People who are passionate about adoption related issues, whats ur opinion on abortion?

Becca

I am against abortion for the simple reason I believe it is a sin to kill another human being. And yes to me a fetus is a human being.

claredarren116

I think whatever a woman chooses to do with her unplanned pregnancy is hers and the fathers decision and the decision must be hard enough to make without being judged by people. They do what they do because they have no other choice. I am happily married and would never have an abortion nor would I give a child up for adoption, so maybe all you people who are so anti-abortion should actually think for a moment about how hard it must be to have a baby, totally loose your figure and give your baby up. Of course it must be easier emotionally and physically to have an abortion. I would never dream of judging people who were young, alone and terrified but its the people that use abortion as their method of contraception I don't agree with. I used to work with someone who wasn't on the pill and didn't used condoms as her boyfriend didn't like them and I asked her if she worried about getting pregnant and she just said no I'd have an abortion anyway! I think people like that should be refused an abortion and be forced to take responsibility for their action.

Haley Greenwood

I am completely 100% pro choice. It is after all the WOMAN who has to go through all of the mental/emotional/physical changes, so it should be her dicision. I hate how people say, oh well you should have worn protection" THATS ALREADY APARENT NOW ISNT IT!? not helping by telling the shoulda woulda coulda... anyways. I believe you definatly do need to consitter your options before making a decision that could impact your intire life.

7rin

Pro-choice, except when it comes down to the choice between adoption vs. abortion, in which case I'm pro-abortion so that only the bmom gets a screwed up head, and not the kid(s) as well.

Honest & Sober

It's clear from your question that you believe that adoption is the solution to abortion. Sorry to inform you otherwise, but look at the number of infants and children waiting to be adopted globally. That doesn't mean I'm a stout supporter of abortion. Personally I don't believe either are an answer to each other. It's a choice.

I assume that a woman makes a choice based on a number of factors. The information and experience of life and everything else they have UP to the that in time and in some cases are influenced, coerced, persuaded or however you want to put it. There are many other factors, but as I'm not a female I wouldn't have a clue as to what they are.

I'm Pro-Choice.

Whether I agree or disagree with individual cases deciding to abort or adopt is irrelevant. I don't live in those woman's shoes.

I dont like it when it appears that some women are using as birth control, but in reality not all women are using it that way. These women that do make the choice to have repeated abortions must be aware of the potential consequences such as increased risk of miscarriage and infertility. I have sympathy for those women that are unable to conceive due to having an abortion. But thats life. Life is made up of consequences, what ever happens happens. People need to make the right choice each time.

"better to be aborted, or better to be adopted???"

Neither are the "better" option. That would be like me asking is it better to be "conservative"; or is it better to be "liberal". No one can answer if it is better. Do you have a time-machine to make the comparison, if not, the what if's don't count.

I'm not one for what-ifs but I do know how I would react in such a situation. I would hope that my partner would make the choice of keeping our potential child. If she was to have an abortion I would be cut to be pieces, I'd be totally shattered. But a very minute part of me would understand. I'm not the one carrying the potential child. I'm not the one going through the physical and emotional changes. Being a guy I can make all the promises in the world, but then walk away at any point of time - leaving her barefoot and pregnant. The relationship would be over. I'd never get over that type of rejection (in my mind I'd believe that my genes not being good enough) and I've dealt with being adopted and that rejection took time to overcome. Yet, I know its not all about what I want or what my partner wants. Apart from death it is the only thing in life that I dont wish to face.

Nicky

Two very separate issues. Adoption is not the answer to abortion.

If your against abortion..simple dont have one!

Kyle F.

i believe if you are capable to keep your child and don't, then abort it.

there are enough children that need families, if a perfectly capable person gives up their kid for adoption, that kid takes a place that could have been filled with a child whose parents had died.

or better yet, birth control.

I love derek hough

i think abortion can be the right thing if you cant afford to have this baby then i think it's right, but if you can and you just dont want the baby then i think it's wronge

abortion saves more kids from being put into adoption

Pip

I wanted to raise my son as I wanted to and I'm pro life so couldn't have gone through abortion. Adoption never crossed my mind but it happened because that's what my parents wanted and they went to great lengths to guarantee this.

The right thing to do would have been for my parents to support my decision as I was working so was in an emotionally and financially secure situation to raise my son.

I can say I could have given a better life to my son, it would have been different nor would he have grown up with major issues due to being adopted.

