I love my wife and kids, but I hate having to share with them. What do I do?

Automation Wizard

I read your question and I think that sharing your stuff is not your problem but rather sharing all of your time.

Some of us, myself included, recharge our batteries so to speak by having some alone time. That can be a difficult situation when we have families. This works best as scheduled time.

I have Saturdays off because my wife takes care of our son so that I can. My get stuff done day is Saturday. My wife has Sundays off so that she can get stuff done. I watch our son while she does that. Both of us get some time to ourselves this way. You have to give some to get some.

CGAA72

I get the sharing the pizza and xbox. my son now always wants to play games with me. and we eat as a family.
but as far as golfing, you have to draw the line there my man. how do you get to play with anyone?
90% of golf is getting away from the wife and kids.

after the kids are asleep, give yourself an hour or two to play your xbox in private. you can reserve "daddy time"
<but don't take away from "quality time" or daddy time will be out of time>

~~*Paradise Dreams*~~

Grow up! You have a family and you should have known before you procreated that you no longer have "your way" it's their way, welcome to being a father. You aren't a little boy anymore, it's time to grow up and be a man!

Comrade

Sometimes when you live with other people you have to do things you don't like doing. You can't only do things you want to. That is the case for every member of a family or for anyone in any kind of relationship with another human being. In order to live peacefully together everyone has to make sacrifices.

And it shouldn't be something you think of having to do, it should be considered a privilege. You are lucky enough to have a wife and kids that you love. Don't take that for granted.

english_babe

that is the whole idea of having a family and being married. it's a responsibility that you signed up for when you got married. and you also had to make this sacrifice for you kids and wife. but if you want to find a night for yourself. tell them that one night every week that you wil go out and it will be just "you" night.

wootsauce

Selfish people should not get married and have kids.

mlk682

Maybe think about how you might feel if you woke up tomorrow and they were gone? Careful what you wish for you just might get it , ya know?

kittykatsback

Lock the door when you are in the bathroom.

didn't you ask this question before?

Grow up man!

cellie

why did you get married and have kids if you are a selfish brat. if you loved them you wouldn't mind sharing and spending time with them!!

Valerie X

Imagine how THEY feel.....

momma of two

grow up youre kids and wife deserve so much better than you

keithleyjustin

reversesent-quit looking at yourself dude and be a Man . Did you have a childhood where you slept through the terrible twos and now your reverting back into them. Sharing is what we teach at the ages of 2-4. A man would not act like this-would give his last meal ect to family!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hallie

Plan some alone time, that they know is alone time. Let them know you want to be alone every now and again. Maybe they are around you all of the time because they think you need it? Maybe they are just as sick of you as you are of them? Get a divorce and give her custody? Stop asking her to share her naughty fun bits with you? Just some suggestions.

*Freedom*

Wow. Count your blessings while you have them. With that attitude you won't have them for long.

Colombiangirl

if u love them as much as you think, it should not bother you, and if you feel like that maybe you need to tell them you need some time alone, just to enjoy yourself.

terryanne

I bet you dont mind sharing your co ck though do you? ****

C M

I'm sorry, but if you didnt want to share you shouldnt have gotten married or had children. I am so sorry for your family!

Starting Over

It is ok to want time to yourself, but when you committed to the husband and father gig you chose to put someone else ahead of your wants and desires.

Douglas D

Your right to ask this question went out the window the day you decided to get married & have a family.

Get over yourself, & get used to sharing with your family, or arrange for your own dissappearance.

BabeHart

Tell the family sometimes you want some 'me' time...but not sharing food you're eating in front of them, or a game system you're playing in the home you all share, makes you sound like an azz frankly, which is why this is probably a trolling post...I can't imagine a real husband/father being that selfish.

...

That's why it's called a FAMILY. They do things together....

Lily

ur poor poor family

Crunchy Sweet

Get a divorce and a vasectomy. Then be a dead beat dad who never sees his kids. Then..and only then..can you be 100% selfish (expect for taxes, the government frowns on not sharing).

emblebeegirl

just tell them you love them, but sometimes you need to be able to do stuff alone. They are your family, they should understand. But part of being a family is sharing stuff, like the pizza, and are you really going to eat the whole thing by yourself anyways?

Jenn xD

learn how to be less selfish

Jasmina Pierro

You need help. BAD. You said you hate having to "share" with your own family??? HELLOOO??? That is so selfish to say about your family. You have it backwards. It's called personal "time management." Quit WHINING, make time for yourself, and stop blaming it on your family.

Matt A

You might be able to get away with having a few things to yourself, but you pretty much signed up for the whole sharing thing when you got married and had kids bud.....................

nicolemcg

Ummm...grow up?

Listen, it sounds like you need a little alone time. Tell your wife you want three hours on Saturday to do whatever you want. In return, this is important, she gets three hours on Sunday to herself.

The pizza and stuff? That's life, pal. You didn't need the whole pie, anyway...

Best.

whiskeyman510

Well by making to choice to be married and to be a father, you also made the choice to live a somewhat self-less life and put others needs before your own.

That being said, you and your wife both deserve a little down time from the kids and each other and with each each other. In order for your marriage and you and your wife to keep a healthy mental state, you need to make time for yourself and each other.

Plan a day with a sitter where you and your wife have a date night. Have 1 night a week where you go out with your friends, and 1 night where your wife goes out with her friends.

Having time apart from your wife & kids, however brief, will make the time together even more special.

It is unrealistic, however, to not expect to share things like pizza or video games, and you should check that attitude at the door right now or you can expect to be miserable.

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