I just had an standoff with a neighbour who told me 'to go back to where i come from'?

WENDY AC	seems to me this woman has nothing else to do with her sad life. Take the letter to the police. Neighbour problems are a crime .

ucrazy	let it go for now and keep parking the way you park and then after you get more from her i then would go to the police and get herassment charges brought up on her . if your wife becomes ill again due to this womans ill manors i then would go back to the police and get the woman for endangering a small unborn child. hope this helps oh to really piss her off next time you see her coming park right in middle of road and act like your vehical rolled off that will piss in her wheaties.

Cyrus M	Incitement to racial hatred is now a criminal offence. Report it to the police. Racial abuse is also a criminal offence. I am a solicitor

jackie m	You can do her for Racially aggravated Conduct (breech of the peace) but please don't she didn't mean it, my hubby is waiting trial after abuse from an Asian guy and hubby told him to go back to where he came from, was arrested spent night in jail trial next week, if he gets fined he looses his job? so in the long run it might be another person added to unemployment list. So anyone thinking the same please stop and think of the consequences of charging someone - no wonder there is racial hatred in the UK, may I add if the Asian had said something to us nothing can be done.

mad keith	keep the letter go to the police thay will do her for race 8

summer	just park the car right. there is no need to argue with an old person. gee what is the matter with folks these days. no respect anywhere.

Tom	Was it a Paki telling you that?

PATRICK M	you come from Wales and yet choose!! to live in the Ase hole of Britain???? i came from that! hell hole to live in Wales. come back home mate. the people are much more relaxed in Wales. you wouldn't find me back in Britain its a stinking grubby country full of nasty judgemental mentaly diseased people. get yourself back among decent folk.

deble_2000	Always remember "what goes around, comes around" she doesn't know what she's doing, or she has too much time on her hands. She will get hers in the end. Ignore her.

Razor Jim	You need to learn to do as the natives, if you want to fit in. If you don't want to fit in, keep doing what you are doing..

kommandant kretin	send her as bunch of white lillies from interflora, as shes old she should get the significance of the gesture. its not as nice as it seems.

pugs5678	then ignore her dont fight call police people like that are stupid you can always move

Sweetharttt	Your pregnant wife certainly does not need this type of harrassment. Bring the letter in to the local police and see if you can at least get an order or protection which would keep her away from you and your family. I would not suggest writting a letter of retaliation as that would simply put you just as low on the ladder as that woman is. Hopefully all will work out soon. Congratulations, and best of luck.

Lori K	Ahhhh...neighbor problems. What do you think the police are going to do? Arrest her for "being mean"? I seriously can't imagine how you could possibly "take the matter further". This doesn't constitute legal harrassment.

Jock	I'd report her to the police for harrassment. You've got the letter she sent to back you up.

Callie	File the letter with the police as harassment. If something else occurs file it as well... Then take out a restraining order. Followup. Anything you do with the letter like wiping your buns and throwing it in her face may allow her to file an incident report on you; then you would look like the aggressor.

Cylon	Call the police mate.

SONIA L	report it to the police and if it continues get a solicitor to type a 2 page letter to inform her the penalities of harrasing a 5 month pregnant women

jacquishields	Hi there, I personally would keep this letter as evidence, and also start keeping a record of anything else (if it happens) regarding them. I would personally do nothing at this stage, and just see if she does? Even keep records showing how this is affecting your wife, and if you do get to the point were legal advise is needed, you'll have evidence to show. This is a sad world were people now A days, believe they have the right how to tell others how to live. Chin up, if your honestly not doing any harm to her, or blocking her home, she will have no case to answer to, and she will be the one who looks an idiot. Is there other neighbour's your friendly with who might also be having this problem with them? Might be worth finding this information out, then you can back each other up. Good luck

Jojotraveller	If there is a lot of racist conotation in the letter then I would certainly give it to the police. Even if they only go and warn her, it would probably scare the living hell out of her. However the best way to get to this nasty scum is to completely ignore them. Ask if your neighbours have had anything from this stupid woman, if they have then it's probably time to take proper action against her. A horrible situation to be in, but people like that should not be allowed to bully other people.

supashopper	This woman is bigoted, ignorant and vindictive and does not deserve a response from you. Ignore her for now but if she continues to persecute you and your wife, call the police - there is no excuse for behaviour like this. Harrassment is an offence, as is defammation and (in the event that she tries to get others to support her) inciting racial hatred (assuming either you or your wife belongs to a different racial group from her). Good luck and try not to let her get to you!

Bert T	I see bigotry here, but not a "hate crime" scenario. As your wife is enciente, you are right to be concerned, and I would suggest two things. Show a copy of the letter this woman stuck under your door to the local constable or police. In any future dealings with this neighbor, it has become better than eyewitness testimony to videotape every time you are dealing with this neighbor face to face. That way, if a trial or charges are ever necessary, you have a documented trail of evidence showing what you do during these encounters, but more importantly, what SHE does. This does not give you licence to provoke a situation for the benefit of the video. You must act as an adult would, if you expect that same behavior in others. If she perceives you are parking your cars (we ARE talking about London, after all, I understand parking is as precious there as it is in New York City) in a way which causes her inconvenience, two reasonable adults should be able to come to terms maturely, without insults and acrimony. You two are more than likely going to be neighbors for the foreseeable future, which could translate into years. Do you want to spend all that time having fights and playing "One-Up-Manship" games? For the sake of your wife, who needs as little stress as possible, and the sake of your coming chilld, show a good example.

rogerbondage007	walk over to her house..roll up the letter she wrote you..wipe yer ass with it ..and throw in inher face..tell her to mind her own business.and tell her if she ever comes over to YOUR house agian to start trouble..you will have her arrested as a racist Drrog...I would slap her across the teeth too but that is too harsh maybe?..I hate racist folks..and remind her WALES is part of the great british empire also

Guevara	Well take care of the problem as an adult... don't be worried how she is going to react just go up to her and start a conversation and let her know how you feel and that this isnt a way of resolving a problem but more escalating it... I mean who writes on a piece of paper aside from kids thats still in schol.... cough* bush*cough.... well I hope you take care of the problem...

andy c	explain to her that its your duty as a decent human being to be there, they obviously need descent blood in there breading stock.

Jeff	I am not up on British law; but I would just ignore her if possible. Some people meddle in others business just because they have no life of their own. If you pursue anything it might just give her the attention she is looking for. Having said that if her harassment continues to threatening your wife or your unborn child's health, you have to do what you have to do!!

Scarlett	Report the old trout to the police. I would!!!

bigjon5555	very simple.just tell her to go to hell.where did she come from.maybe she should go back to where she came from.because we all came from somewhere.that;s why the world is in such a mess.because people won;t mind their own business.sounds like that women is just a trouble maker.

BlueLadyBlue R	She is an ignorant old racist. Smile and wave at her whenever you see her. The best defence and offence is smiling and looking totally happy with life. She is the sad one. Do not let an old bigot ruin your happiness. Its a shame but they are out there. They are bitter and filled with hate. God listens and there will be pay back time for her trust me.

bugaboo	Take no notice.. That'll get her going even more..

t3h2	just ignore them completely, thats what i would do.

livinhapi	report her to the cops for discriminations.

samuelle50	This is harassment. i would call the authorities to get advice.

Boiled Egg	Type her a three page letter on how she ought to keep her nose out. Or report her to the Police for harassment.