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Move in next door to exwife?

I divorced my wife a year and a half ago, and she has custody of my 3 children. I dated a few women, but then began dating my old next-door neighbor (who is also divorced). She has 3 children of her own, and would like to get married and have me move in. I'm all for it, as I love her and would be closer to my own children. When the ex found out the plan, she went completely berserk. Is there any reason I shouldn't do this and are her feelings legitimate? The kids have said they would be happy to have me that close....


2010-09-30 17:55:11 +0000
Wow you don't think this is awkward?
Living right next to her is odd...that's too much. You need space between yourselves.
How about moving a few blocks away?

2010-09-30 17:59:20 +0000
Better do as you feel correct keeping in view the kids!

2010-09-30 18:24:30 +0000
Do it she is your Ex and doesn't have any say in how you live your life.

2010-09-30 18:02:16 +0000
And your soon to be new wife actually suggested this??? Doesn't matter if your x's feelings are legitimate or not. A better question would be, do you really REALLY think you could peacefully pull this off???........♥♥

2010-09-30 18:12:15 +0000
Have you been watching Polygamy Reality TV or something?

Perhaps a few blocks away but not next door. That's just looking for trouble.

2010-09-30 17:54:36 +0000
no way

2010-09-30 17:57:22 +0000
1. Did you divorce your wife and was she unhappy about it? If yes, then she isn't going to want you living next door to her, flaunting your relationship with her neighbor. 2. Of course your kids would be happy about it, but if you will base your decision, based on what they want, they would want you two to get back together as well. Are you going to do that to make them happy? Probably not, so not really a fair thing to consider. 3. I have to wonder why your girlfriend would suggest you live at her house. Its a little hostile to me. If your ex divorced you, I don't think she would care if you lived next door, so stop being so passive aggressive! Obviously, you know why this bothers her!

2010-09-30 17:55:18 +0000
she probably doesn't want to have to face your new marriage every single day of her life.

i would really try to talk to her about this. why did she go beserk? she may not have been being rational.

2010-09-30 17:56:57 +0000
its your choice in the end but I see a lot of problems - esp. if ex is already displaying displeasure

if my s/o's ex moved next door to us - we'd be moving

2010-09-30 18:03:59 +0000
when it comes to getting remarried, your ex's feelings should have nothing to do with your decision, only your children should have any weight on that and only slightly. as for moving next door, that could cause way too many issues in the long run. staying in the same town, yes that's a good idea for the kids since you'll always be close, but being next door will most likely cause alot of tension between you and the ex, which will lead to tension in your children and in your new marriage.

2010-09-30 17:54:27 +0000
Why is it people who live in locations like New York City (with 5 boroughs), Boston with all the outlying smaller cities and Los Angles all seem to move either right next door or on the same block with the ex?

2010-09-30 17:57:53 +0000
sure...go ahead....just add more drama to the drama on top of more drama. Thats not a good idea and I think you know that. she (your ex) will defintely feel like the both of you are rubbing it in her face big time...so go ahead, the cat fights should be pretty funny, if you like that sort of thing.

2010-09-30 17:58:24 +0000
That would be too close for comfort for me. Sounds like a hornet's nest waiting to be poked. I'd suggest finding a new place together that may be closer to your children than you are now, but not SO close as to ignite old wounds.

Crazy ex with custody of the kids is a bad mix.

2010-09-30 18:03:25 +0000
Well, it certainly would be convenient for your children with you living next door, but how AWKWARD would it be for you and your ex to see each other so often...???
I would say yes...if the two of you were on good terms and were civil and could remain so for your children at least, but if she has gone berserk....SHE is having a huge issue with this...
Could you handle her issues? Can she handle it? Maybe if you are serious about doing this, you should have a little talk with her....and tell her you know this is a very precarious situation, but you want things to be able to go as smoothly as possible...it would make visitation with the kids back and forth so easy...
I guess it depends on how angry your ex is about this and if you can deal with it....or if you think with time, things will just smooth themselves out....Maybe she just needs time to adjust to the whole idea and concept of this....wow....you have ALOT to think about here....good luck

2010-09-30 17:56:36 +0000
I'm not saying don't do it, but evaluate everything, not just the positive aspects. Being close is good, but being too close will cause more problems.

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