Any women on here not allowed to wear pants? My husband won't let me, i've pleaded, how do you respond?

HazelEyes	don't argue with him. be nice. he just doesn't want you to end up like most of the rest of the women, confused about your role and responsibilities as the wife. do as you are told and stop trying to rebel, you'll be better off in the long run if you OBEY your husband. It's not like he's beating you.

Earl D	I agree with your husband. All wives should be kept naked and barefoot at all times.

Gabrielle	sweetie, if you're a grown up, you don't have to ask. do what you want.

Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot	What century are you living in?

mookie mama	he dont own you f*ck what he say

Common Sense	Very weird & overly controlling... You should be able to wear anything you want ... How short does he let you wear your skirts ? You are not being a brat.. You are not being treated like an adult.

kc	What planet are you from?

happydawg	I understand totally. My parents raised me and my 4 sisters in the Pentecostal faith. We were forbidden to wear pants, cut our hair, or put on makeup. My dad said it was "immodest" to wear clothes that a man wears. Well, we all grew up and found out on our own, it is more modest to fit in with the crowd and pants are more comfortable. A little makeup here and there dont hurt and a nice hair cut feels good. Needless to say none of us stick out anymore. I can pick out a Pentecostaler woman in the Walmart, or anywhere because they just plain stand out in a crowd because they dont dress or look like anyone else. I think you should wear whatever you are most comfortable in. If you prefer jeans, then put on jeans. God loves you anyways. To he honest, I think your husband is acting like a control freak. I hate to say that because I know how it is to be under the power of your mate. My mother obeyed my dad until she died. Life would have been so much better for her and us if my dad had a little more sense. It is your life. Live it to the fullest. What can he do if you put on a pair of pants? Go for it.

Simply Lovely	No man has the right to tell an adult woman what to wear. you have got to be kidding that you are not allowed to do something??? Oh girl, that would never happen in my world. Be content, your marriage appears to be content already and submissive. What kind of man did you marry?

birdsdafly	are YOU AMISH

kellygirlaj	I can see your father having a problem with you wearing jeans while you were in his house, but you have your own house now, and you should wear what you want to wear. Your husband is your partner, not your owner, your keeper or your father. I'm all for respecting your husband's wishes, but he should give a lilttle and respect yours. It's not like you want to go and buy a stripper costume, is it? He sounds very, VERY old fashioned. Go out to Target or Wal-mart and buy yourself a modest pair of blue jeans, and wear them around the house every third Friday to satisfy yourself. He shouldn't have a problem with that, but if he does, he does.

Bassetlover	I find it strange that your CONTROLLING husband has all these rules you must follow but yet he still lets you use the computer.

Colleen	I am so confused as to why you let anybody treat you like this. You are a person. People have rights. Freedom of expression. He must be higher than a kite for thinking that you would be semi OK with this and you must be higher than a kite for letting someone dress you. This is such bull! I am thinking that you had surgery to get your backbone removed. Does he have control issues? I know that you are female but, you really need to get a pair! I am not talking pants. However, that wouldn't hurt, either. Talk to him about this, find out why he doesn't think that you should be wearing pants. Tell him why you want to wear pants. Tell him how much you love him and that he is wonderful. Then, after your talk buy pants and wear them. Take him out to dinner but demand on wearing your pants, that YOU bought. Do you have a job? Yes? Buy pants. No? Get one and buy pants.

Cris	um... uh... I hope everything else in your marriage is good... coz that's just not right....

just me	My girlfriend of 20 plus years wasn't allowed to wear pants...EVER!! When she married her 1st husband he was alot like her parents..NO PANTS...she'd wear culots (KOO-lots) and skirts most of the time...BUT when she'd go out with her male FRIEND (now her second husband) and she only wears jeans..and shorts..was NEVER allowed to wear shorts... If he feels this way...I don't think that there's ANY words to make him change HOW he feels...maybe see if he'd let you wear them once a week...with him around and see how that goes...who knows...

Been there	What country are you living in? In the US - most women do not let their husband's demand what they can or cannot wear.

"Chanel-o"	get away from the control freak....you are an independt woman...you shouldnt need to ask if its ok...just do it

OleMarbleEyes	Ok, your dad not wanting you to wear them I can halfway understand. He didn't want his "little" girl to grow up. Your husband, well that seems to be a different story. In todays society you should be able to wear pants or jeans...it should be your choice, your an adult and you should be able to call the shots on what you wear as long as it is not to revealing, i.e. see through.

Melissa MacDonald	WOW.. I can't imagine a man telling me what or what not to wear..That is ridicilous to me.. Tell him you are going to wear them and that's the end of it.. Or maybe wear them when you are not around him..

shelly g	Put on the pants and tell him to wear a dress for a while! Stand up for yourself! Noone can tell you what to wear no matter what the excuse. You are a grown woman, act like it and put on some pants.

antirion	I spent 36 years in a repressive religion. We had many attitudes similar to what you've mentioned here. Your problem has nothing to do with whether or not you can wear pants. Your problem goes much, much deeper. It was generations in the making, and you don't even realize just how much a prisoner you really are. The truth is, my heart aches for you. Your words bring back memories of so many of my childhood friends; bright, beautiful and full of hope...only to find themselves trapped in a lifestyle they don't know how to escape... who are still prisoners in a value system that is valueless... Honestly, my heart aches for you.

Journey	Are you in one of those weird polygamist groups?' Whats your address and your size I will mail you a pair of low rise jeans with the flared leg! On a more serious note I had some friends in school who were penticostal and they always made their own skirts so that they could look cool.

BuffyFromGP	Sounds like you grew up in some religious culture that really believes in the Bible. The whole women are submissive to men thing. Looking at your other questions, you don't seem to know much else. Pants are overrated. Wearing them is really no different than skirts. I think my husband wishes I wore more skirts. Proof is the quest for jeans... you try on too many just to find the one perfect pair.

mamma bird	did you wear pants before you married? If you didn't why all of a sudden you wanting to and complaining about it. either wear the pants or deal with it.

c_mitu89	Both your father and your husband should put their machismo away, its the year 2006 not the 18th century (and no matter what century women should have equal rights), I understand why women don't wear certain things once they get married or get in an established long term relationship, but he has no right to force you not to wear them, you are free woman. Tell him to growup and get off your ***, you are a grown woman. Does he ask you if he is allowed to do certain things or wear certain things? I doubt it, you don't need to ask for his permission.

For ever in my Heart	I have read some of your other emails and you have a very strict husband i have responded to you before . This must be a different culture than were use to over here in north america. Well just from hearing how your husband is with you on other notes you have posted I don't think you'll ever get to wear jeans outside while your with him However the only thing I guess you could do so you get the chance to experience what other women have.. is ask him to buy you a pair of jeans and you promise you will only wear them in the house and not in public Many of the muslim women do this . and it is okay in the house but not out in public. He should be okay with this as he will be the only one who can see you in these jeans.

radiancia	You're an adult - why do you need your husbands permission to wear whatever you like?

KK	I don't know what to say, sorry

Angel	Go to the mall buy a pair of cute pants and wear them. If your husband says anything tell him that this is 2006 and woman can wear what they want when they want. Besides its the style. Its nice to wear dresses and skirts or short skirts but pants are nice to. And your right you should be able to ware a pair of cute pants once in a while.