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Daddy Dave
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I thought i was going to read a serious question, but the stupidity crept in.
if you are serious, the first thing to do is to get a solicitor and issue her with a decree. you will need all the help you can get with the division of property.
"Daddy Dave" |
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confused_fozz
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I don't know how you can still make a joke out of it, that's good because it means that you are actually open of the things and accepted that your wife has an affair, so I think you already know what and how you will tell her, just tell her in anyway you want it, but I don't think renting a bi-plane with a banner is actually useless not unless you are willing to spend money just to tell her huh lol, I wouldn't spend such money just to tell her she was having an affair, she don't deserve it!!!! |
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****** *
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dont leave stay there get a PI and a lawer and ask them what you should do get all the fact and then hand her the paper work the she will have to leave why should you leave when she the one doing ever one get your children and home and send her down the road with out any thing get pic time date place they meet spend the money now and not latter on down the road ok this how i did i was paying out the *** for her but now i have my children and she paying me ok dont leave untill the unlest the court tell you to sleep on the couch if you have to that if you want this to end up in a divoced |
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June H
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Don't leave her !!! Marriage is what it is UNTIL DEATH. When you speak those words " Till death do us part " THAT IS EXACTLY WHAT IT MEANS. Honor the sanctity of your marriage , your wife is not but you can . God will honor you for honoring & keeping your ordained marriage pure.Remember your lifetime commitment.No one fells out from love, they fell out from commitment. Marriage is a commitment - bottom line , for better or worse.When we marry, we make a commitment to stick by our ordained lifetime soulmate through thick and thin.If our spouse screws up and makes mistakes , forgive them , work it out and maintain your commitment. Divorce should never be an option no matter what. Divorce means quit and it's the coward's way out like is killing oneself is. Hey I know how you feel , 5 years ago my husband cheated on me with my x-best friend. Yes he is the quiter here and took the coward's way out by filing for divorce 4 years ago. Well he could care less for our children & me because he is where he is now. My counsellor told me if my husband truly care deeply down in his heart for me , for our 3 children and for the commitment to me , he would be back with all of us. I know it is true in my heart that if my husband was truly born again , he would not be where he is now ..... he would be back with me. God will bring my husband back to me when he is truly born again.The problem is we live in what I call a " Fast Food Could Care Less Society " .... it's me , myself & I { I want what I want and I want it now } . The problem is marriage is not fast food. It takes years of cultivanation , nurturing and God centered. A Happy marriage is not a destination - it is a journey. Hang in there and get a good christain counsellor. Don't give up on anything. |
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Noadonis
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In a language she understands. |
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marrissa
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Just bounce on her she doesn't need an explanation because she cheated herself out of the relationship ship. |
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Julia P
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I don't feel you owe her any explanation at all. You are angry and hurt but she will already realise that when you are gone. |
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CeeVee
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Make sure that all the finances are secure, empty out the joint accounts and put all the money into an account in your name only.
Remove her name as beneficiary from all the insurance policies.
Change you will.
When the money is secure then you can consult a solicitor and divorce her.
You could always tip off the police that HE is involved in a terrorist plot to blow up airliners. |
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MUSHMAN
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There is no easy way to tell her. Tell the the truth and stick by your decision. |
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passioncocktail
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banner ove shopping centre |
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Katze
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Because, she has not been nice with you, doesn't mean you have to be nasty. If you don't want to tell her in person, give her a call and say "I am leaving you, because you are having an affair
". Have a nice trip. |
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Lordd Virgil
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Book a flight on his plane and let the entire crew and population of the plane know that their Captain is screwing around with a married woman and they should consider a different airline. You might get to join the mile-high club with one of the stewardesses or another passenger. If the pilot is married, make certain his wife knows. You might get along with her very well.
