20 yrs into marriage & husband leaves for other woman says he feels something for her that hes never felt f me

lulubaby_77	He has met someone that has made him feel complete, brings out the best in him.

Smudgeward	I expect he's just forgotten, as you do.

sneeky one	It's just something different/new to him. Over the years we tend to get relaxed and use to each other (The same ole; same ole) Once the newness wears off and he realizes were his heart truly is and that he would rather have the same ole; same ole, because of the memories, the time, the sweat and tears invested in the relationship, he'll try to come back. Its up to you if you want to let him back. You may even realize during your time apart that you aren't/wasn't happy with him either. That you too can find in someone else, what he found in her. He may have done you a favor.

ft3535	sorry really sorry take him for alimony money..and keep the whole house..

momfromtheSouth	shoot em!!!

JoJo	He probably been seeing her, but that does not sound right what he said, just throw him out! And what that means is that the other lady does things in ways he doesn't see you do, just be happy for what you got and forget about that guy.

sarah	sounds like he just wants to try something new. tell him you love him. ask him does our marriage not mean more than this to you? if he still walks away, move on. if he does'nt love you enough to stay, maybe he was staying for other reasons. but that is a long time, to be with someone, to just walk away.

greeneyedprincess	This guy probably has a deeper emotional connection with her than you. This happens to a lot of guys because they are so immature when they are younger that they get together with women for shallow reasons and have relationships based on the wrong emotional foundation. Alternatively, this guy could just be past his prime and freaking out about it, trying to prove to himself that he's still an attactive, vibrant man who ISN'T going to die in fewer years than he's already lived (mid-life crisis, etc). Or it could be a combination of the two. 20 years is a long time to just throw away, so I suspect there have been problems for a very long time, and in typical guy fashion he's kept his mouth shut to both of your detriment. You can view this as a setback or a liberation. It's a matter of outlook and perspective.

oclori5150	hope you don't have kids @ home...usually means the ^%&%^%##@ is getting something different or ur being 'traded' for a younger model. success is the best revenge!! go be or do something you never could while with him and start ENJOYING life...it'll be difficult at first maybe...but it gets easier..... good luck!!!

mygirl971	the only thing he feels for her is lust....and don't let him fool you he felt it for you too......It was just 20 years ago and he doest remember....do something special to stir the pot and bring those memories back...remember men sometimes think with the wrong head! And if you can't then just move on trust me honey..there really are more loyal loving men out there. You see my 1st husband left me after 19 yrs of marraige for a younger women...and I realized after lots of ups and downs he did me a great favor.

ANGEL-T	Forget about him honey, you deserve better after 20 years. He is probably having an ego trip. Karma has a way of getting back. Move on, dont analyse what he says as it will just be hurtful. Make sure you get involved in some social events, classes etc, get back out there. Get that spark back into your soul.

Jim	DON'T FEEL BAD LADY HE IS JUST ANOTHER OLD GUY WITH THE WANDERING EYE --YOU DESERVE BETTER ---

HL	20 years of marriage is a long time...and its a shame that your marriage ended after so long together. I just think that he means, perhaps he fell out of love with you, or frankly he was looking for someone else. I wouldnt look into it too much... Surely it would only hurt and upset you even more? I would try to move on and not to dwell on the past.If you really wnat answers, then perhaps you should ask him. Did he cheat on you? Personally you deserve better, and perhaps your better off without your ex husband...? As, if someone is prepared to leave his wife of 20 years for someone else (for no apparant reason) other than this, then it is quite pathetic. You deserve better! Good luck xx

ERIC C	he has always been a bum, you never knew it. prob been seeing others for a while.

Aurora	That he doesn't love u as much as he acts.

PAPA SMURF!!!	Sux, but you might meet somebody that makes you feel better than he ever did too.

angieasee64	He's a man suffering from mid life crises. I'll wager a bet that it's for someone younger than you! Get the he!! out! He doesn't deserve you!

Miss. Advice	Mid Life Crisis...make him **** his pants by marrying and ashton kutcher wannabe :D

~sweetest~	Um......eat some cake, sweetie!

notyou311	He's going through a mid life crisis and thinks he can start over. He may come to his senses but don't count on it.

Veronica r	he got some head

jhall_photography	He wasn't in a mid life crisis for the last 20 years and now he is.