Are there ANY happy marriages anymore????

cows4me79	I can tell you that there are happy marriages out there. I can also tell you that the day you get married and 20 years from now you will not feel the same about your spouse. Life, like people, does change. Some people adjust and adapt. Other people just give up and go for something easier. Marriage is something that must take lots of care and consideration not only for yourself, but for someone else with no guarentees of getting care or consideration back. I have been married for 10 years (high school sweetheart). I have threatened divorce once. However, we were going through a stressful time (new baby, no money, etc). Luckily, my husband stuck by me and did not pressure me. We worked things out and are a happy couple. I do not love him like I loved him on our wedding day. I love him differently, but just as much. He has changed, but so have I. A truly good marriage must change as much as life does, but stay the same as much as time does (always 24 hours in a day). If you are willing to work and so is your spouse, your marriage can last. Good luck.

Charlie	If things are already that bad, don't marry him! But yes there are some happy marriages.

Cat Loves Her Sabres	Everyone goes through their hard times. If you and your boyfriend can make it through this and come out OK on the other side, then you know you'll be just fine. I just went to a wedding two weeks ago, and I can tell you that those two looked like they had a chance if anyone does these days--it can and does happen. My boyfriend's parents were high school sweethearts, got married when they were twenty, and are celebrating their 30th wedding anniversary this year. Don't let yourself get down. Love still exists and it will find its way in the world as long as we don't give up on it or take it lightly.

pokerjoev	It's a 50/50 proposition. That's the current divorce rate. How many stay together for the "kids" or for the life style is another thing. You must work at it. No easy answers I am sorry to say.

CoolForever	It would be better if the world didn't feel marriage was essential, because it's not. It's a silly arrangement that serves a very trivial purpose. Marriage is for people who are committed and truly in love. Unfortunately, many confuse love with lust. And that's why the divorce rate is 50%. You really have to assess your relationship and decide if you truly think you can make it through all the years.

kyguy	just because people fight doesn't mean that they love each other. i think you cant have love without arguement. even though y'all may fight he could still love you just as much as he did when y'all first fell in love. everyone has their differences but they all can be solved.

Skatin'	This forum is kind of toxic that way, but remember that happy marriages aren't really something to post questions about very often. I met my husband when we were both 19 and we're 38 now, still together, and very happy. I know that we're in the minority of people I know around us, though. Both of us come from families where all of our siblings and parents have been in long, happy marriages. I really think some people are just happier being married. If you can, look for someone with that kind of background - they will be much happier hanging in there for the long haul.

djcool_rulz	well to be honest ur just concerned about your marriage and your considering all possibilities....divorce & cheatin etc r usual things now adays...but if u really love your boyfriend and trust him(vice versa) then ull be able to hold it together...my mom and dad have been married 25 yrs now...and its still going good..:) best wishes for ur marriage

Molly B	You don't know. All you know is that you can be an excellent wife, and then your halfway there to a perfect marriage. I am very happy after 12 years. It can be done with a little selflessness and commitment. God Bless!

Jiffy Pop Jennipoo	Let me tell you this. I was 22 for my first marriage. We never got along but we still married. After a year, we divorced. We weren't happy to start with. My second marriage years later... and I've never been happier. Marriage is wonderful if you find someone who will COMMUNICATE and LOVES you. Those are the two keys to a great marriage. Trust me, you'll know when you've found the right man. I know you will!!!

Madikar	Marriage or any relationship isn't about a constant honeymoon, it's about spending the rest of your life with someone whom you love and feel comfortable with. Truth is, it's kind of like adding another member to your family.

schmeely	just follow your heart! :)

cheerleader!	i've never been married before but it sounds like thats not teh guy you should marry. make my parents are still married and they always say "you'll just know when you are going to marry each other you will just know" but i personally dont know at all

Brewboy62	like the old joke goes It was the happiest 25yrs of my life > Then I got married! :(

luckyboy777	no why because all the good guys are taken there gay or taken by a gold digger. don't want your whole life for mr.right go out there e yor self but have fun yes this is coming from a 13 year old.

platypus â™« party	there are plenty of happy marrages out there! start seeing the glass as half full, and try to look out for the future instead of hanging on every little bad thing he does. at the end of the day, is he the person you just want to spend time with?

nicholas t	yea there are still some, u just need to believe and pray for the best in life

kk	Pray about it if you put that negative energy out there it will surely happen make an effort to change. I know plenty of people with great marriages!

BlueAngelGal	I guess that's why more people are trying to get married later -- they want to be really, REALLY sure it's the right one. I think happy marriages are totally possible, but they take not rushing in, and they take work.

Tsunami	well i want you to know my hubby and i have been married 25 years and its been the best 25 years i have had. we have 4 sons and they are all married. so take it from there it can happen but the two of you have to want it and therefore you don't in this case so i would just find anotehr person that you can rely on and love it will find you take care.

pianoforte308	i can tell my parents are still happy. don't make any hasty decisions though!

heatherw	yes there are but, this doesn't mean that it is ones first marriage though there is no guarantees through/in life and this includes sadly enough two peoples spoken vows to each other

chas	there are no guarantees sister.

Moxie Crimefighter	It's what you make of it...stop reading and listening to all of the negative crap...there are still many good marriages out there and I'd like to think mine is one of them...

washyoface	No, the whole world is divorced. ............ ........ ...... ..... ..... Of course there are. This is a dumb question.

kassie	love is risky. you just gotta go with ur gut feeling

redsoxmk	Some marriages are happy.