do you think adoptive parents can TRULY love a child as if it were their own?

DropsOfJupiter

Yes. Not only that, but obviously some adoptive parents can love a child better than the child's birthparents can

LaraSue

Absolutely

parrott_81

Yes, i believe they can.

AdoreHim

"AS IF IT WERE THEIR OWN?" My two adopted children are my own. I am also adopted and my adoptive parents loved me , because I was their own as well. Just because we did not grow in the womb of the one that we were raised by , does not mean that we were loved as much as if we were. I know that it is true, from being both an adoptee and a parent that adopted,

EDIT- it is VERY sad how many thumbs down I see here. It saddens me to no end to see that some people either believe that an adopted child/parent cannot have an enormous amount of love. Actually it is VERY SAD.

Julia B

ABSOLUTELY!

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yes

AnnaBelle

Yes, I believe they can.

And let me just say, all the TD are just shameful. What do you want, all AP's to say, "Geez, we hate our kids, an' we reckon this whole adoption thing was a huge mistake! Hyuk!"

Give me a break.

Nora

the child is their own from the moment they adopt that child.

7rin

Of course it is - although as with every other person on the face of the planet, the love is never 'the same love' from one person to another.

racheypoo

Absolutely, without a doubt, 100%.

If I loved them any more, my heart would beat right out of my chest.

They are my universe, and I wouldn't have it any other way.

In addition to that, my parents adored me. Not for one second did I doubt that I was loved, and loved immensely.

You'll Be In My Heart

Yes I truly love all my chilrden. Though each child of mine does require different types and amounts of love I do truly love them all as my own.

ETA:
The TD. I love the attention and I know your doing it to sh.tstir.

FlyingMonkeySwatter

Yes. I have a bio child and an adopted. They are both the beat of my heart and the two together are something to behold. Can you hear the pride in this mom's post ;0)

Megan

Some people can and anyone that can't should never adopt. Growing a baby in your womb isn't the only way to fall in love with them. Love comes in all shapes and sizes and there are plenty of wonderful people out there who can love all their children equally, no matter how they met them. I do with mine!

Jennifer L

Yes.

Black American Christian Woman

Yes. I say so because I have biological children and an adoptive child. I love them all the same and one child can not replace the love I have for any of them. My children range from ages 20 to 6 months. Not one of them means more to me than any of the other.

EDIT: Hahaha! The number of td's lets me know how hard the truth is for many people to hear.

Prof Nebel

I think that this question is really subjective based on the parent in question. My adopted family loves me very much, I'm sure of it. But I also have friends who were shown no love by their parents, and I am sad to say that I have known people who have never shown the capacity to love on a deep, selfless level. So, it really depends on the person.

...

Yep. I have both and love them equally.

It's Just Me

Absolutely. Two bio, Two Adopted kids here. And yes, I would die for any of them. Without hesitation. They are my kids. I share their drinks, I share their kisses, I clean up their poop and vomit, I love them for their laughter and will always love them through their tears. They are my children.

Helena B

no way

jm1970

Absolutely!

Stop the Hate Love instead

I think it depends on the adoptive parents some can, others canâ€™t. Those who cant really shouldnâ€™t be adopting in the first places.

Very sad how many people have gotten thumbs down even more the posters who have both biological and adopted child(ren). Surely if anyone can honestly give an answer you know from actually experience its people that have both biological and adopted children. What a crime for someone to love their adopted child. I suppose many would rather someone say â€œ I donâ€™t really love my adopted child heâ€™s pretty much just someone that lives with me.â€ That person would have gotten numerous TU

emma

I am fascinated by this question as well as the strong opinions that APs do/do not love their adopted children.

As an adopted person, I know that I love my biological mother as much as my adopted parents. In the same way I believe that it is possible to love adopted children as much as biological children.

My guess is that each person has a different relationship with each of their children just as we have different relationships with each parent. I know that I love all of my children differently and I know that I love them all as much as a mother can love a child. In the same way I love my mothers differently but as much as I can.

Telling a person that they do not love their children (or implying it) is really odd when you think about it. How can anyone *know* what I feel for my children but me?

aloha.girl59

Wow, lots of thumbs down here for parents saying they love their adopted kids? WTF is that about? Sometimes APs just can't do anything right.

I don't have any bio kids, but I have one son whom I adopted six years ago. I don't know what it's like to love a biological child but I can't imagine loving a kid any more than I love the one I adopted.

LinnyG

Ive answered this question a million times, because thats how many times its been asked.

Having one adopted brother and one sister who was my ap's bio child, I can say that our parents loved us all equally, but the bond they had with our sister was different. It is physically IMPOSSIBLE to be bonded to an adopted child like a child you gave birth to. You know that child BEFORE he or she is born, and that child knows you. The child knows his or her mothers voice, heartbeat, rhythms, reactions to stimuli, and smell.
Our adoptive parents are strangers when we are placed with them. Do we grow to love them? Yes. Do they love us? Yes. We also eventually bond with each other. But it is DIFFERENT.

eta for "cycle".

Didn't you say you had an abortion? Sure did.
Didn't that baby love you? Nope, it was a 6 week old embryo...just a few brain cells.

You wrote--You know that child BEFORE he or she is born, and that child knows you. The child knows his or her mothers voice, heartbeat, rhythms, reactions to stimuli, and smell.
A baby had this wonderful bond with you and you killed it, so why do you think you have a right to judge adoption?

I do not believe an embryo has feelings. A fully developed fetus, who is legally viable? Yes. But even then, it is my right as an American to terminate the pregnancy. The law says I have the right. It is not "murder", I am not "killing".

I have EVERY right to "judge" adoption. I live it every day.

Project 360*

Some do. Some can. Some try and do. Some try and dont. Some dont. Some wont.

Ferbs

Yes. Those with both will confirm that.

The reverse can be true as well. The love of a parent for a child of their "own" isn't necessarily true. Why is there foster care again? Sad but true. (not all cases apply this way of course)

As I have said before...if what we feel for our boy isn't as "real" as loving a bio child...then I want nothing to do with the other kind. What we have leaves me breathless and in awe that another human being can be so precious. I'm sure all parents agree on that. I hope anyway.

You can thumbs down on that all you want...I'm a proud momma too!

Hooray for all loving parents!

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