16 and asked to be married......?

thumper	sounds like he is afraid of losing you to someone else when you get into high school .sounds as if he maybe a control freak as well,if you do marry him you will divorce within a year .tell him to trust you or to get a life without you in it.

sharen d	You are too young to marry.Give yourself time to enjoy being young first.If it is meant to be for you to be married to this guy then it will happen.And don't let anyone tell you.You will lose Him if you don't marry him now.If he truly loves you he will wait for you.

Deb H	Please don't get married yet. You're so young, and ideas change. He needs to go to college and so do you. How are you going to pay the rent, utilities, insurance, medical, dental, car, etc. when you don't have decent jobs? How are you going to support your family? Look at the odds of young people getting married. 90% of them divorce within the first 2-3 years. You're only suppose to do this once. Get it right the first time. If he's pressuring you to get married now, tell him you want to wait until you've done at least 2 years of JC at least. Don't you want good things in your life? Talk to your parents. Have him talk to his. I know he says that this will be forever, and actually I have some friends that started dating when they were both Freshmen in high school, and 35 years later, they are still happy. It can work, but so worth waiting for. If it's fate that the two of you be together, then it will happen. If it doesn't, then Que sera, sera. (What will be, will be.) Please wait.

kirbyluv	I'm 17 and my bf asked me to marry him. But I'm still in school and have another year to go. Live your life first, go to college and sart your career than see if you two are the same and still love eachother like you do now than take the step. Wait till you are at least 20.

Cutie Pie	if you see yourself being with him for another 5 then accept but you dont have to run down to city hall as soon as you slide the ring on you still have another waitng period til the actual wedding. . .good luck

Jesse's Girl	Well if you really feel its the right thing for you guys then accept. But alot of childhood sweethearts don't usually make it through marriage. Maybe you wil maybe you won't. I suggest a long engagement. Be engaged for a couple of years and see how it works out, if it does and you still want to marry him then go for it.

kathyw	If you do decide to get married, have a very long engagement, at least. That will give you both a chance to get through a huge milestone - which is graduating from high school.

shay	If you really love each other waiting at least until you graduate won't hurt.

redflower	It's nice that you have a long term relationship, but at 16 your way to young, you should experience life more. How will you support yourselves, where would you live? What happens if you get pregnant, no matter how careful you are it can happen, at 16 you should be enjoying life, not possibly changing diapers. Do either of you know how to cook or clean. Do either of you know how to budget your money? How would your parents feel about you getting married and his parents, how do you think they would feel. What's his rush? My cousin and her husband knew each other since the sand box, they were always together. They married in there early twenty's and now have grown children and I'm happy to say still together. If they married at your age I doubt it would have lasted.

dlgwill68	Child wait!!!! Marriage is a serous comment. Finish school first, get a job. Once you get your life set then think about marring someone.

beach babe	do what you feel is right and stick to it!

Tweety	You're both way too young to get married right now. Continue dating for another 5-6 years, and then if things are still going well between you, he can propose to you then.

Colleen O	Well depending on where you live you're too young to get married.

Owen E	DUH SAY NO I'M TOO YOUNG I NEED TO FINISH SCHOOL FIRST GIVE ME TEN YRS.

mommy anie	Enjoy life, besides you can always be with him if you wanted to. But being committed / married to him is another issue, there are more restrictions.If you plan on living in with him try not to have any children so if ever you feel like ending your relationship you can easily go through it.You're still young anything can still happen.Enjoy life while your still young.

lacey	I think you answered your own question! If you don't know what you want then marriage is not the answer! You sound unsure and if your unsure then go with you gut! It doesn't mean that you cannot,t get married later (like in 5 years or more!). People change and can grow apart over time. He sounds like he is trying to just hold on to you. He is making a big step leaving school and going off into the world and may just want to know that you will be there for him! If that is all then let him know that you will but marriage doesn't sound like it is the answer! Best of luck:)

forgivebutdonotforget911	So you are saying you started "dating" this guy when you were 11? You have puppy love and have not out grown it. You are also still too young to get married. Finish high school. If he does not want to wait until you finish, he is the wrong guy for you. (Don't ask me what I think of your parents allowing you to date at age 11......)

me	Well you can say yes and just be engaged until you finish school. The get married after school.. I was 17 when I was engaged and I was a Senior. I graduated in May 02 and married in Oct 02..

