CAN I TRUST MY WIFE AFTER SHE CHEATED?

Alex	God forgives all so should you I know it hurts but you should be the bigger person for your kids and forgive her.

TheOne	Try marital counseling before you destroy the marriage. Good Luck.

sydni.(:	okay, first of all. i feel SO bad for you. no one deserves to get cheated on. but you probb. shouldnt stay with her, if she did it once, shed probb. do it again. good luck with everything!

Shelby H	dont do it for yourself, think about your kids. they would be going through a lot with a divorce. it was a long time ago. start thinking about others- not just you.

jannie	Yes you can trust her again. It will only work if you are man enough to put it in the past and leave it there. Forgive her and never mention it again.

Dulce Reina	if you love her and willing to forgive her then go ahead but trust me it's going to take time for you to once trust her like you did before you going to have your droughts here and there.

wii hacker	well if she cheated on you once she probably will again but she sounds honest so yeah you can trust her

xo	it sounds like she really wants to stay with you and she is actually sorry for what she did so you should stay with her. its for the better because of your family anyways. also she tried to confess it several times

Lovinlife81	No Iam sorry, but if she was able to cheat on you once you can bet that she will be able to and tempted to cheat on you again. Iam sorry, but I have absolutely NO sympathy for cheaters!

betheny	me personally, i could never have the same amount of trust as i used to. and that alone is enough for me to call it quits. but it's up to you, the saying 'once a cheater always a cheater' isn't necessarily always true.

Abby	Yes, you should give her another chance. She seems very sincere to me. When you married her, you vowed to stay together in good times and in bad. It's been a long time since she cheated. You need to try your best to trust her again, and keep your marriage together.

Mary	No. Isn't that obvious if you're asking for reassurance from virtual strangers? If you really want some advice on something as personal as this talk to your friends, or family, or let your wife convince you that she'll never do it again.

Kris	Trusting a cheater is never an easy thing to do, but some people that cheat should be capable of at least being given the option to be trusted again. This depends on the type of people you and your wife are. I'd say at least give her the chance to redeem your trust in her. Good luck.

Rena D	From what you said it sounds like she is really sorry. Only you know how you feel. If you cannot forgive her and try to start over then part. If you think it will work and you can forgive and its what you want then do what your heart tells you to. Best of luck no matter what your decision is.

xoxoâ™¥	It's harsh but trust is the basic foundation of every marriage. If you don't trust her, you don't love her. Sorry that's the way it goes. And unfortunately, nobody can tell you to trust her or not. It's up to you entirely. Follow your instincts and may God guide you through this correctly. Answer mine please: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AqF3.H3UYPFfrs9dfWBixafsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20090715183232AAyabzy

Belo	its you decision ... you have to decide whether you can live through learning to trust her again it can be done but it will be hard for both of you and will involve a lot of work if you are both willing to try then maybe you should give it one more shot if she ever does it again end it

dwbaldeagle	well the way i see it if she has not cheated again then i dint think she ever will again. and if you have forgiven her. you should never bring it up again because if you do you never forgave her. but several years have passed and you just need to move on and love this woman with all your heart. that was a bad thing to do. cheating is really bad. but if you too really love each other it will all work out.

Jewels	That is tough. I have been there. The thing is, your instinct is probably right. If you honestly feel she is sorry and wants to save the marriage, than I would conisider. But keep in mind, that you have doubts...she might do it again. A lot of times cheaters will cheat again because they got away with it the first time. Be careful. This phrase is important: Cheat on me once, Shame on you. Cheat on me twice, Shame on me. I believe people can change, but a true love doesn't make someone cheat either.

the if in life	Being cheated on is always a bad experience. See if you two are able to work out your problems since you have to keep in mind that you have kids. But if you love someone else, that's more important. You can only know the answer to this question if you know who you're going to be happy with.

Brian	Wow that is a hard question to answer, but with 15 yrs and three kids it is worth a shot and I am sorry that happened. How good have the last few years been? Does the good outweigh the bad so far? You might need to talk the pastor yourself and take your time with this. There may be alot of ups and downs, Good luck and I hope you make it.

MrsJasper	Personally i wouldnt. I think cheating is disgusting I say if you want to be with someone else we better break it off first. NO SECOND CHANCES when it comes to that no matter how sorry they are. I know its harder when married and especially with kids but if i were in your situation i say no more trust. You could still both be there for the kids but be divorced. I'm sorry this happened to you and i hope you make a decision thats right for you and your kids. Good Luck.

Megan C	I dont like the saying once a cheater always a cheater i think the saying in the case of couples should be first time shame on you second time shame on me, so I thnk you should forgive her especially if she is willing to do whatever it takes to regain your trust. Plus it was 7 years ago give her a break!

bioexpedition	Probably you won't trust her again as before, but you could try to trust her enough to keep you marriage going if you want. I am pretty sure she won't cheat again because she really regret it, but trusting her again is probably never going to happen. The question is if you can live with that or not.

Akbar B	I would hang on to her for dear life. She has confessed and asked for forgiveness, if she wanted to cheat again, she would have denied, denied, denied. It was a mistake that happened 7 years ago. She will be ever faithful and extra loving and extra caring to you and especially to the kids.It's human to err and divine to forgive. Forgive her and move on to the next chapter in your lives. Good luck.

S7088	Sir, that was a LONG time ago! If you have stayed together this long, and there hasn't been any cheating since then, and she is a changed person, you need to somehow let it go and forgive and working on healing the relationship. Especially since kids are involved.

GreenGrasshopper	If she hasn't cheated since then, then yes I think you can trust her, esp if she's now a christian believer. but only you know her best. "her friend told me and wanted to take me as her husband if i will leave my wife" the best "friend" obviously can't be trusted b/c she has ulterior motives of her own and she was really wrong to tell you for her selfishness Find out why your wife cheated after yo'd already been married 8 years

Lauren	Hi Sam, normally I would say no, but since it has been that long and she has confessed to everything, I say at least try to. The trust won't come easy, it will be hard. Also, I say to ditch that preacher, honesty is always the way to keep a marriage, no one should tell you any different. Her friend was very much in the wrong and shouldn't try to get you when you are vulnerable.

Me	Sometimes trust is a decision - it sounds like you have enough invested to decide to trust (not forget just trust). Although however difficult - give her the benefit of doubt until the day if ever she proves you wrong. But she would have to try to keep this trust in tact for the benefit of your marriage - it's difficult but not impossible to do. Sometimes you can become stronger as a couple by this hard work.