How do I tell my husband that I don't want to be with him and he can have the kids?

It's one thing to not want to be with your husband, but it's another thing to completely turn your back on your kids.

For their sake and your's....please don't do it.
Divorce him if you must, but not the kids.

Think how abandoned your kids will feel as they grow into teenagers, and eventually into young men and women. They will feel both stigmatized and traumatized, thinking that you didn't love them or care enough about them to stay.

They will grow up deeply hurt and with trust issues. You will miss Christmases and Thanksgivings with them, their birthdays, their first days of school, family picnics, reading to them, tucking them in to bed, their proms, their graduations...their weddings, and the joy of holding your first grandchild.

Although you may be very angry and upset by what is going on in your life right now, please think carefully. This is a life changing decision that has powerful, far reaching consequences for both you and your childen. This not something you can take back once done, but it is something you will have to live with every day for the rest of your life.

Years ago, I knew a man whose wife was fed up.
She was fed up with the boredom of the marriage, and the daily drudgery of taking care of the house and 5 kids ...all under the age of 10. So she decided to leave both her husband and her kids.

The year after she was gone, the youngest one who was under the age of 2, drowned in the bathtub.
Six years after she was gone, one of the children was electrocuted, after touching something that didn't have a ground. The only daughter wound up pregnant & married at 16. One kid wound up being murdered in a drug deal gone wrong. The one remaining son is an alcoholic.

I hope you choose wisely, for your sake and that of your children.

God Bless~*

mickey g

just like that. and file for divorce while you're at it (get that jump start)

Mike Hunt

Say I don't want to be with you and you can have the kids?

margaret w

u selfish stupid woman .

by sounds of it ur kids be happier with the father.
ffs some ppl . to dump ur own kids. what are u thinking

KghC_thegreatest

oh, you are tire of him or you just have some else better than him, if so then go a head tell him strait and leave. Other wise I suggest you reconsidered twice before you do it.

msthinkpositive

OK, giving up on the husband is one thing, but giving your kids away is another. This will have a dramatic effect on them in their growing up. What would make you care so little about their lives without you being in it? There may need to be some counseling for the family or your having a sole to sole talk to your spouse to make things work out. If he's messed up, don't make the kids suffer, they don't deserve this, because they don't ask to be born.

SeaSea

Just like that

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marieandlucaspape

Wow! It scares me to think there are mothers like you out there!

Someday

Just tell him straight...or give him enough trouble that he will himself want to break up with you.

coyotecoup

You must be in a desperately bad way if you want to leave your kids. Please get help, your kids NEED you!

TRAVIS B

i don't believe that would be a good idea but if that's how you feel you should explain it to him and and move on. there is no need to be stuck in a relationship that apparently your heart isn't in but by no means should you just let him have your children. if he's more financially stable give him custody but don't turn your back on the kids they are the future.

Signilda

Tell him it's his lucky day. To be rid of bad wife and mother and free to find someone who really cares.

Sandy F

Wow , woman you are a real piece of work.... How to tell you hubby you don't want him and don't want the kids either.. walk up tell him you getting a divorce sign this paper i am gone and get out.. It will be better for him and the kids if you weren't in there lives. You go pay for the divorce you are the one who want out of there lives. just make sure your lawyer says you want your parental rights relinquished too.. No one needs someone like you trying to come back into there lives .. leave them alone and get out of there. You aren't worth the hassel..

kenzie

tell him you don't want him or the kids and leave!

track1

explain to your kids that you are unhappy and that you are leaving thier father. then explain to the kids that you're not taking them. after you're done with that than just dump his a** and go! leaving your kids behind is the hardest thing to do.

symarcia

it sound like he should be the 1 leaving u, u've no family values as u never even consider ur own kids... What goes around come around, sometime double 2...Tell him as it is maybe he is praying for the day u said it. "I got to go, I need more space in my life."

animalmother

I'm a stuiped, selffish female dog!

leakser68

I really don't know! I just can't understand how u can leave ur kids though! That's really awful! You should be ashamed! They r going to hate u for it and u will deserve it!

â™¥ Sunshine â™¥

Your just going to walk out abnd leave your kids every kid deserves a mother and a father and your walking out on them and leaving them with a father only what a great mom u are!

ihavetobeme

The best thing you can do if you feel like this is get out of his and the childrens life. He'll get over it and hopefully find someone better than you. Children need ROLE MODELS and you are obviously NOT one so for their sake stay OUT of their lives.

sarah y

Obviously there s more to this story then meets the eye...you had better tell him without your kids present.Why don't you want your kids with you,`cause i gotta tell you,you`ll regret it in the future and this could cause serious problems and your children don't deserve this....you need to seriously think about this....Good luck.

4kids4dogs

you are worse than edna :-(

you need some alone time

stefan s

directly, and honestly. think about the future, not the past! let not the past poison your future!!!

Scoot

I'm not going to say that's horrible. I'm not going to say your a bad mom. I'm not going to judge you, I can't for I don't know you.

Though I don't know you, I don't think you should be on here asking that question...you should be asking yourself that question. How can I tell my husband I don't want to be with him and he can have the kids...ask yourself that. Talk to your friends and family if you need help...not strangers. Strangers don't know you and cant' help you as well....they will easily tell you you're a bad person, where as friends love you and will advise you and actually try to help.

Good luck and god bless.

grrrrme

First off let me say .... what kind of a mother are you to just give your kids away to him. You should be fighting to keep your kids. but in regards to your question.... Be honest with him and tell him that you are not women enoought to fight for the kids and he can take them, some women, I tell you...

Honey, I'm leaving and you can have sole custody of the kids.

Don't say the last part or you'll regret it.

Thumbs Up Fairy

hahahaa, give him the kids before you drown them

Poopsie the Embarassed Kitten

Leave him a note like this:

Darrell,

This may come as a shock to you, but I am leaving you and the kids. I realize it is sudden, but I can no longer bear to be a mom or a wife to my family.

One day the answer to 'why' may be clearer to you. But for now, this is all that I can say.

Don't forget to give Darrell Jr. his medicine or else he'll start making that terrible noise again.

Your erstwhile wife,

Yolanda-June

migurl48706

Just tell him bluntly...you are not a bad person because you do not want the children, im sure you would take them if you thought it would be best for them....congrats to you for knowing your limits...if a guy posted this there would not be all these angry evil answers

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