Ultimately why do people adopt?

ashorty545

I think its always an infertility reason to some degree. Even angelina who gets prego on the drop of a hat. If you are not pregnant at the moment you adopt, your "infertile". For me.. I'm sterile and have no children, and would adopt on that fact.

usaf_wifey

I'm sure because people cannot reproduce on their own or fertility drugs didn't work. Some people would rather take a child in rather than bring another one into the world 1st.

Danielle B

I think most people adopt because they are infertile. Or some woman just have no interest in being pregnant, so they adopt.

ra_meister

I should think most people adopt because they can't physically have children!

Heather

Some people cant have babies.
I think that is the most used reasons for people.
Another would be to sell them on the black market XD jk.

sarahonlydude2

Well, usually people adopt because they can't reproduce on their own or they want to provide a stable uplifting home for a child who doesn't have a home. Also fertility drugs might have not worked.

Yvette Labuschagne

Hi the real reason is that we (myself) are not as lucky as other ladies that can just fall pregnant and have a family. I am 35 years old have spend R80 000 trying to fall pregnant and the next option I have is to adopt a white baby from South Africa. I would also love to know what it feels like to have this little bundle that loves you no matter what, and that I can take care of.

Tonia

I am FERTILE, for one... and I wanted to be an adoptive parent, two. Believe it or not fertile people DO want to adopt too! Adoption was my first choice, as I've wanted to adopt a child since I was 16 years old... I had no idea who Angelina Jolie was way back then.

Fleet Fox

Some people adopt because they can't have kids naturally, but many people adopt because they're just very nice people willing to provide a loving home for kids who wouldn't otherwise have one

jack g

We adopted because we went through fertility treatment and many miscarriages. we gave up on the idea of having a family and got on with our lives - about 5 years later we saw a social services ad for potential adopters and thought why not just enquire - we ended up adopting from foster care - we have a wonderful son he is 13 now and not without his problems - he has autism - we didn't know this at the time as he was only 18 months old.

I am not religious but I am a big believer in fate and that everything happens for a reason - he was our reason and we consider ourselves extremely lucky the way our life has panned out.

H******

I don't think there's any one ultimate reason, although infertility appears to be the most common.

My parents weren't infertile.

They had two boys and wanted a guaranteed girl, simple as.

honest answers

I'm pregnant with my 3rd and I hope to adopt a fourth 5-6 down the road. I grew up in an abusive home and I know what its like to be treated as less than a full human being. I am a very loving person and I know I could love a needy child. It would feel good knowing I helped give a child a happy, safe childhood. Sometimes therapists say a person can heal old wounds by doing the thing that was not done to them. So maybe a small part of it is just knowing that someone didn't suffer like I did, that would make me feel really great.

emma

My husband and I agreed before we got married that we would adopt and not have biological children because we believe that there are many children who need families. Because of that belief system, we adopted a sibling group of 3 that included older children from a foster care background. It was a great decision for us.

AirForce Wife [[<3]]

Well, I was adopted. The reason I think people adopt is because to be a parent to a child/children is a fulfillment in your heart. If your body is unable to give you what your heart needs to be fulfilled, you can do that by adoption. :D By the way, I think it's wonderful how you want to adopt and are fertile! I don't think it's JUST for people who are infertile.

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I had just given birth to my daughter and didn't intend to adopt for many year and we wanted to adopt a child from foster care, younger than my daughter at the time of adoption, but then it came up that my now son would need a home.

I never had an image of what I expected in a family. I never felt entitled for a child, mine or anyone else's. When I got pregnant for the 3rd time, i was supposedly infertile. After giving birth, I knew I never wanted to do that again, which is why my husband had a vasectomy (which was after we adopted).

The answer to you question is that my son needed a different home and we had room in our lives for him and we wanted to be his parents. I was also afraid of what would happen to him, had we not adopted him (not going into detail).

People adopt out of a desire to be a parent.

luminous clutter

It's always great to help kids who have been stripped of security, health care & other basic needs. Every child is worthy of being helped & procuring these aspects of a nurturing environment. If you have the empathy & means to go through with it, it can be a fulfilling alternative to carrying a biological child.
Also, I don't like my genes. Plain & simple. There are some funky personality disorders & the like in my family history, which can skip a generation & get much worse. :
I'm not saying this can't happen w/adopted kids, as they can develop detachment disorder & whatever they may inherit genetically; It just seems to lessen the guilt of, "What have I done & what can I do to help," to simply, "What can I do to help?" At least it would for me.
Does that make any sense?

blah blah blah

i think all children need love and i would love to be a parent when im a bit older. but it wouldnt matter if that child was my own or not it wouldnt bother me. so i would like to help out a child who doesn have a family, before having my own and adding another person to the population

BLW_KAM

We wanted to become parents. Mother Nature didn't cooperate and we chose not to undergo fertility treatments.

