Can you trust your spouse after they cheat?

Jodsta	Have a think would she stick by your side if you did it??? If it's a no, well i don't think that you should forgive/trust her for cheating on you. If she really did love you it wouldn't of crossed her mind in the first place.

S K	I don't trust mine.

lastmanstanding	I would have to say it depends on the person. It has been 2 1/2 yrs and, my wife still don't trust me. I didn't sleep with anyone, just meet someone, and became friends, but i haven't given up just yet.

X_YELLOWJACKET_X	How was your relationship prior to cheating? Did the one who cheated cheat with an old flame or a close friend? If the cheating was done with an old flame or close friend, I would have a hard time trusting them and count my losses and go on about my business. If it was a fling due to a midlife crisis or out of anger toward the other person , then maybe you could make some changes and iron out your differences. maybe it's worth it, maybe not.

ARLENE H	Sometimes yes sometimes no. Cheating quite often just isn't an affair but the beginning of another relationship. You will never know if that other person is lingering out their with hopes of their own. Often times encouraged by secret meetings.

milton1007	its really how you feel about this person not what others think but if your asking once someone breaks my trust their HISTORY!

sammi	k, so that would be really hard to trust ur spouse after he cheats..

c_my_blueeyes	I hear some people do. However, once they have cheated they will continue to hunt for something different. Just think about how many people you know that have gone thru what you are speaking of and their relationship became stronger??? Few to none, right?

stealth1	Depends on how important honesty is for you, I would say NO.

pandora the cat	Um...NO.

Sunflower	No. It will take time and considerable time watching them which is what the cheater does not understand. They feel as if once it is out the bag and they say that they are sorry that it is then over with and trust is back again. Not so fast or easy. Best of luck

ARCHANGEL	NEVER the element of trust is broken

MoonDoggie	Nope. It gets easier after the first time.

acampion2000	no, definatly. they may say they wont do it again, but if they've done it once, they'll do it again. if you are in that position, leave your spouse, NOW

conniechung	I guess it would depend on the situation, I mean was I neglecting his needs, or did he just flat out cheat? and how stable is the relationship? I personally COULD forgive, it would take time, but i could overcome it, my faith is that strong. Besides, we are ALL human, we make mistakes, forgive and forget....

â™¥R.I.P MICHAEL JACKSONâ™¥	in some cases you can but it takes alot of making up to do.

kmputman	It all depends on your relationship and previous trust in them as well as your relationship history. If adultery has never been an issue, then this is a new issue for you to deal with. I would suggest being completely honest, having time alone, and even seeing a relationship therapist.

cc	I think it depends on if its a one time thing or if it is somthing they do alot. I think I would forgive him but not trust him

ladycindy1701	no if they done it once they will do it again

just browsin	No

Erin*	It would be hard to. You don't know if they would do it again. You should find out why they cheated, see if it sprouted from another problem. Then work to solve that problem. You decide if it's worth it.

xstraight_edge_emo_kidx	no, once a cheater, always a cheater. if they have the guts to do it once, why would they not do it twice. cheating is wrong!!!

juztnutz	No way. If they did it once they will do it again, and the first time is always the hardest

tenstrike	can u trust ur psouse before they cheat?

casinodog	no way

aj	no

jordan_C	Common everybody deserves a second chance. :-)

some chick	I couldn't. I tried.

Chickybabe	In some cases yes....just will take sometime and a lot of honesty_

A	NO.