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Miss G. H. Etto
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How long did you date him before getting married? I don't think you gave it time and since your only 18, you can count this as the first mistake in life, divorce and move on. |
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jimmer333
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Sounds like you're screwed. |
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Kat G
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Sorry to see that you are being insulted rather then helped. My advice is have a heart to heart talk with your hubby. 1st the ex should be an ex not in his life. If he married you, then you should come 1st. His family should not be involved in justifying his inappropriate behavior. Also his ex telling you that she is looking for more then friends. (even if he is not) I would face the issue head on. If he feels he made a mistake then no point in being in a marriage with someone who wants to be with someone else. I would tell him how you feel and who is saying what if he brushes you off and goes back to there just friends then I would find out what is more important her as a friend or his marriage and wife. Good Luck .. |
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sdavid82
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Well, that's why people usually wait to get married until they are stable in life. At 18 nothing is stable in your life. I'm sorry, it's brutal truth but it's a pretty simple concept. Sorry!
Do yourself a favor. If you're 18 and this is going on now, get divorced and get moving on. |
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V D W C D
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ummmm.... do what u feel like it! |
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sandy
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hell no girl!!!! there are so many issues here ! why the heck is he still talking to her? and why is his nosy a s s family getting all in the mix. you need to stand your ground. you are his wife. if you dont want to deal with the drama then get out. you're still young and can find someone else that wont be talking to his ex behind your back!!! |
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atomicgirl
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tell him what u feel.I think that's so disrespectful of him if he really love why would he even be talking to her .Confront him i bet if it was you with a friend he would of done some thing about it.Tell him its you or the b**ch. |
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je
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I think it is very disrespectful.. that his family says this in front of you. Also your husband should put an end to it all if he loves you |
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Juleette
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she's just trying to make you feel the way she is
she is jelous your married to your husband not her, so she's trying to start ****, just be overly sweet to her when she does this, she's trying to get to you and she won that battle, now you must win the war
remember your married not her and she's just a jelous little girl |
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♥-Sara-♥
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This is the exact reason kids should not get married, you should have waited!! you are both immature, you dont trust him, which is problem 1 and he is lying to you, problem 2! He is telling her that they would be together, you need to leave him!
thumbs down all you want -- no one under 18 is old enough or mature enough to be married, you fools |
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freesample1
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He got emotional one day and pop the question! I think what he meant to say was something else. Either he says good bye to this other person or you need to rethink your life goals. I don't think 18 is to young. There are some out there that really do know what it is all about. However most don't . Don't let one mistake change your whole life. Don't get pregnant and don't get into debt with this guy. Go to counseling and find you where you both are going first. If he sticks up for her and defends his friendship with her. Then maybe he should go. I know that would be tough on you but it is just the start of your whole life. Make right, good, and honest decisions now. |
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jacketprof
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Strangely enough, "move" isn't the worst answer in the world. Not necessarily far away, but out of the situation you're in. If you don't see the ex and the family all the time, it's easier to break that chain. You have every right to tell your husband he needs to cut off all communication with the ex. When he married you, it was a commitment to choose you over her, and he has to back that up with his actions. His family should butt the hell out, and I'd vote for keeping your distance from them for a while, too.
Yes, 18 is young to be married, but you are married, and you have the right to expect that as a couple, your husband's first loyalty should be to you. Remind him -- kindly and calmly -- that you're his wife and he's YOUR husband, so it's hands off and butt out to everyone else.
Good luck. |
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trishay79
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if you are 18 and married then being married IS your problem. you cant know a guy well enough at 18 to get married. You should know a guy for at least 6 years before getting married. I doubt you have been with him that long before marrying him. |
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goldenfir
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Talk to him about it. Tell him that you are uncomfortable with his relationship with his ex and if he's got a good head...he'll cut it off and move on. |
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*Fickle Pickle*
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Well, sweety, you need to make it CLEAR to your hubby that this bothers you!! Explain to him that these are not tolerable remarks. He needs to have more respect than that for you. Tell him flat out - If you want to be with her THERE'S the DOOR!! And make HIM tell his family to BUTT OUT!! Their opinions are worthless & need to be kept to themselves!!! If he LOVES you he WILL make these changes – They are not tough ones anyways. But do not stand for the comments to continue, they will ONLY drive you INSANE!!!!
Good luck to you!!! |
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skcs11
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dont put up with it, fight back or get out |
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krystal<3Charlie
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Tell him u dont want him talking to an ex that is just rude specially cause u guys are married! and if he dont like that then say i cant put up with this no more
get back to me
krystal |
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♫ Chloe ♫
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leave him,.... you're better off without him.... get divorce, be with someone who doesn't do this...
Good Luck |
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Just a friend.
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The problem you have isn't the one you think. Your problem is being married at 18 and all the pitfalls it entails. You married a man before he was settled and now are unhappy because he is being him. Sounds like you made a mistake and now want to blame him. Either accept or move on, divorce this loser and wait about 10 years before making the mistake of getting married again. |
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Blue Rose
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Dear, you are too young to be married to begin with. Life is too short to drink bad wine. Divorce him, NOW, get a better education, a great paying job, travel, meet a better man and live life to it's fullest. |
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hard_n_tender26
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The biggest problem is that you are married at 18. |
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osiris_lives_forever
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Why did you marry him in the first place? Maybe you should tell him that continuing this relationship with the ex is really compromising your marriage. If he wants to be with you, he needs to start thinking more as an US and less as a ME ME ME. I had similar problems with my husband when we got married, and I really had to explain to him that I would leave rather than play second fiddle. |
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kd_bug
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Leave his a$$!!! if they are talking and stuff and you know about it, just think of what they are doing that you dont now about...my sister married a guy and she found out that him and his ex were talking and he said that there was nothing going on...his ex was pregnant a few weeks later...hummmmm i wonder
?!?!?!?!? |
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dancanman
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sounds like she is jealous of you! at 18, you are a little young to be married! how old is he? at his age, he still wants to screw around, so do not be surprised by his actions! tell him: either start paying attention to me! or it is over! |
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Notherenow
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I'm a bit confused why you'd choose to marry at 18, but anyways, tell him that him talking to her makes you feel uncomfortable and the family's attitude also. If he refuses to do anything about it then you may have to consider leaving him, married or not. |
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vanhammer
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Time for a big heart to heart talk. Very calmly explain to him how this is making you feel. Tell him to put the shoe on the other foot and how would he feel about it. She is an ex and should stay that way. You are his wife now and you and your feelings should come first. |
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e.sillery
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Give him a choice, you or her. Unless they have kids together he has NO reason to talk to her for any reason. |
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notyou311
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Tell him that it has to stop. How would he like it if your started talking to an ex? You probably need to talk to a marriage counselor. Your husband sounds very immature and his family is trying to cause trouble. |
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Devil Bob
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That's what you get for getting married at 18. I bet mommy and daddy are proud. Oh, and if he's not cheating, he will be soon. |
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bnbn_e2
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The problem is you're 18, AND married!!! |
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blakereik
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You got married to young. Get an anullment and move on. Don't get married again until you and your partner are beyond high school level relationships. |
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