can you put a 13-year-old up for adoption?

Missy

That's a tricky thing to do. You should really contact social services.

*Rob's Fiance*

My best friends mom put her 14 year old son up for adoption! Contact me! I know the process and all. Harley_Marie_2009@yahoo.com

armin

drop her in the dumpster

beauty

WHY WULD YOU DO SUCH A THING- U R A HORIBLE PERSON!!!! U BOUGHT HER TO LIFE TO TAKE CARE OF HER NOT TO GET RID OF HER WHEN SHE BECOMES JUST A TEENAGER

Katie

THATS HORRIBLE!!
WOW. & YOUR HORRIBLE!!!!!

the point to having children is to take care of them until their legally ready to move out and go off on their own!!!!!!!!!!!

Joy L

WHY DID YOU HAVE A DAUGHTER WHEN YOU DON"T WANT HER! you are a terrible MOTHER~ x-(

Mollie

ull regret it

mfnb812

really, why???? my husband and I have been trying to adopt for years cause I cant have kids. Kids are the best people in the world. Cant you go somewhere for help or someone. you can e-mail me I'm sure you love her and really dont want that!!!

Sandy K

What a terrible mother you are. You had her why can't you take care of her.

MiracleNtheMaking

Honestly, putting her in foster care would be one option, but it has downsides. Considering her age, she will be hard to place and most likely will go from foster home to foster home and age out and never get adopted. Maybe trying to find a couple (newspaper or adoption.com, etc..) would be a better option.

I know there ARE people who would love to adopt an older child. I adopted my daughter when she was 15. I have to ask though...why are you considering this now?

You are not a bad mother. It's wonderful that you realize you aren't what is best for your child and you're brave enough to find out what is!

kidmindi

I smell troll...

If you are for real, I hope that after you contact social servies and put your daughter up for adoption that you check yourself into a mental hospital cuz only a nut job would do that to a child.

E/L/D

thts awful!! i hope tht you at least keep in contact with her. n i hope theres a reason behind this, a good one.

cricketlady

No, only if they take her away from you.

ladyren

First, you are not a terrible mother.

Secondly, contact your County Human resources Department. They can send you in the right direction.

hÏƒllÎ±

Yes, but I don't recommend it...

Why not have her stay at a (willing) relative's house for a few to see how you both get the feel of it?

Chaoscleaner

Drop her off at the nearest Hospital or Fire Dept. They usually handle that and I'm sure it's the best thing for your daughter too. lol

Yer a Troll, right?

MARY

Yes, you can but I think it's sad you are thinking it.
To be honest, older children are almost impossible to place.
Why does your daughter think it's the best thing?
Just google "adoption" or "older children for adoption".

Stephen T

You go through an adoption agency.

leila

The judge will require you and the teen to get counseling first. you might as well start that now. You can be charged with child abandonment. So to show the judge that you aren't some looney who doesn't feel like raising your child get family counseling, someone who specializes in adoption. Also where is the other bio parent ?
Do you have someone in mind for the adoption ? an aunt or something ? it will go much smoother.

Stop the Hate Love instead

Unless you have arranged a family or person to adopt her its likely she will go to foster care and due to her age sheâ€™s more likely to bounce around the system for 5 years.

Shasta

I've seen it done. A single woman, a virgin adopted two teenagers.

digio

Why would you want to give up your daughter? You're not starving obviously you have a computer so don't tell me the reason is money!!

You brought her to life it's your responsibility to take care of her. She's not a puppy! She's a human being, plus I think it's a bit too late to put her up for adoption coz she's not that young anymore she will definitely be traumitized and will go through emotional problems throughout her teenage years.

You need to go see a therapist along with your daughther maybe he can give you an advice and change your mind before you make this big mistake!

dontknow86

Very sad, Just think how she feels about you and her self. SHAME on YOU !

Mychildren'smom

Are you serious? This must be a joke.

karen w

You need to either go talk to a judge, or put her in foster care first. You will have to sign over your rights to your daughter which means that you will never see her again. To give up your rights you need to talk to the judge or the Children's Protective Service in your area.

LauraLorLor

I would imagine contacting social services is the place to start.

