Why is it wrong to ask a military soldier if he's killed anyone?

AMAZING GRACE

no, it is not. ASK HIM!!!

Chesty Puller Lives

Lavadog has it pretty well covered.

I have read the decoration citations for several Marines, Airmen, Sailors and Soldiers that I have known in the American Legion and DAV. All were heroes by any definition and most were VERY subdued about their service in combat. Some passed away and THEN we found out that they were had Silver or Bronze Stars.

They never talked about their kills, it was always painful.

beazy

Why would you even ask that??? I think the ones that ask are the most idiot people in the world.

They are not proud of what they've done, they don't want to kill people and don't want to remember why! It was either the terrorist, or his team, which would help save more lives, while the terrorist would help kill more lives.

My 17 year old brother in law asked my husband and OMG I wanted to cry. I just hugged my husband tight. I HAVE never asked him and never will, I know it's happened, but he doesn't need more reminders of what happened over there. If he want's to let it all out, he will do it by himself.

Future Citizen of Forvik

Most of them are trying to live normal non violent lives inside of regular society. Asking those sorts of questions can trigger memories that are painful to them. We ask a lot from soldiers and there is not usually a good reason to bring up issues to add to their pain.

Hint the ones that talk the most are usually the ones who saw and did the least. The real killers are the ones you might not even guess served in the military because they never bring it up and avoid all conversations on the subject until some body around them who knows their story makes them talk. And then they usually only speak briefly.

j0oSse

your just asking but they think you should ask mor interesting questions its not all about killing...

Sergeant

its not that its wrong per se, its just not something we really enjoy discussing with someone who hasn't experienced the same thing. Like if you ask a firefighter if they ever saw someone burn to death in a fire or a police officer if they have ever had to shoot someone. Its not something we talk about outside our community because its private and personal and most people wouldn't know what to say. My actions have resulted in the death of a lot of people i dont talk about it but i dont feel guilty about it either.

Born.Under.A.Bad.Sign

Because it's a very personal question. If they have killed someone they are going to have a lot of mixed feelings about it. They might be ashamed, or feel guilt, or anger. It's a big deal, not something to be discussed lightly.

Brian

No right or wrong- just a class issue.

If you really think about it the military is a team, so yes all military have done their part in killing someone.

The price of freedom has been fought for, and defended by many brave men and women. We all owe them a heart felt- Thank You.

Bad Co.

Well out of respect for the soldier, I would not want to ask just because it might cause him more stress. The military don't need any more stress. They need love and acceptance when they get home.

Courtney =]

PTSD

Mr. Mastadonfarm

You could ask me.

Although, if you do not know who you're asking it is very inconsiderate.

Bo B

he's been through a lot and that's porbably a hard subject to talk about. my brother is in the militart and so is my cousin. they come hom and for months they are shut down, shocked about what they've seen.

amirul b

IT IS NOT FUN TO KILL PEOPLE BUT I THINK THEY FEEL KIND OF BAD TO KILLING PEOPLE BUT THEY HAVE TO( I KNOW SOME ONE IN A MILITARY.)

richard c

it just brings back memories that they dont need, why would u want to make someone have flashbacks nightmares or anything like that, that is the reason that u dont ask

DROOGIEâ™¥

i think because it
makes him/her remember
things they dont want to remember,
like they have possibilities of being traumatized

wetcpu

There is nothing romantic about combat. It is a terrifying, brutal experience and many soldiers have enough trouble coming to terms with it in their own minds without having to satisfy other people's morbid curiosity.

As was already said, its none of your business. If they want to discuss, they will bring it up. Otherwise, its off limits.

VanDee

Yes it is wrong.

Joe Joe Dancer

Its kinda like asking your grandma how many time a week she gets nasty.

Romy

I would think its rude because they dont want to kill people, and the fact that they have probably already give them nightmares and it already upsets them as it is... they dont want to be reminded!! I'm guessing!!

DUSTIN H

Because the killing of another human may have taken an enotional toll on them and a moment in life that they may be wanting to forget and they could still be coming to grips with it.

Mark C

Because soldiers do their jobs. Not saying that killing is a great thing, but most people that have to do it, dont want to reminded of it. Its just something they had to do to make it to the next day. People use the saying all time time. I want to join the military to kill people. I have heard this so many time, and the hard core ones that say this all the time are the biggest wimps when it comes down to putting lead down range. Think about it, if you killed someone, would you want to be asked about it all the time? You are going to get all types of responce's for this one. Once you kill someone, things start going through your head, like what about that persons family, what is that was me, did I do the right thing? These questions can not be answered, so it best not to try to bring them up.

Kristi

because its probably not one of their happier things to discuss

Crumblin' Erbs

because they don't feel good about it.

Kelly

cause they dont want to think back on that its tragic being over there as it is they dont want to re live it.

bailie28

because in most instances most have one way or another if they have been in a war zone..my husband has but has never pulled a trigger..its not something we talk about its understood..it is his job

mtchndjnmtch

There are some things you just don't talk about. That is a very personal thing.

Robert

The answer carries along a mental burden, that is painful to discuss.

it is in very poor taste, besides do you think its something they enjoy? or would be proud of?

Kandy

because its rude

TubCat

because its none of your business.

Perro De Lava

Its not wrong its just disrespectful..

Unless they bring it up you should respect him/her by not asking about it.

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