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Am I wrong? 10 points for honest answer. Thank you so much for your kindness?

Hi everybody,

I have been asking you guys about my relationship problems. This guy and I like each other for 3 years. We separated last year, but kept in touch as friends. Recently, he was writing two poems to let me know that he is moving on (His poems are hard to understand and sending mixed messages). I want to know the truth from him, but he did not tell me.

I was so upset and heart broken; therefore, I removed him from my friendlist and wrote "Good Bye" and "Good Luck" messages to him because I thought he wanted to move on.

He is now angry with me.

Although, we both decided to move on with our life. I just want to ask you guys. Was I wrong to delete him from my friendlist? What do you do if you are in my situation?

Sorry, for the poor grammar. Thank you so much for your kindness once again.







PragerGirl
Why are you clinging on to this guy for so long? You are much better off having a real relationship with somebody else. I think you are making the best move by moving on. Good Luck.


creation
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if you dont want to have him on your friends list that is fine the relationship is over anyway. you have to cleanse yourself of enidng relationship the best you know how , who know next year you and him maybe back being friends to need to second guess yourself.

he is mad oh well he will get over it


Sma
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I think you're right. If you both wanted to move on..then you both should have. In the end it would keep hurting you if you hadn't.. Good luck to you too.. Things like this arepainful so remember to keep your head up sweetie =)


Moonshine
This guy sounds confused about his feelings. Let him go and start a new life for yourself. You will eventually find your soulmate and be happy or he will come to his senses and decide he wants you in his life. But that is your choice. Don't wait around because you may be missing someone very special.


LuvzPinK
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After what he told ya, i would of Deleted him too- I mean, he says he wants to "Move ON" THEN HE SHOULD ACT LIKE IT,,,,,,,,, ya know?!?! I think when u deleted him,,,, he obviously did NOT expect u to do that,, so he got mad- Too bad 4 him i say- I agree w/ others Better to forgot about him and Move On,,,,, find someone who WANTS you in their life.Good Luck!


1401
i don't understand why you cant still be friends just because you two don't want to date should not mean you cant be friends i think you over reacted when you deleted him but its not to late let him know you were confused and hurt but that you would like to still be friend then add him back lol if he truly is a good friend you will regret not doing this later best of luck


Brutally Honest
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Nope, not wrong at all. You two made an adult decision to move on in your lives on your own paths, and that's that.

Just let him get on with his life. And you get on with yours....the type of emotional bondage he's using is not healthy...don't let him make you feel guilty for doing what you both decided was the right thing to do!


Reea
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I say you probably could have left him on your friends list, even if you guys weren't talking anymore. However, it is time to move on. Just write a short note telling him you're sorry and that you are moving on; you didn't mean to offend him. Tell him you had fun during your relationship, but it's now time to move on.
Hope that helped! :)


diamond
Your question was written very clearly and is better than most I have read.

If you couldn't understand what the poems were about then how is that a problem of yours? It's not your fault if he couldn't express himself clearly.

Nope, I don't think you were "wrong" but you could have asked him what the heck he was talking about. If you do not want to be bothered with someone, it is your choice to handle it as you please.


TekkuZ
I was pretty much in the same boat as you with my ex gf...I forgot about her and stayed away from her because i was hurt too much...But i've felt better ever since so no you're not doing a wrong thing...Best to move on, this has happened to me with other girls before. Moving on is the best thing, there are other guys out there. So don't worry. Also, don't worry about your grammar mistakes.


ushka_wulu
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Mixed messages, emotional attachment.... you were right and break all contact. Even a silly forwarding will insinuate a bridge back to the relationship. I know it sounds harsh but the alternative is a prolonged mish-mash of emotions that will only end in longer bitterness destined to be carried into future relationships. You are doing the best thing even though it seems cruel (think of shooting a horse with a bad leg).


elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom
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You were absolutely right to delete him from your friend's list. What would your new man, when you find one, think, if you kept all your exes on your friend's list? He would most likely think you would rather keep tabs on your exes, than on him. I have no exes on my list at all and none of them are in my address book, either. It makes my husband happy, and gives him the security he deserves. Good Luck, and good riddens to him. Find a man who will be there for you always =) Let your ex be angry, he can't have it both ways. =)


dalenjen
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You were not wrong to remove him...you both agreed to move on...so do it! You shouldn't have to read his poems about how he is moving on...good for him if it is theraputic, but you don't have to read them or respond! Good for you taking the first step to really moving on!


Qyllix
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The real question is: why are you caring, since he was the one who wanted to end the relationship? He is trying to use you as a security blanket. Get past him, and enjoy life. And...yes it is better to cut all ties.


♥Infatuation
i think it was wrong to delete him from your friend list, you should have just ignored him and wait to see if he would contact you. he probably still cares for you and is mad because he thought you were trying to cut him out of your life.


Jenny W
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I think you did the right thing. It's best to simply move on. He just got mad at you because you didn't fall for his mind games.


lost man
too much thinking here.

you have to use your heart when come to love, not your logic!

nothing wrong or right here, just you, and what do you want?

follow your heart, dear.


sennanight
He just didn't like your rejection. You weren't wrong in deleting him. If he doesn't live near you and see you everyday, him being angry with you won't matter as much. Now if he lives near you or knows where you live, just make sure he's not a crazy stalker/killer... Just to be on the safe side.


Bruce M
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No need to delete anyone that you still like from your friends list. Just be clear - you are not waiting around for him.


Royalhinney
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Maybe you two should have talked instead of communicating in a way that really isn't clear. Give him a call and tell him why you did what you did. Then say "goodbye".


Carli's Game
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SEPARATION ANGER. HE STILL HAS FEELINGS AND YOU ARE TO VALIDATE THEM. YOU DON'T NEED TO. HE IS SENDING MIXED MESSAGES. IGNORE HIM AND MOVE ON.


saulg21
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I would just remove him completely from my life and just move on totally and never associate with him again. This will eventually end the heartache and mixed messages.


tcc_00676
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there is nothing better than a clear good answer. talk straight no head games ever. thats the i am and would like every 1 to b. u did right


Mindy S
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tell him you dont understand and ask that he explain himself a little better


Kitty
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It's not right or wrong, it's whatever works for you. If you feel deleting him will help you move on, then it's the right thing to do.


2die4
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Maybe you're the type that needs to completely be away and disconnected to move on..and he is the type that can still be friends..

That's where people differ.


C M
If he says he wants to move on then why should you care if he gets mad just cause you want to move foward with your life and not dwell on him.


kandra m
no girl you did the right thing ... There are better people out there for you... good luke and god bless.


Seehaze J
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Move on and forget about him.







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