Angela R

I don't know the details of your situation, so I'm not going to comment on whether this is the right decision for you and your daughter or not. However, I will tell you that if you place her with social services, there is a good chance that she will be put into fostercare, and may remain there until she's 18. It is very difficult to find adoptive families for teenagers, and because of her age she may end up in a group home. Some foster homes are great, some are terrible, but once you relinquish your rights to her, neither of you will have any say on where and with whom she is placed.

If you really feel you can no longer care for her, the best option would be to try to find a family member, friend of the family or appropriate family that you or she knows that is willing to either adopt her or take guardianship. If this is not possible, I know there are a few adoption acencies that will try to place older children and teenagers to aviod their having to go into fostercare. It's not a sure thing, but worht a try if there's no other option.

I would highly suggest speaking with a family counselor before any final decision is made though.

eddy

i wana be adopted cuz i feel that my mom do not love me she is a bad mother but i feel my my best friend mom loves me i want her to adopted me i feel safe wen iam with them iI DONT WANNA BE HERE I WANA LIVE WITH MY BEST FRIEND SO SO SO SO SO BAD YOU PEOPLE DONT KNOW SO IS IT A BAD THING THAT I DONT WANA BE WITH MY MOM I FEEL THAT ITS NOT CUZ THE THINGS SHE DO SHE FEELS THAT SHE IS DOING THE RIGHT THING FOR ME AND MY BROTHERS BUT LET ME TELLL U HER BOYFRIEND NAME IS KEV HE IS MEAN SOMETIME NICE BUT HE IS NOT ALL THE TIME HE COME HER SHE CLOES HER ROOM DOOR AND WEN I CALL FOR HER FOR SOMETHING SHE GETS MAD CUZ SHE DONT HAVE TIME WITH HIM AND HE COMES ALL THE TIME SO I DONT TALK TO MY MOM LIKE THAT NO MORE OO AND SHE PUT MY BROTHER IN JODCROP CUZ KEV SAID IT WILL BE GOOD FOR HIM IT IS GOOD FOR HIM BUT I MISS MY BROTHER I THINK KEV WANT HIM THERE SO HE CAN HAVE MY MOM FOR HIM SELF NOW HE SAY IAM GOING TO JOBCORP NEXT SO 1 DAY I AM GOING TO RUN AWAY TO MY BEST FRIEND KEVIN HOUSE AND IAM ONLY 13 MY BROTHER THAT IS IN JOBCORP IS 16 MY OLDER BROTHER IS 17 HE IS COOL NOW BEFORE I DID NOT LIKE HIM MY 16 YEAR OLD BROTHER WAS ALLWAY THERE FOR ME NOW HE GONE SO THE ONLY PERSON I LOOK UP TO IS KEVIN HER IS 14 AND HIS BROTHER Jeremy AND ONE I LOOK UP TO HIM A LI CUZ HE IS NOT SO SMART BUT HE IS THERE FOR ME AARIN I LOVE ALL OF THEM IT IS SADTO SAY BUT I LOVE THEM MORE THEN MY FAMILY :( BUT NOW TO ME KEVIN JEREMY ARRIN KEVIN MOM PJ KAYLA AND THE TWO DOGS IS MY FAMILY I LOVE THEM ALL NO ONE ELES

tothepoint

I too have a 14 year old son who I want to find adoptive parents for. He is a lovely child with no real issues and would be a fabulous son to stable parents. I want to die so looking after him wouldn't really be an option you see. No not a troll. Parenting is taken so much for granted in UK but it is thhe hardest job in the world. It has cost me my life and now I want to get rid of this body miserable. So if you judge me how can you be sure you are so much better? If you wouldn't adopt him yourself how can you feel free to judge me????

frustrated

i have a 13 yr old daughter that deats me and her 5 sisters tryed 2 throw a blow dryer n the tub wth her baby sisters i have tryed 2 get her help through mental hospitals, juvenial hall and cps none of them can do anything untill she kills or critically injures one of us wow for real!!!!!!if i dont do something she is going 2 hurt one of my other kids so my only choice is 2 place her up 4 adoption and myb the state can get her help she needs!!!!! can someone please tell me what 2 do :(

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