After 21 years he found me but I am married?

Tug	That depends on your heart. I've been there and gave up the one true love of my life, one that I haven't forgotten to this day, because I just didn't belong anymore. - Tug

crazyt324	Stay with the one you committed your life to. The grass always looks greener on the other side, but rarely is.

Alesha	If there was someone else you wanted to be with, you shouldn't have married the man you're with now. You need to stop focusing on this other guy, because you do love your husband, don't you? And he doesn't deserve that. But if you can't stop focusing on him, don't drag your husband along. That's not fair to anyone involved.

Cracker Jack	You married your husband, not him. Seriously. If the love was so great, you would've married him instead.

=3MC=	Fck your childhood sweetheart, if you then feel like its a phase theats passed over then voila, but if it was as wild as you had hope or even better then you and your current husband might need to talk (Don't tell him you fcked him!).

Katelyn	No one on here can tell you what to do when it comes to this, it has to be your own decision. I've gone through something similar and I stayed with my boyfriend and later on i realized i was just excited to have something new going on in my life. It was exciting to have a different guy want to be with me and find me attractive and i almost confused that with love. I stayed with my boyfriend and I am very happy. I wish you the best of luck with your decision and all i can tell you is to follow your heart!

Mrs. P	Stay with your husband. I had this thing happen to me after 13 years of not seeing each other and he had been the first I wanted to marry. We were single so I did marry him two months later. It lasted 15 months. He had traded in one set of problems for another and was the same messed up guy I had left years earlier... You are lucky to find a good man- this is just a test from satan. Your husband will reward you with love and honesty in many years to come.

Takanori	Would this man stay with you through it all? Do you not love your husband? Teenage love...or your current life partner?

stupendous	OK, so answer me this. Are you the same person you were 21 years ago? So what makes you think that this long lost love is going to work out? Trust me, what you are feeling is not love, it is romanticized fiction. You have built this guy up, maybe because he took your virginity, and made him into something he has no chance of being. I would suggest that you have known your husband long enough to fall in love and marry him. If the plan was for you and this romeo from the past to be together, he would have shown up about 4 years and 1 month ago. Too little too late. Let it go.

SusieQ	Stay with the man you are married to and have a commitment to. While the other guy might seem like a fantasy compared to your current life with your husband, that fantasy would quickly die once you start picking HIS underwear up off the floor, too. I guess what I'm saying is...we all have fond memories of our first love. I know I do. But that was over 20 years ago. We grow, we change, we become different people. You two might not even be compatible anymore. Leave the past in the past and realize it's just a fantasy. Good luck.

Kiss	HUSBAND! He should have told u sooner. anyways, he might have changed. He might be a freak or whatever. I Agree with the first girl. HUSBAND! PERIOD!

*~Mama-of-Two~*	If you truly loved your current husband then you wouldnt even need to ask for advice. You need to consider if your marriage is really as happy as you think. Remember that your past love is not the same man you once loved. You dont even know him now! How do you know if you could ever make it work with him? A teenage romance is way different than an adult marriage. I think you need to start acting your age and quit fantasizing about what might have been.

dka2012	He's not the same guy you were in love with just as you aren't the same woman he was in love with. I'm sure you get the rush when you are together but that will fade and more than likely you will realize that you don't gel all that well anymore and will have given up someone you obviously work well with and then can't go back to.

Blobbie	I have a feeling that we're going to be seeing more of your story in a few years on America's Most Wanted.

enny	the one you have loved all your life...i am hopelessly romantic...who do you love more and want to be more with

darkabysskitty	stay with you current husband. people change hes probably not the same person you've been in love with all your life

ipnez	You only love the man he was 21 years ago. Forget him. Don't be silly.

citizen21st	If u have children, the former, if not then also the former !

michelle s	If that other guy isn't with someone yet it probablly means he has issues.talk to your husband about your weird feelings, If he loves you he will tell you what he thinks.

Saccharin81	No one here can tell you what to do on that one. i would pray and ask for guidance on what you are supposed to do.

chax	what a horrible situation to be in. if you dont love your husband, then leave him

Something Needs Changing	Sorry, but if you loved someone else, why did you get married? And what about the last four years? Were these just to take up your time? and finally.... He or you left before....it will happen again

Deftones420	only you can honestly make that decision. Depends on how much you love your current husband.

Alyssa	Better stay with the man you married.

The Bobster	Your poor husband. Leave him, he deserves better.

jenni j	Lose the fantasy and stay with your husband, you don't really know the other man. Its too risky

lipstick	the question is: who do u want to be with the rest of your life?

Kakkorot	Your a MP, why dont you claim for them both?

Kirsten	Stick with your husband. Period.