How long would you reasonably let your husband be deployed overseas before you started 'seeing' other guys?

DIXIE

Come guys/gals melindadoubleD is having a laugh, isn't she? If she is not , then shame on her, she has low morals and marriage wise is as much use as a chocolate fireguard. Do you have a problem sleeping?

Kari N

haha So YOU are the reason every man in the military over the age of 25 hates the idea of marriage. Just wondering, did guys have a contractual marriage, did you marry for the housing allowance? You give good women like me a bad reputation. He didn't choose to leave you for that long, he's gone because he is needed. Just like my husband. I doubt your man appreciates being out in the desert knowing you're thinking of spreading your legs for just anyone. If you're going to do it, how bout you let him know so he can put in for seperation and cut you off. You don't deserve any of his money.

J D

You would do yourself and the military wives in the Yahoo Answers community a huge favor if you would delete this question. How can anyone show such disrespect? If you feel like you need to be seeing other men, you should also be filing for divorce. What a tramp!

Rob G

When you are ready for him to do the same thing, go for it. "What you sow, you shall also reap"

Iraq isn't the only place where military members are deployed to keep the terrorists disorganized. It is easy to watch tv and believe the hype, but what your husband is doing is keeping not just you safe, but anyone whom the terrorists normally target. It is a shame that he gets the kind of treatment from his wife that we expect from terroists.

ganderson

I'm a former military wife of 11 years. I stayed faithful in it's entirety being completely alone with no other family or friends because I was raising my 2 children alone. My husband DID cheat on me numerous times, had affair after affair and is now married to another SSGT in the military whom he had an affair on me with during the last 2 years of our marriage I just now recently found out about because he married her the day we were divorced and forgot my children and I exsisted. We supported, encouraged and prayed for him to come home each and every day and begged God to keep him safe. I worked hard at being a faithful and supportive military wife with the hopes and dreams one day it would all pay off and we could show the world we made it. I had no idea that during the entirety of the marriage, I was the only one working at this family. Being cheated on is the absolute most cruel betrayal and had he been a real man, I would be proud of him and myself today at making it through all of this. I don't regret the hard work and loyalty and dedication myself and my children, not to mention heartbreak, we endured because it's made me a stronger person. If your husband is a good man who cherishes his vows to you and loves you and counts the days he comes home to you, cherish that. There are wives like me that took this life seriously and was ready for the challenge with the faith we would make it. I would have done anything to have a husband that loved me and didn't do what he did to this family. The military is a hard life, but I overcame it with hope and patience. Had I known all these years what he was doing and understood the abuse I took wasn't my fault after him always telling me that it was, I would have done things very differently. I would have divorced him years ago and cut my losses, but because of his natrotious adulty and constant mental and physical abuse, my children and I, 8 and 10 are fending for ourselves while he's wrapped around his new life of luxury his new wife is providing for him while he gloats and throws in my face what a piece of crap I am and always have been. Please figure out what it is that you want in life. My family comes first, my vows came first and I still believe after all of this true love conquers all. I can't take it when people CHOOSE to marry yet don't honor their vows. What's the point? All that does is encourage your kids to repeat this when they grow up, find no fault in divorce and see marriage as a temporary fix and when times get tough, not work it out or fight for your family or your marriage. Family and honor is very sacred to me and no matter what my ex did, it always will be. Cheating shouldn't even be a thought in your head when you stand in front of God and witnesses. If you can't handle the times alone, find a civilian and pull your head out of your ***.

Merrik

Sigh...

US Marine

You are a hoe. Whats your name and what branch is he ima tell him you asked that?

I hope you rot in hell for this

boy boy

over here in the uk ..we look at woman like you and think no-way ..as long as there are dogs in the street !

jj m

your a f*cking b*tch. you should die, literally just die. your scum.

Donna_the_Maniak

Are you serious??? Dude he's you husband... An what were to happen if he found out, ooooooooooh, loads of trouble missy ")

Karma Jane

NEVER!!!! Maybe you should get a divorce before he leaves... or when he gets back and let him know that you don;t love him and or is to weak to handle a bit of stress during separation.

LOL @ REASONABLY!!!!

horny much? trying make him at fault? unfaithful b*tch.

just leave the guy, he deserves so much better.

Chrystie

... hes in the military... "letting" him be deployed is not an option. he has to do what he has to do. And how long before i decide to cheat while my husband is overseas!?... that would be never!!

petesusn

Adultery is NEVER an option.

Stephanie C

Really you can't be serious! As a navy wife I can say that you are the type of military spouse that gives us a bad name. Your husband is fighting for this country while your worried about sleeping around. Shame on you, you don't deserve to be a military spouse!

Christine

LMAO people like you are what make this site so fun!

Shannon

cheater

Dan

Do your husband a favor and take a walk off a tall cliff.

Jane_S

I wouldn't.

And if you are even contemplating doing this, to him and to his family, do all of them and us (normal military wives) a favor by divorcing him first.

IN ADDITION:

You don't see how he's protecting "your way of life " because you've NEVER lived WITHOUT THE FREEDOM that he and the others with him and before him have fought so hard for. If you still don't "see it," then move to a country that has no freedom and see how you like it then. How about in a country where women are not allowed to drive and have to have a male companion wherever she goes?

victoria

Never. We've spent over half of our marriage apart. We're married, there is no 'get out of jail free' card giving you a right to sleep with other men, or even enter into an emotional relationship with another man.
If you can even think like this then maybe you should reevaluate your marriage, if you can cheat maybe you don't love him like you thought you did.

Oh and if you think he'll be over there doing the same to you, think again. Yes it happens, but nowhere near as much as you or the general public thinks. Usually its too busy or controlled over there to do anything but work too much and sleep too little. Oh and call their LOVING WIVES at home once in a while.
EDIT
How is he protecting your way of life? You HAVE to be joking me. Think back to a couple of planes crashing into a couple of buildings, taking thousands of innocent lives, and to one plane crashing in a field due to heroes aboard. Do you really think they were the only ones who want to hurt us? Seriously? Our men and women signed up to protect this country, and part of that is done by rebuilding fallen nations like Iraq, giving them a way to take care of themselves without being controlled.
Was your husband already enlisted when you married him, or did he sign the papers after that? If you married him knowing he was in the military that's your fault, and if he signed up after you got married you did have the option to leave.
Do all of us decent military wives a favor and file for divorce before you start screwing around on him. I'll even help you get the papers going and find a way for you to do it for free!

San Diego Art Nut

If you are still married then you should not see other guys at all. If you need guys so bad that you can't wait til you husband returns then give him the respect of getting a divorce. For sure you need marriage counseling.

Blessings of Victory

im shocked to hear this...your husband deserves better.

THEAmericanPatriot

Are you SERIOUS? You're MARRIED ya twit! You should NEVER 'see other guys'!
Protecting your life? FIGHT THEM OVER THERE OR OVER HERE, that's how!
I can't believe you're that stupid to think it's OK to go screw other guys just because your husband is deployed! How long do you think HE should wait before boffing some gal over there? OH, that's NOT ok.
I take it you didn't take your wedding vows seriously. What a loser!
Your poor husband deserves a better woman than YOU!
Put the money out for a JACK RABBIT.
(USN, retired)

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