However had I known what I do now I would have had an abortion as adoption is a life sentence.

Adoption isn't always the best option.

Andraya - Snark's Sister

I'm all for creating medical waste.

ballaerina

There's a really great article about this written by a birth-mother who gave her child up for adoption. She had also had an abortion. She said the adoption was by far more emotionally painful, and asks: why isn't there more support for birth-mothers? Everyone acts like abortion is the more painful choice, but there are three parties involved in an adoption (the birth-mother, the adoptive parents, and of course the child) who are all affected by the process in one way or the other, and it's often very difficult.

The point the author makes clear is that she's not trying to justify abortions over adoptions; she's merely asking that we open up a dialogue about how painful it is to give up a child for adoption.

http://www.feministing.com/archives/014312.html

It's really a wonderful article whether you're pro-choice, pro-life, or whether you've considered adoption.

"Believe me when I say that of the two choices, it was adoption that nearly destroyed me - and it never ends. The only comparison I have is the death of a loved one. The pain retreats, maybe fades, but it comes right back if I poke at it. Writing this has taken me nearly two weeks. Normally, I can write this amount in about thirty minutes, with bathroom breaks. I started to type, and stopped only to reread, then go wail into my pillow. There is no such thing as 'over' with this."

monkeykitty83

I'm pro-choice, and believe a woman should have the legal right to terminate her pregnancy.

I don't believe she should ever be coerced, forced, manipulated, or pressured into having an abortion.

I think keeping her child and parenting is in most cases a far better option than abortion, but I think the option to terminate needs to be allowed.

smarmy

my opinion is its legal, whether we like it or not.

â™¥â™¥Mum To Superkids is engagedâ™¥â™¥

I'm not sure how my beliefs on adoption have anything to do with my beliefs on abortion?
For the record I am pro-choice. Would I have an abortion? Unlikely unless there was a medical reason. Do my reproductive rights have anything to do with another woman's? Um, no.

You're talking about the right to reproduce vs adoption issues. It's apples and oranges.

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My opinion is that I'm sick of the abortion vs. adoption argument and that just because someone is adopted does not mean - by default - that their mother would have or "might have" or "could have" chosen abortion.

Jack Putter

I'm against abortion, personally. But I have no right to judge what another woman does.

It is not possible to make a choice between abortion and adoption. At the point in time when abortions are possible, adoption is not. And a lot can change between then and birth to change whatever choice a woman *would have* made at that point in time. And by the time adoption is possible, abortion is long past impossible (or illegal at least). So, the choices available during crisis pregnancies are abortion or carrying to term, and then after the birth the choice is between parenting and adoption.

ETA: Jennifer, abortion is not an alternative to parenting - it's an alternative to pregnancy. You can't parent a fetus. By the time you have a CHILD to parent, it's long past time for an abortion.

CattyGirl

Abortion. Too many children in a broken system now.

racheypoo

Pro-choice.

Every choice.

No one gets to tell me what to do with my uterus.

I am also pro-education, pro-contraception, and anti-anyone making money from any of these choices.

If I abort, no one should make a profit. There should be no "incentive" for me to have an abortion, which, unfortunately, there currently is.

If I choose to place my child, there should be no "incentive" for anyone to convince me to do so. Again, no profit should be made, which unfortunately is currently not always the case.

If I parent my child, there should be no incentive, financial or otherwise, for any person (other than myself and/or my child) to raise my child.

Each of these is a life-changing decision, and should not be taken lightly. But it has to be MY INFORMED choice.

Jackie B

Abortion and adoption are not opposites.

First a mother chooses between aborting or carrying to term.

Once the decision is made to carry to term, then it's a choice of parenting or adoption.

Why is that such a hard concept for so many people to understand?

I'm pro-choice. MY personal choice would be to keep my child. I like the idea that no one dictates to me what I do with my body. That should be every woman's right.

Proud Nuna

My biggest issue with abortion is some people who use it as a form of birth control...get on the pill,use condoms,dont murder innocent babies.

**Can't stop-Abortion took 10 minutes, and my embryo couldnt feel anything anyway.
HOW do you know this? Did the fetus tell you it did not hurt as you had it killed? You cant know that with any certainty.
And saying you killed your baby because you were adopted is nothing but a cop out,just a filimsy excuse for murder**

**Cant stop whining-spin it however you like-abortion is murder and you willingly did it**

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