my wife is divorcing me after being married for 1 year. i'm 30 she is 24. how do i live without her? why?

ladylove79

Sometimes we have relationships that are for the purposes of teaching us what to do or not do the next time around. If she doesn't want you then nothing you do or buy will make her want you the way you want to be wanted. You can live without her just like you can live if your house with all your belongings it burned down. Don't waste your energy being sad while she's feeling rejuvenated.

misydoll

There is something wrong. You need to go to counseling or just take her out to a nice dinner and talk it out, have her tell you what is bothering her about you and address the problem.

Sister Margaret

You must have done something really bad. Do you drink, gamble or cheat? That is the main factors of divorce

marc r p

Sorry guy I know how you feel..I know this will not help, but you have to hang in there..If this were meant to be she'll be back..Stay focused on her and help yourself get thru the pain...My wife left me for two years and she couldn/t live without me and came back..While she was gone I was devestated and wanted to die too..
I hung in there and now all is well..HANG IN THER DUDE, YOU'LL BE OK........

Felecia Holly

In the Lawrence Livermore, Berkeley Campus of studies concerning our choice of mates, sometimes we make a mistake. Genesis 2: 27, I believe and if God made a woman for the man of his Glory, then there is a woman for you. What is important, always, is that the children aren't involved in the separation. And, furthermore, there is no separation up under the blue skies of a real God. You, two have just come into the fullness of the glory of the Spirit of God, or breath of God within you, that senses a irregularity. That before the time of this term of your being in God is extended too, far, you are able to metanoeo, repent rather into the God head of that real 'Help Meet'! It's not the End of Days, it's the beginning of God's Newness in the Day! Carbon, Hydrogen, Oxygen, and Nitrogen, and now realize your cohesive bonding, is REAL

B from LA

Stick with us. I have a slight feeling of what you are going through. My wife and I were within one inch of divorce too. Coupled to this I lost my wealth and was on the road to bankruptcy, which happened. Believe me, things did look pretty bleak.

But things got better, they always do. Don't be fooled by your bad feelings, they will pass, time will heal, life moves on.

Remember, feelings follow thoughts. Control your thoughts, and your feelings will follow. Choose to think more positively and your feelings will improve.

If you have children then things are indeed rough for you, but you must put your kids first. Ease their suffering and don't ever dis your ex in front of them.

If no children than that is a plus. Move on. Wait for several months if not a year then find someone else. Use your highly paid for knowledge and wisdom and find another woman and treat her right.

little_ms.knowitall

Maybe it's not about you anymore. Maybe she just wants different things for her life. You guys have been together for 7 years, so that means she was a teenager when you first got together. Think about when you were a teen and some of the things you thought were true back then, and think about how that's changed now that you're older. Maybe she's just come to the realisation that she wants her life to move in a different direction than yours. You sound like a great guy - committed and willing to work at a marriage, but maybe she's not in the same place as you in her life's journey.

carmel d

i 'msorry for what is happening to you but u know what they say :EVERYTHING HAPPEN FOR A REASON... if she is not willing to forgive you maybe she dont really want to be with you ,everybody make mistakes ,when you love u forgive .GOD know what is going on .if u too will not be 2gether maybe 1 day u will understand why ..and who knows u might be thankfull for it... this is what happen to my husband when he was married to his ex wife he was feeling the same way u feel .. he met me and i changed his life...so keep ur head up work ur best for it and if it doesnt work then dont worry god has something better for u.

what are the thingsd that happened in Ur marriage to get Ur wife so angry... don't blame God for Ur failed marriage... Proverbs 18:22 The man who finds a wife finds a treasure and recieves favor from the Lord. Did U treat Ur wife as the treasure God intended U to??? read also Gen 2:23, 1Corith 7:3 - 5, 7:32 - 34, Eph 5:23, 25 - 33... Look in the Word to get Ur marrage back on track...

Elizabeth C

First of all you sound like my dad.... my parents are getting a dirvorce after 29 yrs of being married and he keeps saying why is god letting her go. God has nothing to do with it...... if you want her back then do everything in the world to show her that your sorry and your willing to make it up to her. surprise her w/ little presents, take out for lunch, movie. you really can't get any help, this is something you and her can fix. i hope yall get back to gether and everything works out for the best.

chocolate

If she doesn't love you anymore, there is not much you can do. You just have to move on with the pain. If she love you, but living with you is a pain, then try to understand exactly what bothers her. Women don't always tell you the truth. Sometime they are just afraid the truth will hurt you more. Encourage her that truth is easier for you to take than not knowing what is going on. I am so sorry...But love is mutual, there is nothing you can do to make someone love you.

howardlee1977

you made your mistake, life goes on. Deal with it and don't make the mistake next time! You're still young!

