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is she just too lazy to work?

my girlfriend needs a job badly, but the only jobs that seem to be available are the minimum wage jobs. which is 7.40, she has a small child that would need to go to daycare b4 school. her daughter is in school all day so I dont see why she keeps saying shes not gonna work for 7.40 and pay a babysitter 3.00 an hour. isnt some money better than none? or is she just to lazy to work? this has caused lots of arguments between us
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her x pays her 130.00 a week


2008-09-27 16:19:18 +0000
If she's in income assistance right now she receives a certain amount of money each month. When she goes to work for $7.40 hr and pays $3.00 an hr for the sitter then has to pay taxes and related expenses like transportation she would be working for only a couple dollars an hour....that isn't very appealing and in the end she would probbly have less money making it very very hard for her to support her family.
It's tough..and to be the only one responsible for the children and everything it is even harder....walk in her shoes for awhile.

2008-09-27 16:31:13 +0000
why would she keep a child if she doesnt wanna work? although i understand how risky it is to have too much stress, not too good for the health, but i guess she should try getting that minimum wage even for the meantime (so she could save up), but still find a better one while she's working. if she finds a better one then that's the time she'll resign in that minimum wage

2008-09-27 16:18:39 +0000
In a lot of cases people don't work simply because the cost of child care is so expensive. But, if she can get a babysitter for 3.00 an hour then I would think it would be worth it to get a job. Or, maybe she is just scared. A good friend of mine has a daughter that just started school. She was supposed to get a job after she started, just part time, but she hasn't done that. Part of it is because she is just scared. She has worked before, but for some reason she is afraid of it.
Personally, I don't know what I would do if I didn't work.

2008-09-27 16:17:49 +0000
explain to her everyone starts at the bottom unless she is able to learn a trade or obtain a degree. we were all there at one time. minimum wage was 4.35 when i started working in '95. she needs to establish a work history so employers will be willing to pay her more.

2008-09-27 16:26:27 +0000
this has been a Standard fight for the ages.... and coast a lot of marriages, you end up with one worker and one not. i have dated 2 female workers so far and both have rocked its just not to be long term , but we both had fun..if i knew then what know 15 year latter i would have walked then. so yea she need to either get a job or get into collage With scholarship money Free daycare from the state and a great job 2 year latter. will she look around the house and what she dose during the day when your gone and how much your have to do After a work day and answer your own question.
.. but like i said its a VERY old question. guilt Vs good guy. Good luck...

2008-09-27 16:52:58 +0000
Does she have a college degree? If not, then all she is going to get paid is minimum wage. Tell her to get over it and stop living off tax payers money.

2008-09-27 16:41:07 +0000
if you dont work and your kids are a school its pure laziness. what the hell do these women do all day.

2008-09-28 03:12:23 +0000
I would think some money would be better then none!! If she isn't willing to work for that wage, I think her only alternative would be to go to College and prepare for something better. xox

2008-09-27 16:18:43 +0000
she needs to get a job or go to school she is lazy

2008-09-27 16:19:52 +0000
She is replaceable is she? It depends on how much you love her.unhappiness is a killer you know?

2008-09-27 16:22:48 +0000
I think your gf needs to sit down and come up with a game plan.She consider going to school and working at a part time job. Therefore she can obtain a better paying job in the end. Even if she works enough to buy food, she needs to do something. I would move on and let her figure her life out. I know you care about her but she shouldn't be stressing you out.

2008-09-27 16:24:01 +0000
If she is not working, then how are the bills being paid? If she is getting government aid, she would probably lose it. A minimum wage job is not going to give her health insurance for she and the child. If she has that benefit through the government, she would also lose that. I tell ya, they have you coming and going. Sounds like she can't afford to take a minimum wage job simply by what she would be losing in benefits.

2008-09-27 16:25:51 +0000
I think she is lazy to work. I used to work as a staffing company. There are too many people like her who needs job badly. But whenever you offered one, they work only few days to make some money.
But that is her business. Sometimes she thinks it is not worth of working and make only $7.4-$3.00=$4.40 which I agree.

2008-09-27 17:54:35 +0000
she is lazy and trying to live of u,

2008-09-27 16:20:04 +0000
i think that she's just too lazy to work and just wants to be with her kids. she is very attached and can't let go. i would confront her and tell her she needs to get a job because while your are busting your butt working, shes wasting money that your making on gas, food, and shopping. i would tell her that if she doesnt get a job, you are leaving and she will have to make her own money. is she could pay a babysitter 3.00 then why cant she work for 7.50?

2008-09-27 16:19:10 +0000
She already has a job, a full time mom

2008-09-27 16:16:39 +0000
She sounds lazy. Some money is better than no money.

2008-09-27 16:20:24 +0000
Does she have family that can watch her kid so she can fully benefit from working? I mean she is right.. that 7.40 after taxes is next to nothing. Tell her to go find a good union job. My husband was unskilled when he got hired and STARTED at 23.00/hour and gets raises every 6 months! There are good jobs out there (even though so many have been outsourced!) but she's got to put a real effort into finding them and stop making excuses.
Also don't buy into the "climbing up the ladder" bs... if things were designed that way the system would collapse. Only a handful of people can "climb"...

-YEAH... luka makes a good point... where is the child support for this kid?

2008-09-27 16:23:22 +0000
if she can"t get a good paying job, all of her money would go to the baby sitter,the problem is where is the father? he is supposed to be paying child support,by law.

2008-09-27 16:16:17 +0000
she is looking for any reason not to get a job. she really needs to get over it!

2008-09-27 16:17:19 +0000
maybe she just wants to be a house wife, and doesnt see the point in working for what equals out to be less than 4 dollars an hour after you figure in babysitting and gas.

2008-09-27 16:24:58 +0000
I charge $8 an hour to babysit, don't know who you'd get for $3..... I'm 25, married, my husband doesn't want me to "work", so I babysit on the side, I like to make my own spending cash. Has she been working with WIC?

2008-09-27 16:16:50 +0000
In my opinion, any work is better than no work. She needs to get up and get a job.

2008-09-27 16:25:17 +0000
she is just lazy and probably wants u to take care of her. she should want to get a job. who is supporting the child?

2008-09-27 16:31:57 +0000
Sounds like my daughter ,I'm waiting for her to get a job,but nothing seems to satisfy her about like your girlfriend.And I could write a book on the arguments we have . I wish you luck my friend ,I really do

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