you are not even ready to be a parent by any means, adoption or naturally. |
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Jody
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NOOOO. A kid is not like a new car, you can't just take it back. |
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ehrlich
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No, thats ridiculous, everyone at some point in their life doesnt get a long with their child well. Especially during their rebellious phase or teen years. A child is not a dog, a person should never just return it when they just dont want it anymore. I also don't know how anyone could possibly think they completely know a kid with only being with them for a few months, thats not even trying to make it work. I would say morally thats wrong and that the person is a quitter. |
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Beth S
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No, no it is not. If you have a personality conflict with your biological child do you shove it back into your uterus?!
Adoption, like all parenthood, should not be entered into lightly as it is a lifetime commitment. |
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julie j
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Hi Crazytamil,
I'm assuming you do not mean to offend so I'll answer your question.
When a child is placed with a family, there has already been some screening done to hopefully make a proper match that will meet the child's needs to begin with. But the adoption is not final yet. There is a minimum waiting time of 6 months of the child living with the new family before they can go to court and have that adoption finalized by a judge.
No, it is not moral to purposely disrupt an adoption, as the child has already sufferred one major loss in his/her young life. Adoption is meant to be permanent and couples seeking to adopt are aware of that. Their goal is almost always to have a permanent new member added to their family. Although disruption does happen, it is not good for the child. However, that being said, if one of the parents truly feels they are not equipped for whatever reason to meet the needs of the child, despite taking advantage of help and services offered, then yes, it would be in the child's best interests to find another home where the child will be nurtured and loved by both parents. Better that than to be abused in that home.
If that did happen & I were the social worker with that case, I would think long & hard before considering placement for another child in that home.
Thank you for asking. Hope that answered your question.
julie j
reunited adoptee |
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