Am I wrong for being upset....How would you feel?

hamhead	i would be just a little upset. i also get it from listening to other women the many "not so smart" things their sign. others do. i used to believe they didnt want to take the time etc. but now i truly believe that some guys just "dont get it" they are clueless as children and things must be explained to them in a very detailed manner before they do. how many times have i heard " well i thought that it would be okay" anyone watch tim the toolman, everybody loves raymond and a couple of those other shows....best advice i could give...."write it down"

momof2	OH girl you need to explain what you mean by date night

kay	yea..i think you have a reason for being upset. esp if when you were expressing your feelings about having a date night you were being sincere and serious. bc if you were then he basically took what you had to say as a joke.. it would've been better if he ordered a pizza and a movie.. arby's???? wow!

hopscothchbunnies	yes i would be upset. it isn't because he decided on a cheap date, it is becasue he chose to have a date w/out spending time. A date night implies time to share a meal, have good conversations and laughter. Somehow a drive thru just doesn't conjure that in my mind. Talk with him--tell him you are hurt. We too have date nights and my husband and i generally take turns choosing a place and at minimum the time we spend together is 2 hrs.

Taylor	thats kinda sweet..but maybe try again

Teri M	I dont think your wrong for being upset. Did you specify what date night is? Men usually need specifications on what things are. I would sit down with him and explain to him that that is not what you expected and hopefully next time it will be a better night.

Nessy	No. Get him back. Make dinner and put it in the dogs' dish and tell him dinner is served.

BabeHart	Don't get angry, just talk to him about what 'date night' is, and that it doesn't include fast food or drive thrus... Guys aren't mind readers...don't get angry because he wasn't on the same page as you...he made an effort, if not what you had in mind... be more specific in the future :)

Lore	I had the same problem a couple months ago. ''hey we should go out'' We'd go to Target or something lame for about 15 min of our time so he could rush back home again. Seriously, the best thing i've ever done was be completely open about that. If you expect a sit down dinner, or at least to go INSIDE arby's. Say that you need to feel like you're being treated out every once and a while. Some girls need that.(I don't want to say all because I don't want mega hatemail!) Just talk to him, if he has a problem say that it could push you away from him. The little things really do count. You're not wrong to be upset, it can be very fustrating. Talk to him hun!

Jennifer B	I think it is a good idea to have a night just to yourselves. I think guys think differently then we do about a date night. Just tell him that it upset you and tell him your idea of a date night. Then just try again.

duane shields	ARBY'S?That was wrong you have every reason to be upset.What kind of a man takes you out to a fast food place unless you are teenagers.My advice is that you take him somplace romantic,And show him,like hey this is the kind of place thats romantic.A date is supposed to be romantic.Good luck.

Rachel	You married him.

Bill	Is your husband's name David Putty? Did you have the roast beef? Yes, you should be upset. Date night does not mean eat out, it means go on a date. A date can be a long walk, a movie, dinner out, anything you both enjoy doing together. I think you need to initiate the next date, and remind him what a date is supposed to be like.

cjordan23	LMAO omg thats great. Arby's HA. I hope he didn't get l@id that night

Precious M	I think i would be upset...he could've at least took you inside instead of the drive through!

truebeing3030	Your husband may think that that is ok, but in a nice way let him know that you would like something more.

Andrew	I guess he is unclear on the concept. Apparently you need to be more explicit in your directions, that your idea of a dinner date does not involve trays, wrapper or curly fries.

frigidx	WOW......um, yea. I'd be disappointed to! Next time, I'd make the plans for the date and show him EXACTLY what you mean. Arbys.....good grief....

Smashley	I would be pissed.

livinhapi	whats wrong with that . arby's is good especially the roast beef... did you do it in the car after finishing your roast beef?

lucy02	I would be a little upset too. He seems to be missing the point here.

rich2481	hey he took you out,, hope he got some for his thoughtfulness, honestly,, he is a smuck, cut him off till he takes you to a nice restaurant

chrstnwrtr	Have a chat with your husband about "date night" and that going to Arby's does not constitute a "dinner."

toobusy	That's kind of funny... Seriously, some men you really have to explain to them what you want because most just don't get it.

thealysiad	YES!!!!! Tell him by dinner you mean at a sit down restaurant. Not a fast food place. If that had been me, I would have refused to eat there, and tell him to try again.

J L	Yes, if that was his idea of a serious effort. No, if he was just kidding and intends to take you somewhere nice. Sorry!

Wite Out	i would've laughed and be slightly disappointed and talk to him about it.