BF vs. hubby in jail, love them both but can't handle what hubby did, don't think I can be with, what to do?

ttsdschild	He is using that given up thing to keep you hanging on if he is in jail for touching no 1. He has a problem No 2. He is going to need counsel ling No 3. Are you willing to get counseling with him. If he loves his son when he gets out he will see his son you need to be strong for you and your son and do whats right. You cant fall out of love overnight and you can be there for him but don't put your son and yourself somewhere you cant get out of in the long run and you will regret for the rest of your life!!!!!!!!!!!! GOOD LUCK

littlechicky_82	hello i hear your story.. i have been through a divorce (my hubby) and with the kids.. its hard, i would ask your son what he would like to see done. and then you think over what he wants and see if you can accomodate your idea to his plans.. maybe he dont want to be a part of your hubbys life anymore. you need to do what is best for your and son.. if a young son you need to make big desicions and make them wise. or in the long run you will get screwed by hubby.. like i said my hubby had been threw a divorce and then married me.. he had two children with ex wife and with the child support visiatations.. we got royally screwed. best of luck and hope all works out well.

fran c	You have to be realistic about this. Your husband is not someone that has helped you so I would forget him. Have a talk with your boyfriend to see what he wants to do about the future. Does it include you? You need to know that also. It could be that he thinks you won't leave your husband and that you are safe to be around. Guys are funny like that. Some don't want to make a committment so I would find out if he is serious about you. It's for your son & you. If the boyfriend does not want anything serious, leave. Get rid of the husband and start a new life with new people. That's better than staying around a "no future" life and not helping your child grow up in a healthy environment.

smooth5369	if he touching anyone in the wrong way its time to go far away from him. ask your son you might be surprised the answer he knows what your going though .

atlbakergirl	you can't stay with him because of your son. if he's a rotten man, you probably shouldn't want him around your son anyway for fear of him passing along his behavior. if he's not going to see your son just because you breaking up with him, he's also a rotten father and that's not your fault. people who are not together often see their children and maintain healthy beautiful relationships with them- that has nothing to do with being with the mother or father. if you stay together, his behavior will not change and you may be leading yourself and your son into an ugly ugly situation. i say better to leave him alone and find peace for your child and for yourself. sometimes we have to make sacrafices to save those whom we love. this isn't a perfect love, and when things like this happen, there's no perfect solution, but you can do what is BEST.

redunicorn	Your son has already been hurt. You cheated on your husband and that hurt him. I am not sure that I understand who your husband was "touching" and if it put him in jail, then that makes things dangerous. Get a divorce and get counseling for yourself and your son.

texasgal	Do what makes you truly happy, & if he has nothing to do with his son then that just shows what an even bigger low life he is especially when you said he was in jail for touching, I can only assume you are talking about a child, and that is the lowest. Good Luck.

texas_gurl	ok, first of all...what does "touching" mean? touching a child? if so, he got what he deserved. AND keep your son away from him. How do you know that he hasn't "touched" him too? geez..get a brain lady.

Daniel R	if touching means what i think it means you shouldn't want him around your son anyway,or in your life.stick with the boyfriend.

Lil mama	didn't get you sorry, "touching"

jd	His relationship with his son is separate from whatever is going on in your marriage or divorce (if that happens). You can't stick with something just in the hopes that he will not take it out on your son later. Yes, that may be painful if he does turn away from your son, but that will be his choice. The best thing you can do for your son is make conditions in your life so you are the most fulfilled and self-confident. A happy mommy is a loving mommy and you will be able to help him cope with whatever his father does in the long-run regarding their relationship. All the best to all of you.

azizah2minnie	u have to treasure urself too..if u can't effort to getiing hurt again them juz leave him and talk to ur son and tell him the truth bout u and ur hubby..and u must choose only one of them...juz listen to what ur heart say...

Nickname	"Touching" What? Your kid will be fine, in case you haven't noticed there are a lot of divorces, kids get through it. Sounds like you both need a lobotomy.

csucdartgirl	Is there something the jailbird can give to his son that you find a desirable quality? When you say "touching", I severely doubt it. You are being held emotionally hostage by your hubby. He's responsible for his own decisions. Don't take his guilt trip. Divorce him and let him choose his own path, you go on yours.

Demonica	leave the hubby !!. What HE DID IS NOT YOUR PROBLEM!. HE IS NOT YOUR PROBLEM.! HOW HE FEELS IS NOT YOUR PROBLEM.! and as far as you promised.....CHANGE YOUR MIND!!!!!!

luv2playvln	It sounds to me like you really know the right decision already but need an extra push to do it. You need to do what is right for you and your son and that should be the guiding force in your decision.

buster	Sometimes as hard as it is we need to follow our head not our heart. If he stops seeing his son because of you and him then that just goes to show you what kind of man he is. Be smart and be honest with yourself. Also can he be trusted with your son? He has a sickness that I don't believe you can be reformed from.

Nutsters-ChickÂ©	Best thing is 2 ask UR son what does he wants.

teelove427	Well i would say divorce him cause one day he could hurt you and ur son so i would want him out of both mine and my son life i hope u do the right thing sweety ok

jooker	Break the ties.

sunshine25	sorry for what you're going thru

ChooseRealityPLEASE	Take it to Jerry Springer. Why do people insist on making the worst choices for their lives?

eclint929	If he touched your son in an inappropriate way then there's something seriously wrong with him. You're just going to have to figure out if you can let go of that or not and how important it is to you.

soulestada	He's in jail for touching what? Children? Did he hit you? If so, run far, far away.

dahc321_321	ask son