My husband and I can't seem to agree on whether to argue in front of our kids or no.He says it's good for them?

say it all...

Try to keep most of the really adult matters out of ear shot. Even at that, you'll argue in front of them from time-to-time. They should see some of it because they will learn from it - everything from how to argue/compromise/forgive/make up...I don't think every argument is appropriate, but one or two here and there won't hurt them.

Timmy

never argue in front of young kids as they will grow up thinking its normal and can get into fights because of it

Barack Hussein Carter

Kids don't understand. I was in agreement with your husband when we had our first, but now I've seen that it does nothing but upset them. And now that our oldest is 8, he thinks that he has the right to argue with my wife and myself. Just a bad road to go down.

BabeHart

If your post is true, then he's in the wrong. Nobody needs lessons in arguing, and that isn't the way to handle a disagreement anyway.

No, it's not good for kids to see their parents arguing and fighting. That teaches them that dysfunctional relationships are the norm and raising ones voice or using unkind words is the way to get your point across (wrong on both counts).

Arguing isn't reasoning...discussing is.

lostintranslation

Thats totally insane!! All that teaches your kids is that its ok to have unstable relationships in fact it teaches them that is how relationships should be. He really is crazy if he thinks that is ok and he is also wayyy out there if he dont realize that it hurts your kids.

imarockstar

It is detrimental for them, and no counselor in the world would ever agree to arguing in front of your children. When you argue, you never know what is going to be said. these things can be damaging to innocent ears, and have major reprocussions for the future of those kids as well. Oughta think about that..

Jessy

I guess that depends on whether or not either of you are verbally abusive. Healthy arguments, ones where two people are exchanging points of view rather than insults, without bullieing or interupting are ok.

e.feves

it is not good to argue in front of your children because they will learn it from you and we don't want that do we? So tell your husband not too fight.

holysocks1

When I was a kid I wished my parents would get a divorce, I was so tired of hearing it. But they didn't.

I do love to argue, though.

Southern Bell

OMG...He thinks it's good for them ? That is WAY off the radar. Teach them how to rationally and respectfully resolve a problem by talking. Not argue. NEVER yell and fight like little kids in front of your children. It will scare them and teach them that's how you resolve problems. If you are having a convo. that is escalating to a fight just say " lets talk about this later". And leave it. No wonder kids fight and yell at their teachers these days....

heyy

YOUR HUSBAND IS WRONG! it makes them feel scared, sad, and confused to see their parents fight.

Snuggles

Whattt he feels its ok.. no it isnt..kids learn from their parents attitude---actions--- words-- they will repeat you both as they grow.they will see and hear enough negative in this world let alone at home.

Jungle J

Are you stupid? NO, DON'T ARGUE, OBVIOUSLY.

I think that's one of the reasons why I'm so messed up and I have problems with people. I had to endure a whole life of that BS.

PATRICIA K

If your children see and feel how miserable you are by arguing in front of them, that is what they are learning. That you are unhappy.

It would be ideal if you didn't argue at all but learned to discuss and respect each other's opinion. Working together, you get far more accomplished.

Children are smarter than you think and educating yourself to act as a positive role model would provide a much better environment.

Here is a great little article which can provide insight from the child's point of view. http://www.kabbalah.info/engkab/life-love-family/kabbalah-education?p_options=1#my-parents-are-dinosaurs-

recycler562

Having discussions in front of your kids is good, arguing & fighting is not.

Tiger by the Tail

Not good - it gives kids poor role models. They will learn enough about arguing when they get older.

Jo March

I think it depends on the type of argument. A good-spirited DEBATE about a topic might be ok (for example if you were discussing who to vote for), but there needs to be acceptance on both sides of the otheres ideas, and a resolution, even if you just agree to disagree.

But an ARGUMENT where you are screaming at each other and calling names and just fighting is defaintely VERY BAD for them!

Luis

It's Not!!!!!

RANDOM:)

BAD IDEA. Seeing parents fight can traumatize children.

lilmoomoolover86

Do not argue in front of your children, decide to discuss it when they're not around or step out to do so.

Shannon

Dont argue in front of them, it makes children sad when they see there parents argue! Put yourself in there shoes, how would you feel! Dont argue in front of them, its not good for them eiher, they shouldnt see that either!

Wim Wam Woozle

Why on earth would that be good for them? That is extremely inconsiderate to your children.

Denny

What the hell? Don't argue in front of your kids. What?.... WHAT? Tell your husband that kids soak up everything they see. If they see violence, for example, then they have an increased chance of being violent

If you do drugs around your kids... What... Do you... Think is going to... .Happpennnnnn?

You are right. Your husband is very Fu*$ing wrong.

Awesomness

i know i don't like it when my parents fight in fornt of me...

Poppy

It's never good to argue in front of the kids. They need to see their parents united.

hammer

Its not good to yell and fight. It is good to have small arguments AND they also need to see you work your way to resolve them. If all they see is the arguing, its not good. If they see that adults can work through a problem logically and rationally, it is a good thing.

Jane Doe

I agree with you it is not good to argue in front of the children

KaelinLeigh 38*

What the hell is wrong with him?

It's not good for your kids. They'll just grow up to be stressed and aggressive people.

Parents should never argue in front of their children.

sybbo

I'd say your husband is a nitwit.

stephen k

Kids have an image of their parents. any argument demeans that image and there is no reason to have it, especially since kids feel mommy and daddy are arguing about them.

Withdraw to the room, and keep your voice down

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