By the way, make sure your ticket is a round trip and your soon-to-be-ex's ticket is a one-way. |
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bobbie e
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Do as the Navajo's....Put her suit case on the door step, and lock the door. - Tell her you have an STD, HA |
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C M
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Big chance of her missing the bi plane msg (there mught be a sale or something going on) I'd take the personal private lonely misery route. Leave her a very simple note if she does not know that you know-His name and number with the msg to call him if she needs to talk about it. |
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Taxedman
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Don't leave her. You stay and kick her out. |
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pixi_kitten2006
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to her face |
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babygirl
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how do you know??? if you are very sure of what you are saying, i suggest you ask her first before you take any action. |
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good tree
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Think long and hard before doing anything, sure it's painful (I've been there) but it's not totally hopeless. My hubby and I are rebuilding our marriage, please at least try the link. |
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Amanda K
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Leave a sign on the computer screen:
MARRIAGE: CANCELLED DUE TO ADVERSE FIDELITY |
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iCe.PriinCess
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just tell her.... |
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smartnkope
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Firstly, please ensure that you have gathered enough and undisputable evidence before you undertake your decision. Tell her to tell you her true feelings about you and then unleash your blow according to your findings by telling her your feelings and your decision. What needs to be appreciated is the rule of natural justice - afford her an hearing. |
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amalia g
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just be yourself and tell her why you want to leave her |
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optimaxim
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Find somewhere quiet, private and comfortable where your wife and you can go for a face-to-face conversation. Tell her that there are some important matters that need to be discussed and some important decisions that need to be made. Start a normal conversation about banalities but then quickly move on to the first main matter. Tell her that you have found out about her affair with an airline pilot and that you are devastated. Tell her that you don't know what to do. Then make space for her to say whatever it is that she wants to say or whatever it is she needs to say. Listen in silence to everything she says and wait until she has said everything she wants to say. She may ask a question or two. You don't have to answer these unless doing so serves your purposes. At this point you will probably have a little bit more information. Decide what you want to say next. What you say next should really depend to some extent on what she has just said. The primary questions that I think that you need answers to are, "Does she want you?", "Does she want him?", "Does she want both of you?" or "Does she want neither of you?". You then have to think very clearly and deeply about what you want in the light of what your wife has just said. Then tell her what you want (your main preferences). If your wants and her wants are compatable in some ways, then you may have something to work at together. You may want to consider this option, but I think that you should feel free to change your mind at any time. If your wants and her wants are incompatable, then you obviously have to go your own separate ways. My recommendation is to try to do this amicably, but if this proves really difficult or impossible, then you should try to keep out of each other's way.
Then there is the matter of dealing with all of the hurt and pain that is always associated with this kind of dishonesty and betrayal. My own response would be to take every opportunity to talk about my thoughts, my feelings, my plans for everyday living and my plans for the future with a caring, loving, intelligent and supportive person who I feel is totally on my side most of the time. It also helps if supporters remind us that when we make an effort for our own benefit we are asserting that we deserve a good life, now and forever more. Start investing in the rest of your life right now.
It is important to get the help and support that you need. If finding the kind of support that I have outlined above proves difficult, then consider counselling. Are there such things as separation and divorce counsellors? If so, then get one!
Martin Camden. |
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S_J
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Just say her that why u want to leave her............. |
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Mrs Captain
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Do you have children? If not, I wouldn't even tell her. She'll know something is up when you change locks and a removal truck pulls up at her work with all her bits in. She has no regard for you so why should you have any for her. Don't waste anymore time on her. Get over her and get under another woman ( make sure she knows that too). |
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CJ
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Make sure that all of your evidence is accurate and that you're POSITIVE that she's having an affair. If you've already done this, don't make a big scene and stoop to her level. Just pack your things when she's gone and leave a note. Recruit a friend or some family so you can be sure that packing is a speedy process. Make sure the note says something that shows that you're hurt, but that you can do better than her. Don't waste the money for writing in the sky! She clearly isn't worth it...even if it's for revenge. Hang in there. |
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a j
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Its not so easy. You have to prove her infidelity in court to get rid of her and to be a free bird on your own. But before going for another lady think why has your wife had to go for another man otherwise same story will be repeateed with your next wife also. |
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Arlene06
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It appears you are angry. I assume there are no kids in the mix. Just get an attorney, get the paperwork started. Then sit down with her one evening, tell her you are done, that you have filed, and leave (or tell her to leave, if you plan to stay with the house). The meaner you are in telling her, the more apt she is to shred your clothes or some other act of revenge. |
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jammy456b
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Are you sure that she is having an affair with an another guy????Dont take any hasty decision till you the know the exact truth.Just talk to her and find out if she has any problems with you and sort it out.Divorse is a worst option.... |
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David R
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Send her a postcard? Save the money from hiring the red Arrows and take a long break away, where the sun shines, the booze and drugs are cheap, and the women attractive and friendly. I suggest you think about Thailand or Vietnam as destinations, where you can live as a king for months on a fiver (a bloke told me that down the pub).
Don't do a gary though. |
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