Those who are anti adoption, what if you were raped?

Myra

Who have you ever encountered that is anti-adoption?

toirties

Why would anyone be anti adoption? People are against a child getting a better life and a barren couple having the joy of a child?!?!

â™¥Blake's mommy!!!â™¥

I never knew anyone that is anti adoption

lubylicious

lol exaclty! no

Lorena

...Some people don't believe in adoption?

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tricky.
no. my child is my child, regardless of where it came from. I would never abandon my child... it's not the baby's fault i got raped. However... i wouldn't go and tell the kid about it's conception, that would be wrong. I would make sure i got LOTS of counselling and lots of supports to help me through what i'm sure would be a hard lifelong situation. And once my child is old enough to understand rape, and only if they where curious about the situation, i would ensure that they too have the support in place to cope... until then i would lie and say it was a one night stand... no need to mess with the kid's mind for nothing

spanky

Im interested to read what they have to say. Im pro choice btw

then you shoulda had an aBORtion

Abba

I'm not anti-adoption, I think its a great thing to do for your child if you know you cannot give it a good life.

But you may find this interesting, my best friend in high school was born because her mother was raped, and her mother kept her and raised her on her own for several years before her mom got married then the guy her mom married adopted her. Her mom said that she never saw her daughter and thought about what happened, she said that the baby was innocent and had no control over what her biological dad did. -And her daughter was one of the happiest people I've ever known. She used her situation to give lots of anti-abortion and pro-life speeches. I'm still in touch with her and she just graduated from college last spring, and this past fall she just started medical school.

Of course this is an exceptional situation, her mother was a complete saint, and I doubt many other people could do what she did, I doubt I would be able to do it.

Sunny

I'd have an abortion. Or maybe just the morning after pill.

Fuc Kyou

Im not anti adoption but this should be obvious. Abortion.

Walter Ford II

I would suggest you have an abortion.

I would imagine the fetus growing inside you for months would be excruciatingly traumatizing when trying to deal with the trauma of rape.

maybe

A woman who is raped should immediately go to the hospital for medical treatment and to get emergency contraception. This will be the most effective means for preventing a pregnancy.

gypsywinter

I personally, am not anti-adoption....I am anti-unnecessary adoption, i.e. financial constraints do not equal necessary, going to college does not equal necessary, being unmarried does not equal necessary, being married does not equal necessary, idiot guy for a boyfriend does not equal necessary, etc.... you get my drift.

If I were still in my reproductive years and I was raped...I would either opt for the Plan B pill ASAP after the rape or an abortion...that's what I would do.

I also do not believe in 'forced pregnancies' for any woman who chooses not to remain pregnant.

Shannon

I would first try the morning after pill, which would be given to me by hospital staff in such an event, and if that fails, I would raise my child. (I personally can not abort, but I am pro-choice) There are no doubts in my mind of what I would do in that situation, I could never ever ever give up my own flesh and blood. I would not look at my child as a reminder of what happened, but that child would be a part of me and it would be my duty to ensure that he or she grows up safe. I can not guarantee safety if I give my kid away to some stranger.

I would also pursue the man who raped me in court and do everything I can to make sure he ends up in jail. Too often, rape goes unreported and the man may hurt someone else. I would, for my child's safety, make sure that man is behind bars.

shoot first ask questions later

i would be like "screw it abortion"

Carol c

You're asking what we would do - I would either abort or raise my child rather than send them off to be adopted by others. It's not the baby's fault. And adopted people deserve to know the truth of their origins no matter what it was. Just because you wouldn't want to know, many people see it differently.

I personally know at least 5 or 6 women who were raped and forced to give up their baby by their family, yet still always mourned the loss of that child. They carried the child within their body for 9 months!! In all but 1 of those cases, they've had a very positive reunion with their found child.

summer

Its not fair to blame it on the child, however...emotionally I don't think i could bring a child into the world if it was conceived by rape. As every time i look at the child it would only remind me of that experience for the rest of my life. A very sad situation and i wouldn't wish it upon anyone.

Yorg

If i got raped and fell pregnant I would probably donate myself to science as it would be the first time a guy got pregnant.

Pip

I was in an emotionally abusive relationship which ended shortly after I fell pregnant. I wanted to raise my son but was coerced into surrendering my son by my parents and adoption agency even though I hated his father for what he had done to me. If I had been raped I would have still have wanted to raise him as it wouldn't have been his fault I was raped so I would have loved him anyway. I loved my son from the day I knew I was pregnant so this is a non question to me due to my own experience.

LinnyG

Nope. I would terminate the pregnancy or raise the child myself. No adoption for me. Ever. Been there, done that, have the fake birth certificate to prove it.

AnnaBelle

I know someone who was raped, is currently pregnant, and is choosing to parent. You act as though it is somehow impossible? Why is parenting any less valid a choice in cases of rape?

Mama Bear

Um being raped doesn't change the options when it comes to an unwanted pregnancy. You can either choose to carry or not choose to carry. If you choose to carry you can either put it up for adoption or parent it. The child is still half yours and many women choose to keep their child despite how it was brought into the world. Can you really not figure this out for yourself? Do you really lack that much common sense?

Furthermore, these "anti-adoption" people you speak of, normally don't believe in any from of adoption that manipulates, coerced or lied to the expecting mother to get her to place her child. Look into the practices of getting a mother to give up her child and you'll be against it too. Unless of course you have no heart. There are some who believe you should never place a child and abortion is better, based on their personal experience of being an Adoptee, unless you were adopted you have no room to disregard what they have to say.

Aislin

I was and I did. I'm still 100% anti adoption. The trauma of adoption was a million times worse than that. My child did nothing at all wrong. The child was totally innocent. It is MY child period. I love my child no matter what the man involved did

ETA: I have no problem looking at MY child. It sickens me that you would suggest I would. This child is beautiful, smart, funny, caring and perfect in every way. Not growing up with his biofather is not the end of the world. He has a step father that loves him very much. We never lie and tell him that step dad is his real and only dad but he provides my child with a positive male role model. My child is not guilty of anything I refuse to ever treat him as if he was And when I look into his eyes I see pure love not the face of someone else

myst1998

I was raped which is why everyone thought they had a right to MY baby. I didn't want to abort or place her. As I told everyone, she is still my child and her "father" (very loosely put because he's a rapist) raped me, not my child. And I still detest adoption because of what it did to me, my child and others. I have other friends who were also raped and wanted to keep their babies but had them removed at birth during the BSE and I know women who were raped and raised their children. Its not the child's fault the mother was raped so why make him/her suffer by abandoning him/her??

And I would take being raped again and again over losing my child.

Rebecca L

I don't know why people would be agents adoption but i totally think that if you have a baby because you were raped that you should give it up for adoption.

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