Am I crazy for feeling this way?

billy25685	you have built up a tolerance towards what used to excite you about him or your relationship has bocome a monotonous daily recurrance. Think about what you loved about him , why you chose him and go do something that you used to do when dating.

Uncle Tim	Ever hear of the seven year itch? - You've got it. Two cures that I am aware of.... one - have an affair, could be disastrous or the perfect fix. two - go into counseling with your hubby to see if you can find what you need with the man you are with. Good luck

akgirl1105	if u really didnt love him u would be divorced by now (probably)

Blunt	Married too young, kids happend and now the seven year itch. Go to counseling now.

Sander	Have you ever sat down and thought what is really important to you as a person and as a wife? What do you want out of a marriage? What do you expect out of him? What do you expect from yourself? Have you sat down and talk about this with him? If you don't know what the answers are to the questions, or if you have other questions on your mind that you don't have answers for. Then maybe you should seek some professional help that will help you solve some of the questions. I know it will be easier to quit your marriage, but don't you think it just might be worth saving. It is real easy to take each other for granted. To stop doing the little things together. To let the other know how much you both mean to each other. There are times when we get into a rut and forget to say how you feel about the one you love. Just remember it takes two to make a marriage work, but only one to destroy it.

stoneriprock	Divorce, even if it is a peaceful one, is heartbreaking. Do whatever possible to put your mindset back to the place where it was when you decided to marry. Avoid, at all costs, loosing someone you love.

BrowBrat	You made the right choice at age 22. Stick with it because you love your hubby. Sometimes, we all feel as if we don't care for our spouses for a short period but then love reenters the picture and we know that we made the right choice. Keep the faith girl and love your hubby for better or for worse. Thank you for your question.

Q~T	Remember when you vowed for better or for worse? This sounds like a for worse. Is it really worth it to you to give it all up. Before you make you decision weather you should stay with him or not try some counseling. I know that's what everyone is going to tell you, but you must have loved him at some point and wanted to be with him forever if you married him. You need to find out why that changed and try to fix it. Or you can just stay with him and get a girlfriend!!! Just joking he he

azheelshock	Take this question, print it out, and hand it to your husband later. Save copies for your kids so you can give each of them one when they are older. That way, everyone involved will know it was you who tanked on the marriage and threw away what should have lasted for a lifetime.

ntoriano	It's the 7 year itch. Go look it up and get counseling. Getting married young is an alibi. I bet you feel you are two different people now or have grown apart. Well, I'll tell you now that is BS. What did you think a marriage at 7 years would be like? Did you know this is the most volitile time in a marriage? This is the time most divorces happen. Are they for the right reason? Let's put it this way, you've already said that you married young i.e. a wrong reason for getting married. It also begs the question maybe people divorce for wrong reasons. Think about it. If it is human nature to feel this way, why isn't it human nature to understand why? We're the only animals on the planet that are capable of rational thought. Why not use it now? Seek counseling. You're fine. You're husband is fine. You're marriage is fine.

shorty66	of course your view on life has changed since you got married, you have grown both individually and as a couple. married people "fall out" of love alot, more than anyone really cares to admit ,but what attracted you in the beginning is still there, maybe just hidden behind a conversation. there has to be open lines of communication, but don't "talk to each other" talk with each other and really "hear" what the other says, don't just listen and blow off what is said. do some soul searching and if your still not happy then proceed. a happy marriage is a goal and like all goals it takes work to get there..it does not just fall in your lap.

sassy_sexy_honey	No you're not crazy, you are just being human and very curious. As to whether you want to act out your feelings you should probably talk to a counsellor or if you're brave enough talk to your husband about this. There is no use in harboring such feelings.

