Can a marriage survive an affair???

*Ivette*	I have never been married, but i think that if my future husband ever cheated on me, i would be pissed but i would still love him to death!!! i would find a way to get through it and move on!! And hopefully find a way to trust him again!! i understand the situation cuz i did the same thing, but i was single and so was he, but he was one of my best friends ex, who she was extremely in love with!! but she forgave me after a few months, though things have not been the same at all!!!

hugslife	It is possible but you have to ask yourself: do you want your marriage to survive? how hard are you willing to work for it? if you are serious you ought have an honest talk with your man about why you're not getting what you need from him.

john boy	no the trust is gong do not tell and let the affair die and keep the pain inside

mslostmymind	Yes, if no one ever finds out.The next question is can you live with yourself?

littleladyclaire	in my opinion no, sorry. but thats just me and everyones different..... for me that trust is gone

Reka	Are you also married? Sounds pretty scandalous. Even with the booze you knew who you were sleeping with.

Temple	Yes, a marriage can survive an affair but it takes a LOT of hard work. The husband of the friend, too many rum and cokes! Are you fooling yourself with this factor 'cause you're sure not fooling me!

Georgia Girl	It could probably survive..but the trust would never be the same.The hurt would never completely go away.

?	It can if you can be forgiving or if your spouse forgives you. This will only make the relationship stronger. But dont be too passive because if you are you spouse would take advantage of you.

Kimgreeneyes	I did about the same thing many years ago. Does you husband know about this? If not....don't say anything and don't do it again. If he knows or you do what I did and tell him, it is 50, 50 chance it might not make it. My husband stayed but he never was the same. Too bad it happened. Good Luck!

jayjay	im not really sure because my parents are going throgh a divorce for thet reason :(

swtz69drmz	Yes it can. My parents were married 25 years when my father had an affair. They finally worked things out between them and got through it and renewed their marriage vows. It takes a lot of love, understanding and communication to make it through something like this. My parents now been together 37 years and still going strong. Hope it all works out for your friend!

jeanere	It depends on the people in the marriage... the frinedship may be in jeopardy aas well. But if the two people are not getting what they need at home... then maybe that shouldn't be their home.

Porsha B	Their marriage will last!! Because men get away with murder and women let them!! As for your marriage and frienship....It's over men don't forgive and come on the husband of a friend.

montana d	It can survive but it want happen over night. You will have to bulld the trust back first. The only down fall is they will never forget.

Paktown	be truthful with your husband, it may not make it, but if it does you may not be too happy because it takes a long time to rebuild a broken trust.

JustMe	I dont think so. I would never be able to put it behind me. If I tried to continue it would just creep up every single day. Then its your life that becomes paranoid.

?	As long as you dont go and tell on yourselves out then hell yeah it can survive. I hope that you didnt use a nickname that could be yours in real life on here someone will find out

farien3	It depends on the marriage, doesn't it? There is no single answer to your question, did you really imagine there would be? I'll tell you this, if you want your marriage to survive, and you really think the affair was meaningless, DONT tell your husband about it. That will be the death of the marriage.

Gerard's Vampire	no relationship can survive an affair.

beautifullyblessedb1tch	yes, infact it can. But men tend to be a lot less forgiving in relationships that deal with affairs. On the flip side, there are the few men that find are able to be understanding to such situations. Be careful, but always be HONEST. So if you do cheat, and love the person, tell them...for loves purpose and benefit! Even if you get left, at least you know you told them out of love.

harPOON capt uss TANG	Not likely

Fiona A	not likely

Debbie B	I think a marriage can get past a betrayal. There is a lot of factors though, honesty, rebuilding the trust that is lost, taking responsibility for the mistake. It isn't about what you or anyone WAS NOT getting at home it was still a horrible mistake, come clean, face whatever consequences and don't blame anyone else but the people that cheated. I think a real deep love can get past a betrayal, but it takes work!

JV	Sometimes people need to explore other routes to see if they are truly happy with their mate or if they need to find better.

bertleilah	My brother had an affair and he is still married. It happened 10 years ago. You should try harder to get what's needed at home though.

Forlorn Hope	Of course it can... Just learn from it... And make your relationship better for it...

Male Sicilian Trauma Nurse	Yes it can but theres got to be trust there again.....it will be hard but it can happen..with counseling and talking..

bones54	I have a big bottle of captain morgan wanna come over?

shae	Nope.

lvb524	I truly believe that a marriage can be saved from anything. Yes it is hard but years of a marriage is just to important to just throw away. Human Beings are just that we are not perfect and are subject to mistakes. It is how we deal with those mistakes and grow from them that will in the end decide on the chances of the marriage surviving. Just because we falter does not mean that we are not worthy of the love of a spouse. Love consist of many things incluing tolerance so if you keep in mind that this is the man that you love and the man that you chose to marry and he does the same you can keep the lines of communication open and hopefully you can get back what it is that is obviously lacking or missing from the marriage. Just never stop talking and listening and growing.