I have a feeling your wife already gave you a second and third chance (and more). The fact you dont see that tells me you havent learned much. I hope you open your eyes. Until you do she will not consider taking you back.

Sounds like after 7 years she just got fed up with your mistakes. You probably finally went too far and that was it for her. All you can do now is use this as a lesson for the next lady you are with. Nothing is worth blowing a good thing for. Don't make the same mistakes again.

Monet

what did you do to make her divorce you. sounds like you are NOW learning from you mistake. Time to move on

Bungle

What sort of mistakes? And don't blame God.
Maybe you let her down so badly there is no return. You suddenly want to love her most now she is leaving you than when she loved you back.

tuxgal3

I'm sorry for what your going through. Don't wish yourself dead though. Try to sit down and talk to her...ask her what happened.
Seriously check out these links. These people have been through this and can possibly help you. I agree this had nothing to do with God. But if you turn to Him you can get through this

Scott

God had nothing to do with your situation. But since you brought it up, do you go to Church? and if so, have you sought spiritual counseling?

I would also pray for what you want and do not beride God for what is happening.

troys_wifey2003

Time and patience. Show her your feelings maybe she will find her way back to you. if not work on you and someday you will find the right person.

music_lover

Oh!!!!!
how sad!

talk to her and promise her you shall not do anything wrong again.
if something had hurt her, beg her to pardon you.
it is so painful i know. talk to her....talk to her..
i shall pray for you
what else can i do?

please don't think of death
My prayers are there

sophieb

you didn't tell us what mistakes you made or even if they were relevant to the marriage or if they were made prior to marriage, or what mistakes she made, or what was the problem in the marriage.

They say you don't know someone until you're married to them, and even after being married to someone for a long time you still don't know them. When you marry you get to see all the behind-the-scenes things that people don't show you when you're just dating, whether it be just friends or living together or engaged, etc. Did she see something that surprised her, or visa versa? Were either of you more or less demanding? Was marriage a disappointment (because in that 7 years you did everything so marriage left nothing new to try? except for children?)

Most times when people want to split it's because of money, kids, sickness, disappointment, jealousy, forcefulness and anger, or even going in two different directions (two different plans for life), or even religion. It doesn't have to specifically be something wrong with you that she wants to leave.

"Communication" and "toleration" is what keeps people together for 50 years or more. If you talk with a psychologist they will say the same thing. If you want forgiveness (for whatever you think you did) then get a minister's counseling.

katie w

k first of all.. you shoudnt b dead coz wether you like it or not.. the world woud NOT be the same without U!!:}
secondally.. she doest love you animore.. sorri if am bein harsh but its the truth.. if she did she would have given you another chance but she doesnt.. it seems very bad now but this is all part of the healing process.. am 100% sure that in a few months or weeks u will not be feeling like this and you will meet someone else.. that always happens.. but try and look afteryourself coz the onli person tht maters and the onli person you have tht loves u now is u .. so luk after yourself.. and be pateint.. good luck:}

Confussedhere

Please seek counseling - for yourself is she will not go with you. It sounds like you have some depression - see a medical doctor for some meds that will assist you get over the depression - Nothing to feel guilty about (depression) - so many people have it and deny it or refuse medications.
Try to go on with life (I know this is something hard to think of doing right now) but you need to solicalize and be involed in some other acitivies.

tammy c

What did you do? Did you Cheat? The damage is too big for that if you did. Try counselling, romancing, or communicating.

Sufi

no woman leaves a marriage without giving a second chance.
she has given you many chances which you did not take.
learn as much as you can from this for future relationships.
keep a journal.

Blunt Honesty

sounds like you have already had multiple chances. get some therapy. consider it a learning experience and move on with your life.

Chachi

If she's 24 then you started dating when she was 17. That's way too young to decide on a life partner.

Jet

God had nothing to do with the demise of your marriage.

iroc

you can't beat a dead horse, it won't respond anyway.

go find a new pony (a little older this time) and grow together not apart.

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