A guy that I'm completely in love with broke it off with me because he said he's too old for me? Help!?

terminateit	i think he wants an older mature woman...

dragonfireresurrected	unless you are a Philippina, i would venture to say it is a crush he is wise beyond his years

Pixie	Play it cool, don't be so desperate to show him. You need to come across independent, mature, self assured and confident. He obv wants a woman not someone who acts like a little girl. If he loves you he will want you back. who cares about age?

compdude32@yahoo.com	You cannot force him to see you as being serious. All you can do is to show him by your actions. Don't let it drop, tell him you love him and that you are not giving up on this. Show him you have no interest in other men. Sit him down and simply tell him what is in your heart. DESCRIBE what you feel, don't just tell him in simple word. Really describe it. Hope this helps. Good luck to you.

NiceGuy	The old "Sorry, but we have to break up - it's not you - I just have issues that I need to work out". Problem is, he will Always be 16 yrs older than you. Translation: He's not that into you.

Heart2Heart	I don't mean this to sound rude...He is almost 40 he's been through things in life, you only "think" happens to others so to speak...Your not seasoned in life yet, he could "raise" you. I'm sure he really does not want that type of relationship...You don't CONVINCE someone to love you, one thing that marks your "tender" years...You'll understand later in life...But, he is doing what is the very best thing for him. He said, forget it...if he was truly interested for a long term thing, he wouldn't have done that...Most "men" don't play those kind of games at that age. Just move on and find someone from your own generation. Take care... : )

Neo Nicht	Er... wow. Deja vu. Anyway. It could be a lot of things, really. First of all, older guys know what they and their female counterparts were like when they were much younger, and they may not want to vicariously relive that stage, or have to deal with any consequences incurred by the person they're dating. Or it's possible that his peers have discovered that you two are together and do not approve. He may be worried about the way their opinions of him might be affected by the fact that he's banging someone half his age. If he was previously married, it's possible the ex wife may have found out and threatened to keep his children away from him for being a "pedophile" -- he doesn't qualify of course, but we're talking about someone who would be inclined to exaggerate here! Or perhaps it's something else altogether, and he is blaming it on your age difference because he doesn't want to have to tell the truth (like maybe he's found someone else, or come to the conclusion that you two aren't very compatible). The sad truth is, if he really loved you THAT much, he would not be willing to part with you for ANY reason. I know that's not what you were hoping to hear, but it's the truth, like it or not. Having said that, I hope you two wind up living happily ever after somehow. But I doubt it's going to happen.

anne-laure S	16 years is a lot. He must realise that you're only 22 and that you need to experience lots more in this life. He is thinking of you and your own good. That's a genuine thought. Now maybe you should try and look around. Let him wonder for a week or two. Have fun and try out new things. Go back to him after that time and tell him that nothing or noone else interests you and that you really want to stay with him. Why fight against what you guys have when so many people fight to get what you have?

PHA Q	Maybe you are too immature for him. With a 16 yr age difference, maybe he feels like he is dating his daughter or something. Find someone your own age. You dont NEED to convince him --- maybe you are lacking a father figure in your life?

â™¥Lilyâ™¥	He is a little bit too old...but if you really love him [truly], you need to express that you care for him in a way that he would understand. No one can tell you how, because only you know him personally. He probably believes he did the right thing. There is a huge age difference there. I'm 22 as well..and people our age are still sort of immature..despite what others may say. He is probably different from you..and he notices it. I don't know what to tell you..just talk to him and convince him you want to at least give it a chance..

â™¥Sabreâ™¥	Well first off you cant be with someone who doesnt want you around. and maybe he feels as though he is stopping you from being young.. who knows -

Wrenchman57	Move on and grow up some more. This man is wise to recognize that you are to far apart in age.

The Wise Answerer	are you sure he is not using age as an excuse to end the relationship? sit him down and have a heart to heart talk. ask him how you can prove to him, that you are mentally old enough for him. if he will not budge then just move on.

Laura	Convince him age is nothing but a number.

handsofgold79	That's a cop out from him he just doesn't want to be with you anymore and maybe finds you to be immature and that he doesn't have things in common with you. Let it go. He will be to old to have children with anywayz . He is old enough to be your dad! and if you need to convince someone then there not for you! Let it go!!!!

Sexy Beast	if he really loved you then it wouldn't matter. he should have thought of that before he even started

Bear B	i would sit down and try and talk to him and explain how u feel and try and make him believe. if he doesnt want to believe you then maybe u should move on and sooner or later he will realize he lost something good. hope that helps

ZackyBear	Sadly, he's right. It's not my place, but you're 22. Girl's hearts take a looong time to mature. Wait a few years, see what happens. But he obviously just doesnt want to hurt you.

sherrie w	i had the same problem i told him age aint nothin but a number and he eventually came back to me

April S	It sounds like that could just be a nice way of breaking it off with you. Relationships with that age difference are hard..you are both at 2 different times in your life.

~Divorced Mother & Proud!~	get the hell over him kid

Ado M	You should go for someone your own age. That is a 16 year old difference. He could be your father, and it probably makes him uncomfortable. No means no.

Vicky	Don't chase after him all too much or nag him or what not, that would probably annoy him. Just every once in a while, go after him and let him know you still love him. Love takes time. Maybe after a while, he would realize that you're serious.

No Name now loves HOBOS <3	He is too old for you, though.

brenda:)	he's probably married lol my mums 38 n has a 19 yr old n 14 yr old lol sotz kidd(:

Tia	I'm sorry to say, it doesn't matter how YOU feel - he obviously doesn't feel the same way back.

speshal	maybe he's gay

beautiful	he is being honest with you & you do not need to be with someone who does not love you 100%