Can you get bored of being married?

wanda.farmer3	Please dont throw away 14 years because you are bored and want to be alone. There are 2 things you can try. 1) take a vacation by yourself for a few days to a couple weeks depending on your finances. Clear your head and come back refreshed. 2) things do get dull. Pretend to be strangers and meet your husband somewhere and at least for a night pretend that you are on a first date and do things totally out of carachter just to spice things up. If those dont work. Go for counseling maybe there are other issues but dull spots happen. Shake things up.

dannym7500	Hmmm? I guess you can I don;t see why not.

Meeko77	Well, it's always a problem when someone starts to feel the way you feel when they are married but it's not a lost cause. At one point or another you can start to feel bored even if you love the person very much but the problem starts to set in when the feelings won't go away. Maybe you can switch up the routine a little bit. Why not go out on little mini dates to spruce up the romance and fun that you used to have? If you fall into a routine with anything eventually you get bored and marriage is no exception. I believe that if you just start doing different things within your marriage to keep the fun alive then you will be fine. You already know that marriage is what you make it and you are blessed to be married for as long as you have been. I wish you lots of luck in the future.

mclaudio99	yea it's a phase, everything gets old...try learning something new with you hubby may add excitement

paperback_writer2003	Well, it could be a phase. Or it might not be a phase. What you're really referring to is a rut. And after 14 years of making mortgage payments, doing housework, raising kids, paying bills, etc. etc. etc., it becomes very easy to associate your spouse with drudgery. This is especially true because you got married at age 20. If you're 20 right now, read my lips: DON'T GET MARRIED AT AGE 20. YOU WILL CHANGE MORE OVER THE NEXT FIVE YEARS THAN YOU WILL FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. Marriage is work. The notion that one hits the finish line after saying I Do is a shallow notion. Dating is easy. Marriage is difficult. Therefore I suggest that you cultivate mutual interests and friends. Be more interested in your husband than yourself. After all, ongoing boredom is usually a quality of the unimaginative. It is up to you to find ways to put renewed spark in your marriage and your life.

brian_harrelson2004	After 14 years, that may happen. I am 32 and got married when I was 21. I am glad I got divorced after 2 years and had a chance to date while I was young. You may have been better off if you had had this opportunity, as it gives you something to talk about with your final husband for years to come.

pinkhorsebird	Its like they say (who ever they are) we always want what we don't already have. The reason your still together is because you know that the grass is not greener on the other side...PHB

Caitlin B	yea probably, why don't you join a class that only you go to. like yoga or pottery or painting, something you enjoy but can do alone without straying

bigdog_0032	You must put some new things in you life. Go somewhere different, go out to eat some place you have never been. Try new things in bed. Spice up your life alittle. Things will get better. You gys sound like you are in a rut right now and need to be pulled out of it. If you love him you would not want to be single. There must be a better reason. Good luck

cocobeachzanzibar	im married for ten years and everyday i feel new

koldpl	Share thing together like dating other people.

smilesfromred	It is probably just a phase. Maybe you should do something alone like go on vacation or something like that to give you a little space for a while. That may help you get over the feelings.

party_2_hearty	yes its the 15 yr itch

missy	yes it very possible to get bored.you have to do something to spice things up.Take a stripper class make a date night....ect.keep it new thats the point.

weedsmokerinktown	its a phase. and no dont go find someone else u took vows b4 GOD and love has nothing to do with that neither does boredom yeah u will get bored just spice things up a lil and try to tell u self that u want to change the way u feel towards him we all change everyday a lil more talk with your husband let him no u r feelin down communication is the key to all relationships. but stay true to u self and your vows and u may thin being alone is kool until u r there and very lonely

aclau85	People will get bored after a while. You love to grow up- when you are still young. You are bored of being a kid You love to be single- when you are married. You are bored of getting married. You love to have no kids- but you have kids. You are really bored because they are so troublesome. Sometimes- according to your situation. You just need some space alone. Let your hubby know your situation.. But, present yourself well. :) Good luck.

bravo95165	many of us get bored with life as well...but that doesn't mean that we can just give it up...you need to find something that is you...something that gives you time for yourself and it's away from everyone else that's a part of your everyday life...find you a couple of girlfriends and start enjoying your life more...take a cruise or a trip to somewhere exotic without your other half...then that way you can get some time to decide where you want to be in life and what your next step will be...all i'm saying is don't make any decisions without giving yourself some time alone to weigh all your options...