So for us a desire to become parents + infertility led to adoption.

Silly Girl :P

my parents had three children. and wanted to have a few more. but my mom was not able to have any more children. so they did foster care. and planned on adopting one or two kids....but they ended up adopting six! haha, well, it wasnt all at one time. lol
but anyways, we would get kids in our home and you just get so very attached to them. and then if they do go up for adoption, you want to keep them. because it is too hard to let them go.
so, a lot of times the same thing happens, when people never intended to adopt. but they just get really attached,and then it is like they are your own. i love all of my brothers and sisters sooo much, i cant even explain it. they mean the world to me and are the most important thing in my life.

Hayley

My parents adopted my little sister after having four children themselves naturally.

They decided to adopt the last one when my other little sister was 2 because they felt they could provide a loving, stable home for a child who needed a family and also because my mum was getting older and didn't want to risk going through pregnancy again.

xxx

allchildrenareangels

I have biological children. We would like to have another child. We decided we want to adopt because there are so many little ones coming into the world that already need loving homes. Well I do think families are made by DNA but, I don't think that it takes DNA to make a family. I just want to give a little one a loving and stable home. I can't wait until that day comes. ;0)

Love,
Michelle

HappyMomAnna

I wasn't infertile.

We were young when our biological children were born and getting ready to leave for college. We looked around and saw that our empty nest was stable, safe and our home was filled with love.

We realized that we still had another 25 years before we could even contemplate retirement--and that Grandchildren were years and years away. That My Career is one that offered me flexibility and time to be Home full time, and that we were the kind of people who could provide for children who needed families.

We considered just providing foster care but, with all the years ahead we realized we had the life expectancy, energy and ability to offer more then temporary care and could provide those children waiting in foster care for a "growing up" family what they might need and then later consider foster care.

So, we chose to adopt older siblings who were legally free and waiting for adoption. And, that's why we adopted.

I think adoption requires both the desire to parent children and the desire to offer children a safe, secure and loving family.

I could have easily spent a little money to have another biological child by way of science since I had my tubes tied at the age of 21. But, my husband and I felt that with more then 120,000 children already born and waiting for families in foster care it would be selfish to pay for a pregnancy that was based on science, would be considered on the edge of high-risk due to my being 38 when we started and that there was no reason to take the chance of causing a baby to be born with special needs... So, we adopted children who were already special needs.

We also made a decision that since the children we were going to parent would not be biologically related to us--that we would adopt children biologically related to each other. And, we knew this was very possible with waiting foster children and that one of the greatest needs for the foster care system was to find families willing to adopt siblings.

so....that was much of our Pre-Adoption motivation 8 years ago--and 6 years after meeting the children we adopted we are very satisfied with the choices we made, even though it has been much more complicated and required that we learn far more about the special needs of our children then we imagined or expected.

as for the Love part--We love our adopted children as much as we love the other two, however their love and attachment to us as parents is unique and different then the natural feelings of the bio kids who do not have to cope with past abuse, neglect and the loss and trauma every adoption starts with.

As for the Madonna, Angelina stuff--we never considered ourselves Kid-Collectors or the Saviors of children and didn't need to go to another country to provide children in our own state with what every child should have while growing up--a safe, secure and loving family. That and we fully expect to help our children re-connect with their biological mother when she is more stable or when they are old enough to emotionally deal with reunification and contact with their mother. So, it helps she is not living in some country 5,000 miles or more away.

father2twins

We did because my wife had to have heart surgery after our twins and her Dr advised against getting pregnant again, but we really felt we are/were blessed and would like to have another child and provide a home to a child who might not otherwise have a stable loving upbringing,

Andraya - Snark's Sister

Ultimately it's because they want to be parents.

mountainsport

In some cases u may already know the child (foster carer or similar) and u may already have grown to love the child before making the decision to adopt

Mom to Foster Children

I am neither infertile nor am I anything like Angelina.

We adopted through foster care because my husband wanted to be a daddy. My tubes are cut and tied - it wasn't a need to be a parent to a baby - but just to be a parent. Once we started our process we chose to do reunification foster care so that way he could be a "father figure" and we could help families out - and if we were "meant" to adopt then so be it. We have sent two children home and have adopted one.

Independ"ant"

Most people adopt today because they can't have children themselves either because they are infertile and/or older and don't want to go through childbirth/pregnancy.

For some adoption is a second choice right after finding out they are infertile.
For others its a third choice right after their failed IVF treatments.

Very rarely is adoption considered a first choice despite what many Aps say..........their guilt and denial cause them to lie.

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