Scandguard	Personally I think you are too young to get married. If you do decide to marry you, I wish you best of luck. Now here is the bad news. According to some state laws (check on your local state law), you have to be 18 to marry. You have to ask your parents' permission to marry. You are still a minor. sorry.

chris n	to young

Krazy	wait there is soo much more to do then get married at your age wait till after college and if you still do then go for it

â™¥The Mrs.â™¥	First your parents have to approve. But I think 16 is very young. How will you support yourself? How will you finish school? Will you finish school? Do you plan on going to college? I honestly think it would ruin your life because of financial obligations. You will find that a job right out of high school will not be able to support two people. I think you should get engaged and wait until you are out of school and have a stable job. If you plan on going to college you need to wait until you are out of college. I am telling you this from experience. My husband proposed to me when I was 20 and a sophomore in college. I honestly think that if we would have gotten married then I would not have finished school. Become a stable individual first. You will be together the rest of your life, when you marry is not that important. Good Luck

emtb9	Wait for a couple of years, and if you want to be married to him then, then do it... the thing is, if you have been with this guy that long, then you haven't really experienced life.. I know this, because I married when I was 17, and let me tell ya, I didn't know what I was getting myself into. I dind't realize it until later, I missed out on life. Best of luck to you!

dawnb	If I were your parents,this would be an obvious no. And I don't get that you have had a boyfriend since you were 11ish. You are a child and you have no idea about life,marriage, commitments, children, careers, etc. Get a grip, get smart, finish high school, get into college, and even then it's tough to make a life decision such as marriage. Don't be a smuck and idealize some high school crush into a liffe long commitment. It doesn't happen. Grow up and then make grown up decisions. Marriage is not some idealized form of dating. It is a serious adult commitment. you haven't reached that avenue and won't for years.

Wiser1	Why would you get married at 16? Does he want a wife who is not fully educated? You can't get a good job without a high school degree. In fact, you should go to school beyond high school...both of you...if you possibly can. When you become a mother you want your children to have a smart, educated and well-trained mama who can support them if Daddy ever leaves, right? No matter how much you love this guy, if he is worth it, he will wait until you are 18 or older. My suggestion is to wait until you are at least 20. You are going to change your mind about a lot of things in the coming years. You don't want to be divorced by 18. Tell him "not yet."

dior.junkie	Yeah, how no.

jezyka	You're WAAAAAAAAY too young!!!! This is crazy ridiculous!! You haven't had a chance to really grow up yet!!! You'll both change a lot after going to college and whatnot!! My ex and I had been together about as long as you had at that age.....and then were together about three more years after that.... We both changed a lot, and things didn't work out. I'm not sure what he's up to nowadays, but I'm happily married. My life would have been completely ruined had I stuck with him. Don't make this kind of decision yet....especially if you have to go online to a bunch of complete strangers to see what they think...

Freaked out	You are way to young, trust me. I'm 21 and who I was when I was 16 is not who I am today. You will change a lot during the next 5-10 years. I don't even know if it's legal to get married that young, but I wouldn't advise it. I think you should stay with him and get to know him and yourself better. What's the rush anyways? He might feel that since he is graduating, he wants to have some stability in his life and something settled. There's nothing wrong with that, but I still think something as important as marriage is worth waiting for. Good luck.

lindor1029	yea... you guys need to wait, statics show that more then half of high school sweet hearts that marry end up divorced.

road runner	wait about 10 years and if you both feel the same way. then go for it