Mrs. Nikki Sep(The One and Only)	I think its okay. You say you don't want to date, you just want some "alone time". Are you and your hubby together ALL OF THE TIME? (like me and mine are!) Maybe you guys need to take up your own hobbies for a while. Go out with friends. Find something that you really love and start doing it every week. Then, if you're having more fun and doing something different, you won't feel as bored with your husband :)

cosaxteacher	You can get bored of being married, but if you are, you screwed up somewhere. I think you might want to consider talking to your husband and seeing what you can do for each other to renew the feelings in your marriage, or to give you the alone time you need.

Jersey Boy	It is not unusual for marriage to get in a rut. It could be a phase or something more. It is okay to want time to yourself in fact this can make a relationship stronger. Speak openly to your spouse about this and seek counseling if needed. Good luck.

cziizi	let's see, being with the same person day after day, listening to the same stupid stories, laughing at the same stupid jokes. yes, it can get boring, which is why you have to work at doing new things with your spouse.

EarthAngel	yes, this is just a phase. I would suggest taking up some sort of hobby, or other interest that includes just you, and maybe some girlfriends. something out of the house so you don't feel so tied down, something that makes you feel a little free to do what you want. I mean like exploring, hiking, something to make you feel refreshed. something to make you feel new. then after some time of that, find something that the both of you would like to take up. some sort of similar interests? sometimes finding something independent of each other first and then something together can bring a renewed sense of each other and your interests. Good luck and I hope this has helped.

jymsis	you're fine. People fall in and out of love. the feeling comes and goes. The commitment is the thing. stick with it. some days the commitment was the only thing that kept us together and other days it was love love love... that's what makes life and marraige interesting. Maybe you need more time together. and, by the way, nothing wrong with wanting time alone.

Tannu	Never I love him very much

cstinkerbell6969	I met my hubby in 10th grade in highschool and we have been together 22 years now. I wouldnt say Im ever tired of being married but there are times I need some alone time- space just for me. So that part I understand. I do believe its just a phase for u. My hubby is my best friend and we do everything together- so I truly enjoy spending alot of time with him. Ive never been tired of being married or bored with it. But do need my own time every so often! Thinnk things thru clearly before u do anything u might be sorry for later! Good luck to u

malroymck	Why don't you take a break. It is easy to get bored with one another. Try and think of doing sometthing that adds spice to the marriage, like buhji jumping in the nude

hotmama1	Yes, its a form of mid-life crisis. I suggest you and hubby sit down and talk about this. You have too many years together to throw it away on midlife crisis. Change your lifestyle up, go out together more, do things you never have together, it'll bring the spice back, I promise....GL;)

aspenkdp2003	Hi Boredcrazy, I do know how and what you feel... I have been with my husband also 14 years and I love him dearly, wouldn't trade him for the world, I don't want to be single and making it on my own and I don't want to get back into dating... I am too old for all that and too set in my ways... But I did read others answers before I decided to respond and for the most part, the others are right... Divorce is not the answer, nor is dating... The single life is not what you had in mind... I don't know what my own problem is... Although, I am disabled and been out of work 4 years now, I don't have a hobby per se... I too must be bored like you... I play on my computer way too much I know... My thoughts are often those of wanting some kind of excitement in my life, like a vacation... We haven't had a real vacation since 1998... That's too long... I don't mean just time off from work and stay home bored... No, I mean a real vacation, where you plan it out and look forward to it and buy new clothes to travel in and buy film for the camera and get the maps out and the suitcase and start packing... Yes!!! That's my solution even as I type to you... I need a vacation and so do you... If your husband and you have some time off from work coming up, please oh please plan a vacation somewhere, it doesn't have to be far, a national park, a theme park, a hotel with shopping and restaurants and new places you have never been before... A whole new town, city or state... Think of what might be near by you and plan a real live vacation even if just a few days... Get away from the same old scene at home, the dirty dishes, the bills, the messy bed, the dirty clothes... Just get away from the same old stuff and plan an outing where you both will have some fun, maybe swimming or picnicing or a retreat somewhere... Just do it!!!

timestamps	yep-ers, now go and start something new