Jol Q and A	Remember why you got married in the first place. What did u like about him. Marriage is a commitment. And if you dont try to respond to him, if he gives up what would happen. Listen to Joel Osteens Message. Log on to his website. Go for a marriage enrichment seminar. www.lifeway.com or www.joelosteen.com

sacredclay	You got the seven year itch. Go to some counseling. It will help sort out your feelings. Only you can decide if you are better off with or without him.

crazylw	I feel that when you are having second thoughts about your life, you need to take a break. step back and ask your self is this where i thought i would be .Is this what i want to 10 years. If you feel you need to move on then do.. But don't be hurried , take time to think it though

r.ganesh r	you should fine love with someone else and there is nothing wrong doing it

Saurus	I think it's normal to start questioning this...every woman I know who is married has been through this. That is where you base it on commitment and not how "feeling". Feelings can change all the time, we are no way always going to feel in love but it's that commitment that we need to develope and remember and stick by. The grass is NOT always greener on the other side. You are not crazy for having these thoughts, they are normal just be big on commitment with your husband regardless of how your feel and be grateful for him. Count your blessings.

B D	It might be time to rekindle why you fell in love with the guy you married. Find the time, and money to spend a weekend doing what you enjoyed doing together early in your relationship. Marrying will put a strain on the relationship. You both need to work at staying together. And if you keep feeling like you don't fit maybe your not happy with yourself or feel worthy of his attention. Then you may want to try counseling for yourself.

EDITH	some times you need something new, not that hes old but you need something different...

Mary	Communicate to him your feelings......That's the only way to understand things better.....And to know what you really want... I too had the same thing happen to me...I was feeling different and didn't feel as I was IN Love with him anymore.... We ended up separating and we get along great now. I mean we still argue as a couple but we don't have to live with and deal with each other on a regular basis....

charlotte s web	Almost everyone questions their love after the 7th year. I think you should think of all the reasons you fell in love with him and maybe try not to take each other for granted.

mommybird64	I know how you feel. I was in the same situation with my husband. I was marraide at age 21 and we were together for almost 21 yrs I questioned everything in my life from about the age of 35 till our divorce in july of 2005 because he cheated (by the way) Dont do anything until you take a step out side your box and really look at him and try to remember why you decided to marry him. I think that sometimes had I done the I would still be with him because he wouldnt have cheated on me. It isnt always greenier on the other side of the fence I have struggled for the last 2yrs trying to make it on my own with 2 kids and he dosent even talk to them or even offer help. So PLEASE look before you give up, talk to him and let him know that you are not happy and maybe you could work it out and fall in love all over again.

banelilith	the best thing to do is to talk to him, but if your embarrased its ok. its ok to fell attraction to one other than your spouse, but as long as you return to him at the end of the day, your a good person. you must not always think of yourself, but what your husband feels, and for the sake of your children. remember just cause your married it doesnt mean you trapped, its just a vow, feel free to live a litle, take personal vacations. if you do end up wanting a divorse, its ok, make it friendly, for the kids. but dont pamper them too much, kids are tough and understanding. i was 5 when my parents got divorse and i was fine!and also, never deny joint custody to your kids. and also, its ok to have your feelings and likes change, it happens to everyone! i hope this helped you cause love and marrage is a delicate subject!

Butterfly	I feel the way you do and would not be any help. I wish I knew what was wrong with me. I have also changed and he stayed the same.

Misty M	i would talk to my husband 1st to see how he feels alot of people grow apart in marriages but dont make yourself misreable to make someone else happy

tinker	dear Jessica. you are not crazy. i am 5 years married and sometimes i question my self about the same thing. Its normal in my opinion. Everybody has ups and downs at some point. I married when I was 21. Sometimes I think it was too early but on other hand I would have lost my chance to spend this precious years whit the guy who loves me and I love. I think this is your case too.. Sometimes we take things for granted, donâ€™t we??? We forget to appreciate what we have, because we have it. Think about that. Good luck

vito194	Well first of all I hope you are doing better with ypur health it is somthing that can be very serious,to the point that it will make your life diffent,once you come out of it you dont want to go back.No matter what it is it can be a husband or wife or parents that had something to do with the way you felt when you got depress.Find out what will take down and dont let it drown you,if you are above water dont go back down,becouse you know how that undertow will be,Remember one thing LOVE ONLY GOES SO FAR. Make a good choice you want not your friends or your husband not even your heart do it with your mind remember thats what helps you get though anything you will go through,,hope i was of help