A question for married people who don't cheat?

kim h	I do not have a problem not cheating. I can appreciate a good looking man but I have never been tempted to go beyond looking.

raymond m	I don't even try to turn off the attraction, I just don't act on it. I have never avoided temptation, but I could never disrespect the person I am married to or break the promise I made. I have had many opportunities and invitations but have never found it difficult to resist.

bootsontheroad	It has to do with respect, self respect. I could not look at myself in a mirror were I to do that. I value myself and my self esteem more than to do something that far against my principles.

<~EK~>	you are always gonna be attracted to other people. if you are married, it's hard to be around large groups of singles who bang everything in sight because you may not be able to resist the temptation to do the same. i only hang out with other married couples. you can be friends with people that are attractive; you dont have to do them.

Blunt	I have never found anyone attractive whatsoever other than my husband. It helps that is smoking hot, athletic and extremely handsome, he is also fun, educated, considerate and great conversation.. no one else can measure up to him. Everyone else looks like chopped liver to me. Good luck

ASKBiblitz	Fear of lethal or long-term STDs!

Optimist	Follow the attraction. You will find that it's not actually that easy to have an affair.

mR. k	You can't allow your self to get personally involved with other men. Keep personal stuff about your spouse to your self. Your husband should be your best friend. Don't talk to other men as you would your husband. I find it easy not to be attracted to other women. I know i have too much to lose if i break my vows.I couldn't live with myself knowing that i destroyed my marriage and my family. What would my kids think of me? Its not worth it and for what? You would have lost more than you gained.

Mr O	i like to stare at hot chicks, but i'm not going home with anyone but my wife. I have values.

Lee	People who don't cheat on their partner, whether married or not, don't turn anything off. What they do instead is communicate with each other. Even if you find someone attractive, which happens all the time in my relationship, you talk about things. Finding people outside of the relationship attractive and completely normal. As to how these temptations are avoided I find that "Sorry, but I'm married / have a partner" works adequately well enough. For situations where temptation is being offered "guilt free" it's a matter of thinking about costs. Not financially of course but emotionally to your partner, you, your families, children, friends. More often than not this cost is too high so the temptation isn't tat great after all. Sometimes however the temptation is immediate and almost undeniable. Again it is a matter of thinking about consequences and ramifications. Mostly it is best to avoid a temptation situation as in today's society we are addicted to the quick fix so prevention is better than cure.

raynestar3	It's about loyalty. Of course I am attracted to otehr people, but I don't WANT them the way I want my man. So even if the attraction is high, it's real easy to draw a line and not cross it because at the end of the day I want to be able to look myself in the eye. It's really not that hard at all. The idea of betraying and breaking the heart of the person I love is actually the biggest turn-off I can think of.

But Inside I'm Screaming	Of course I find other men attractive. But vows are to be taken seriously. I respect myself and my partner too much to do anything to ever jeopardize what we have.

Jennifer	Cut off all ties with that person if you can. Communicating with that person will help your mind entertain the thought and possibility of cheating. Everyone at some point or other has either thought about cheating and has been faced with the temptation of cheating and for most people no, it's not easy at all to walk away because we're human and we have needs. It's especially difficult if those needs aren't being met by your spouse. If that's the case, I would most definitely talk to your partner about it. Remember why you married your spouse to begin with and the damage it will do to your marriage and anybody else involved. (Kids especially)

darkhorse234	I've been with my p for 10 yrs, I have never cheated. He cheated on me not just once, I have found ppl attractive, but I haven't really flirted or anything, I was willingly faithful, it just came natural, even up to the end i have been. He's moving out at the end of the month... ...I love him, but i'm not in love with him anymore. He hurt my heart..lots. I tried to be with him even though.... I know that if i were in another relationship i would once again be faithful - it's not hard for me. It gave me the most pain I ever felt..i would never do that to anyone

JOJO	a saying "Mind over matter".

Jessy	Simple--people who cheat have NO integrity. I made a vow and I meant it when I said it.

alex07	I been tempted before but would stay faithful bc the image of my gf is too beautiful. Must carry the image of your partner in your heart n in your head.

Integra Type R	As a man-if your wife is taking care of you and giving you love and support, treating you with respect and love, there isnt any reason to cheat. Sure you look at other girls, that is normal. You are still attracted to them, but if you have a good wife you dont DO anything to mess that up. Cheaters usually do so because their wives are not treating them with respect and the attention they need-so they get it other places. Women focus on the "act" of cheating as a qualifier to what a man did as "bad" but the process is as much emotional as physical for a man. The "new" woman makes him feel inportant and appreciated and gives him the attention that he is obv not getting at home. In most cases it is the wife's fault. why are you people giving me thumbs down? Cant handle the truth? My wife is awesome-Im just telling you how things go wrong!!

Its a Jack attack!	When you are married, you cheat on your friends, kids, and family as well as your spouse. When you think about the consequences, it's easy to shut down the attraction.

ijcoffin	When you love your spouse, cheating does not even enter the mind!!

Nick	Devote yourself entirely to your spouse and take your vows seriously. I've been married ten years and still can't imagine a more perfect woman than my wife

Latin G	are you saying u've cheated??? it's not fair to ask a young married couple.. ask one that's been in the grind for at least 10 years or more... when u figure it out.. please let me konw..

sweet girl	The Best thing is spend time with your spouse avoid people you are attracted to

Sheniquah Loves Facebook	How about I don't wont to risk what good I have going on and plus, there's a lot of social diseases floating around.